5 Things Men Need…

[harenterberge]

6. Do not use him as an emotional punchball.
7. Don't let him guess. If you want or need something: say it. If there is something wrong: say it. If you need some space: say it.
8. Very much related to 7. : Don't give the silent treatment.
9. Don't belittle or humiliate him in front of others. This is a very strange habit of many women to talk badly about their man in public when he is there. As if they are afraid he will get arrogant, or realise his market value, otherwise. In reality they are sabotaging the relationship.

Edit: originally i only wrote "humiliate" but "belittle" is often the better description of what women do.

[bobversheckvoiceover-drift]

A long time ago, the doorbell rang, I answered and a dozen roses were delivered out of the blue. I called out to my wife, "Hon, someone sent you flowers!?" She put on a confused look, and told me to read the card. They were for me, from her! That was about fifty years ago, folks. She's passed, but that memory is still fresh in my mind. Take the message to heart!

[Mommy_Paladin]

Sarah I've been following you to support the men, but I also started applying your techniques to my marriage, which was already fine, but they have totally transformed me. I am the happiest in my marriage than I've ever been because I've been on a mission to meet his needs!! Thank you!

[mwaynem]

I've been married for 40 years to the same woman she is an absolutely wonderful woman, mother and grandmother. I work hard to thank her everyday for the things that she does. The only flaw that she has is that she rarely thanks me for the everyday things. She will thank me for big jobs like building a deck or remodeling a room. She is a stay at home mom and I think her for doing the laundry and for making dinner and lots of other things that she does. Not that she has to I often help out with those jobs. But she has never thanked me when I deposit our paycheck for my hard work. Not once. I have no intention of leaving her because of that I just point out to remember to recognize and be thankful for the everyday effort your partner brings to the relationship is very important.

[shaundarogers]

My husband works outside, so I bought him one of those heated coats, he absolutely loves it!! I did not realize that women did not buy their husbands anything, I have always bought my husband the things he will not buy himself because he deserves it. Wow just wow. On his birthday this year I am going to buy him a rock tumbler because he keeps saying I would like to have one of those but I know he will not buy it for himself

[mygodisthemoon]

#2 is why I randomly bake things for my boyfriend, his dad and bro. Dunno why but it's cute and hilarious watching grown men get stupidly happy over something as simple as some cookies or cake.

[sofakinggood]

I played this about 30 times today. I really liked it and needed to hear this. I get none of these things in my 16 year marriage. I'm hurting real bad inside.

[servantofthemosthigh]

A look and taking him to the bedroom isn't enough!
Not with my For some reason my husband is more complicated and more high maintenance then that!

that's all it took when I was younger, wear something cute and smile, with that come get me look in my blame porn. It stimulates in all the wrong ways, and I can never live up to that fake drawn standard 😕

[captaindcox]

I don't remember the last time that I felt spoiled in a relationship!!!

[Vika]

Got my husband red roses and sushi for dinner today. He felt like a spoiled “wife”, he said, with a smile on his face 🥰

[GeorgeLoughlin]

You have no idea the truth of this. Literally has me in tears.

[Larrymh]

This one hurt! I never heard my Mom say she loved my Dad until they were closing the casket.

[Tomc]

I’m on this earth 50 years now, was married for 20 years…I have NEVER received any kind of gift unless it was a birthday or Father’s Day. And now that I’m divorced and the ex told my boys lies about me, I don’t even get those anymore.

[ast]

My late wife did all of these things. Miss her

[nunyabidness]

I was on the verge of reviving a relationship with an ex. She asked if I wanted kids (I do) which led me to believe she was serious about the relationship. She then proceeded to share details of one of our intimate conversations with a relative I am also good friends with. It all made its way back to me and when I asked she admitted she had indeed shared it with her 'since they are such good friends'. There was no other resson for her to do so than just to gossip. I came to realize I could not say anything to her I would not say to our mutual friend and who knows whom else. To me it is disrespectful and a betrayal of my privacy and trust. I ended contact with both of them. So yes..have some respect for my privacy as I do for yours. I would never share intimate details of our personal moments with others.

[johnkoval]

What a man appreciates most is not being bitched at.

[ubiquitousatman]

It actually makes me sad these basic things are considered extra by a man’s wife let alone his girlfriend. The only exception is the love of a daughter, and even that can be taken away from you. We are only missed after death. Most of the time it’s not because of love, but simply because we can no longer provide. Being a man is the loneliest existence on this planet. The older I get, the easier it is to accept this fate, but it still stings

[jameshendricks]

I don't worry so much about feeling spoiled in the sense of a gift other than Father's Day and my birthday. I come home every night and my dinner's already ready. If it's not, it's because either I got home first or she wants to go out. Before her and I hit together, I was a convenience store junkie. My wife and I have been together 20 years and she is the greatest woman I know.

[Liberty]

Very accurate. I'm not looking for adoration and I'm only saying this here because of the anonymity. I would never say this to my wife. But really try to appreciate a good man. I work very long hours at a very high stress, difficult job. Last year, I left a very comfortable career of almost 20 years for a chance to make more money. I hate it but it pays so much more. Every night I wish that I could quit. I can't stand the thought of disappointing my family after finally starting to get our heads above water

[AussieChad]

Number four is more about the fact that if she doesn't initiate, it starts to seem like she is merely doing us a favour or that we are just another chore she has to get done.