Love Addiction Comes from Attachment Injuries

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Alan Robarge, LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor,
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Love Addiction Comes from Attachment Injuries

In this video, I talk about the distinction between love addiction and attachment trauma.

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Love Addiction Comes from Attachment Injuries

[AlanRobargeHealingTrauma]

Hello Subscribers:

Thank you for checking out my videos and posting such thoughtful comments. It's inspiring to read your self-reflections and insights. I love how we grow from each other's sharing.

One thing I have learned after years of reading comments is that we are not alone. Many of us have the same experiences when it comes to relationships. We are all trying to make sense of attachment trauma and learn better skills of relating.

Great job everyone - keep going and keep learning!

As I'm sure you can understand, I'm not able to respond to all the comments and questions here on YouTube. I know this can be disappointing sometimes. Please forgive me. It is challenging to find the time for the careful consideration that is needed in order to respond to your heartfelt reflections. Even so, your vulnerability shines through.

I know behind each comment is a real person with real feelings who's hurting or who’s reporting a triumph. I know you are doing the best you can while trying to make sense of life’s suffering. We are all grappling with what it means to be human. I’m sorry that I’m not always able to respond to your comments directly.

That being said, I'm sharing this post to offer you a few resources in an attempt for us to stay connected. Keep in mind that I do read most comments here on YouTube. Your words are received. I review comments daily, which serves as a way to organize content for future videos.


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Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure in our relationships. This is why I created the course The Four Attachment Distress Responses.

Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.

The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which is how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again, while also attempting to get our attachment needs met.

While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting. You’re invited to take the quiz to learn more about your Response.


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I created an 8-week program and membership community based on the guiding principle of Self-Directed Healing Work #selfhealers that I want to share with you. The community is called Improve Your Relationships. The focus is about healing attachment injuries in the context of relationship repair in all areas of our lives.

When we look at the big picture of how attachment injuries and attachment trauma occurred in our lives, we are able to begin seeing our relationship choices from a whole new perspective. We gain access to inner resources that shift how we relate and respond to old hurts. It's a process. It's layered. It requires commitment. This is what the community is all about - committing to your healing work.

You are invited to join us. The community members are kind and supportive. We are an established group. The feedback and testimonials have been overwhelmingly positive.


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Thank you for being a channel subscriber and watching my videos.

And remember, we invest in our healing work because “Emotional Connections Matter!”

Best regards,


Alan Robarge
Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist

[eva-janemiddleton]

My brother, sister and myself all married people that ignored us and did their own thing selfishly. Lack of affection was a deep core in all cases. Co-dependency was created in our family as our mother was a covert narcissist. Your videos and ross rosenbergs work have got me to where I am at.

[MaireTreasa]

My therapist loves you and encouraged me to visit your channel. I'm hooked. I've just completed your 8 part series on being stuck in a relationship and now I'm going back to the very beginning and plan to watch all of your videos. Nearly everything you say is relevant to me and the way I handle my life and relationships. Thank you for this large cache of videos. I'm more grateful than I can express. They're so helpful! You're making a difference.

[tedjohns]

Wow. Thank you. You've enlightened me regarding my love addiction. I've been looking for the face of a loving God in my relationships, but I keep picking abusive people, who seem loving in the beginning. Trying to identify the attachment trauma of my childhood, again, on a deeper level. I know my life and the mess of it all is my responsibility. I'm looking forward to your other videos. This was the first. Bless you.

[raquelr.]

My fiancé just left last night to stay in a hotel for a couple of days. Pretty sure that the relationship will end. This channel has been a place of refuge.

[natisb]

Thank you. I've just restarted counseling for a number of traumas I have undergone from childhood through to adulthood. This is an element that I kind of knew was present in me but didn't have the terminology to articulate and explore it in more depth until about a week ago. I've been searching for something to help me navigate the difficult journey that is ahead of me. This seems like a hopeful avenue

[B_i_R_D__M_a_N]

Thanks for this, Mr Robarge. I’m a substance abuser, have been since I was 13, currently stuck on opiates. I’m reading ‘Addiction As An Attachment Disorder’ and that’s kind of what lead me here. It’s interesting that attachment injuries could be responsible for all addictions, it’s often our downfall when we attempt to simplify addiction, but I’m finding this angle to be promising all the same.

[sudhakarkkapoor]

Most wonderful insight ever to the issue.I am absolutely fascinated by such spot on assessment of the core issues.well done Sir.This is god send .

[huongdo]

Thank you so much Alan! This is very informative and helpful!

[gerrybrownlee]

Thank you great presentation Thank you, I am going through inner healing online
listening reading multiple sources, You deserve more views 👏 .

[drmtokes]

these videos are amazing! Have you thought of doing any on how to parent your own kids when you still have your own unhealed attachment injuries?

[sacmakiz]

Amazing channel! Why did I see it earlier? Thank you for your ongoing videos.

[rrr-kvqy]

I'm not sure if others might have this question.. but as I watch your videos this comes up for me.. all those issues may be derived from initial attachment i.e. parents, where does the line get drawn in taking care of yourself, healing your self, and allowing your current new relationship to stay in place, in other words at what point do you determine that a partner is not the right partner.. and that it would not just be up to you to fix yourself.. when is a partner the wrong partner?

[FaithFashionFinances]

I had no attachment to any caregiver, which explains my struggle to have consistent healthy relationships

[lolipopPrincess]

This was perfect and exactly what i'm dealing with,

[elizabethdiamond]

I am 68 now, and I don't think I have ever truly loved anyone, except friends. All my relationships were characterised by intense obsession on my part and were deeply painful, with men who were never really there for me emotionally and were often abusive. Except one, but I let him get away because he didn't 'fit' the familiar pattern. . . This makes me feel very sad as it is too late for me now to have a healthy truly loving relationship.

[karinturkington]

I would really like to study/learn what you have learned. You're very insightful and different from any other You Tube coach that I have listened to.

[keemi]

I have a question regarding abandonment/desertion/being ignored in adult life, I feel like there isn't a lot of information available out there specifically in regards to adult abandonment. What are the effects of repeat and invalidating in a marriage? I have been abandoned by my partner about 10-12 times in the span of a 7 year marriage. We live in diff countries and the process of immigration has been slow. When my partner feels overwhelmed they completely shut down and they are unreachable for months-no contact for months. This has been very hard to accept and process and I am struggling a lot with low self esteem and anxiety.

[nicholasnativi]

I found a “facing love addiction” book in my house, what does this mean?

[snailcat]

Can you be emotionally detached(not being able to feel attachment) and have love addiction?