5 Things Men Should Never Settle For From Women

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[williamt]

The biggest thing for me is peace. Settling our disagreements in a calm respectful manner.

[ajtaylor]

A lack of kindness is something I'll NEVER except from a woman ever. It's one of my non-negotiables because dealing with a woman who is not kind or sweet will make for a truly miserable relationship because there's nothing more attractive that a nice, kind, and feminine woman.

[lawrence]

Summary:

1) Inconsistency (lack of emotional maturity)
2) No intimacy (intellectual, spiritual, emotional, physical, etc.)
3) One-sided dynamic (e.g. one person is not putting in as much effort as the other)
4) Lack of communication
5) Mistreatment, manipulation, abuse (this is a big one because it's not acceptable in any shape or form)

I am not sure what more can be added to the list. Sacrifices have to be made from time to time, but do not blindly make them just to make/stay in a relationship. If you are not comfortable with making a personal sacrifice, then communicate that to see if there are reasonable alternatives. Only you can decide whether to stretch the cord or cut it.

[alexchacon]

So glad you're shedding light on the kind of abuse men experience that I'm sadly not surprised to hear goes underreported. Thanks for everything you do, Courtney!

[Chambers_]

My brother spent an awfully long time in an emotionally abusive relationship. She told him that he wasn't allowed to discuss any of their relationship troubles with his family (making him completely isolated), whereas she was immediately on the phone to one of her sisters after they had an argument. It absolutely broke my heart when he finally spoke to me about the issues, and how alone and unsupported he felt. He actually felt he was bound by her demands in that regard. To this day, she's still an incredibly manipulative person.

To any men out there in a similar position, be mindful of your emotional wellbeing in a relationship. Never let anyone make you feel isolated, or like you're not allowed to talk to someone else about your troubles.

[RoscoeRed]

My ex (break up was 2 months ago) exhibited the first 4 of these 5 points. Which is why I left. Love coming across videos like this because it just reassures me I made the right choice. Absolutely broke my heart to leave because I still care about her, but the lack of effort, accountability, and self awareness was just too much to bare anymore. Also add in a drinking problem that she denies having, even tho everyone can see it, even her parents. I wish her the best, but only she can realize she needs to change one day, she’s not ready to hear it from anyone else yet. Time to move on and find someone who is ready for what I’m ready for 🙌

[TSierra]

Emotional maturity is big for me. Obviously NO ONE wants to be with someone who is emotionally immature. How we handle situations or disagreements, I want it to be peaceful and mature.

[kyleflournoy]

The equal effort part is so important. There will be times when one partner has more on their plate or is more busy or is more limited in their capabilities. But as long as the effort is mutual and each side is trying their earnest best, that goes a long way toward getting over any hard times together

[MrBluerd]

My big thing is dealing with any emotional abuse. Ive had women belittles me over not having enough dating experience and say, "you aren't man enough" to be with me. Being on the receiving of that abuse has made me feel worthless to women for a good portion of my adult life and I'm fiercely protective of myself because of it.

[SouthernWisdom]

One thing that caused my most recent breakup was a lack of trust. I’d literally given her zero reason to mistrust me (I’d always been faithful, and always been open and honest with her), but yet she made up in her head somehow that I was lying to her or keeping things from her. We loved each other, but without trust there can be no relationship.

[jtfritz]

Courtney calls out the mainstream media in the last point. I love it

[theaspiecoach]

I’m 35, top 3 percent earner, and I have listened to Courtney for a long time. I don’t agree with it all but I have worked hard to improve myself. Now, I have my life together, and met a young lady. Let me say how ANGRY these mid thirties women are who have more bodies than a Vietnam veteran.

[Harikejn]

Important things as well: 0:33 First thing - Inconsistency; 3:18 Second thing - No Intimacy; 5:27 Third thing - One - Sided Dynamic; 6:46 Fourth thing - Lack Of Communication; 8:44 Fifth thing - Mistreatment And Manipulation; and 10:06 to summarize all what has been told as well.
Well on the first thing mentioned, this hot/cold games, I would rather call it yes / no games. For example: A guy tells a girl that he is interested in dating one girl. The girl tells the guy that she is not interested in him. After a week she decides to go on dating with him, and next week, she decides not to go on date with him, and goes around, and around. That can be seen for either men, and women as well.
I might add that the sixth thing as well, and that is Showing The Toxicity. That can be done by either men, and either women as well. Sad, but it's true.
But all told here can be used in some other life situations, as well. They can be used in friendships, and in jobs for example. Also on the job, or school, or faculties if there are these things common, then that can be treated as things such as: peer violence in primary and secondary school, and mobbing on either faculty or college (call it whatever you want), and mobbing on job or on working place (call it whatever you want).
The deeds are very crucial, cause they will tell more than words.
We in the Balkan say this: "Kakav na jelu, takav na delu." Translation would be like this: "The way how the person eats the meal, is the way how person show the deeds." Meaning (reading between the lines): "Watch the persons action (let's call it that way), and deeds. Words without the action are nothing."

[josephstevens]

I do not tolerate mind games. When I encounter a person who engages in such, I walk away.

[admiraleveleigh]

One of my biggest issues with dating is when I finally do get someone to go out with me I get so excited that I forget to actually consider whether I really like them. I use dating apps, so I can’t truly get to know someone before going out with them

[ConTrellTV]

to people with a more balanced take on relationships and you’re one of them. I got out of a toxic relationship some years ago and I’ve been single ever since. I’ve learned a lot by watching your content and many others. I’m definitely a better man because of it. I feel much more prepared to be in a healthy relationship when I decide to take that step again! Thank you!

[MrCamkicks]

Courtney’s upload consistency is crazy. Always a different topic every video too, impressive.

[wraith]

Everything you said about intimacy is why my narriage of 24 years is about to end. We function more as roommates than husband and wife.

[rahulan]

1. Peace
2. Loyalty
3. Honesty
4. Trust.

[Tim_G_Bennett]

Great list, just want to add that guilt tripping is a form of abuse.