I'm Worried About My Boyfriend's Lack Of Ambition

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[helshabini]

“I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Michael Jordan

[valritajones]

I am 54 years old and what I will say to you is this, love doesn't pay the bills or put food on the table.

[christanom]

I remember this one guy in church I dated, he was 30 living at his mom's house. He had nothing but when he spoke he sounded very ambitious like someone with big goals in life. He was making $100 a month. After about a month or so I saw serious red flags; he said he was too good to work a regular job because he was an entrepreneur at heart. When I asked him what was the plan to get started with business he said he was praying and God would do it for him. He also believed he was too smart to go to school, learn a skill, attend a seminar, SOMETHING... 5 years later he still living with his mom praying and fasting for God to come down and do the work for him. Thank God I walked away back then

[hannahalexie]

I dated a guy who made about the same and honestly I might have been ok with it if he had drive, but he didn’t. All he did was complain about his job and do nothing to change it. I’m not attracted to lack of ambition, especially when I’m working to better myself.

[omarsanchez]

Nothing wrong with a woman looking for a hardworking man 🤷🏻‍♂️

[oliden]

This relationship will not work. The dating should be the sweetest time but already she is worried.

[zewkee]

She is not a snob at all. She is rightfully worried because she wants a better future but she's seeing a hamster wheel situation

[carenalex]

I have been through that... I promise you will not have respect for him and eventually will repulsed by his lack of motivation .... I’m sorry 😐

[Punkydoodle]

I think she already knows the answer to her question. Otherwise she wouldn't have called.

[qnator]

I'm a guy on the other side of this relationship. My (ex)girlfriend just broke up with me and it's opened my eyes to how little motivation I've had and why I need more. So I'm changing my ways to better align with my faith and expectations of what someone needs in life. It hurts, but we press on and become better.

[mn]

I had to tell a guy I’m not interested because he lacks ambition and no job. At first I felt bad for telling him the bitter truth and now i feel free and proud of myself.

[ShockinglyBleh]

First red flag is that engagement is on the table after 7 months, Second red flag is that he is in over 70 grand in debt, 60 of which is student debt when he is only making 30 grand a year. What did he get a degree in that cost 60 grand that pays 30 a year?

[charlheynike]

I think people should be yoked equally. If she hustles and he doesn't, then there's an unbalance.

[kelliazzam]

I needed this one. I'm an extremely ambitious individual who generally dates people who aren't as ambitious. It drives me nutty when I'm in relationships with these people and now I understand why. I really needed to hear that it's okay to not be okay with someone that isn't living up to their potential. I often have fallen in love with someone's potential and not their current self. Thank you all for helping me see that I'm not a snob for wanting more.

[DarinPirkey]

The dollar amount doesn't matter. If you have $30k annual income with no debt that's way different than having $30k annual income and $65k in debt.

[Sabgom]

If you need to call Dave Ramsey about your relaionship uncertainty then you need to break up.

[anubialose]

Thank you Dave, I had a lazy boyfriend who didn’t want to work and just live on disability - and everytime I advise him to work he always get angry at me.

[boredbeingbored]

I dont think this lady is a snob at all and I can relate to her concerns...

[kmtaylor]

Lord, I was in this situation, girl walk away...I was even constantly encouraging him, but at the end of the day, you can’t change someone overnight.

[talawoods]

A woman should never even consider marrying a man without a vision. The fact that he's "ok" with debt says he isn't envisioning a better more comfortable future because debt ESPECIALLY student loan debt is a ball & chain. Where there is no vision the people perish.