Signs a Man is on the Down Low (DL)

Spotting the DL Signs: How to Tell If He's Living a Secret Life

[clivematthews]

I remember when I was younger, my uncle would accuse me of being gay simply because I would sometimes, unknowingly, hold up my wrist limply while thinking. That man was super focused on that, I started being paranoid and making sure I never had my wrist like that, even though it wasn’t a big deal. That made me sympathize with gays because, I eventually snapped out of fearing that I was potentially gay, but I realized that those who *are* gay have it very hard and are easily targeted.

The funny thing is, I never once saw my uncle with a woman, even when all of us in the family knew the woman that liked him, he would always hide from her, or tell us to tell her he ain’t at home whenever she would knock at the door. It started dawning on me, as I got older, that he was a closeted homosexual. He always liked to comment on my appearance, or always talk about male action movie stars. I don’t have a problem with gay men, but I don’t like men with internalized homophobia

[ms.wonderful]

I dated a guy a few years back who gave me dl vibes i got out so fast I'd rather stay single i love my peace of mind and great health

[CallMeStedman]

@3:51 the eye roll & the body language you showed when you said, “you little freaks out there” was priceless. 😂

[JzanellJ]

Y does my ex fit all 5 of these signs?!!! Another sign he displayed is having several BM’s and almost 50 & never settled down & spent a long time in prison. Glad I’m out of that mess😮

[Anonymous-cles]

I think ive been with several men who are on the dl. Especially the ex. He wanted a nal and he was always staying out late at night with his friends, one who happened to come out as bisexual a couple years. My mom always said she thought my dad may have been dl. She said he was always hanging out with gay guys.

[zengreen]

1. A SPOTLESS home
2.Owns a cat
3.Wears RED under wear.
3.Shiny lips (lip glosss).
4.Giggles.
5.Gossips about his friends.
6.Likes sweet alcoholic drinks.
7.Cooks VERY well. Watch out for Chefs.
8.Wear ANYTHING pink
9.Likes ice cream or cookies.
10. Owns a Play station or X box.

[Twister_numba]

The more I hear the more I just realized I'm better off single I just don't. It's just too crazy out here these days.

It's one thing for us to worry about competing with other women;now we got to compete with women and men for our men and it's just too

[MentalWellnessWithWaihiga]

I'm terrified of dating because of this. I can't date again because of this. All my ex's have been EL and this is in AFRICA guys...like I'm traumatized

[tonywalker]

I find it odd women often single out Atlanta as the gay BLK capital. Yet 99% of gay dudes who are here came from ALL over the country to live here. Read that again.

[ceceliaatf]

Just a thought, but do yall think it because men are easier?? As women we come with sooo many rules and regulations for sex. I see men being gay because it’s easier to get, if 2 gay men want the same thing, why would a dl man wait months on end for a woman?? I’m not making excuses. It’s disgusting. Just a thought. I want nothing from a GAY man.

[pfrance]

If he is always point out men that he thinks is gay.. big sign!

[deet]

Helena is beutiful sooo the man on the dl has nothing to do with how attractive their partner is.

[iamtaliba.divine.love]

I am very saddened because as A Woman, We have contributed to this tragedy.

Many of Us made these dls Dads. 😭😭😭

[tynaangelici]

I was seeing a guy that admitted to having encounters with men but said he wasn’t turned on by men and said he wasn’t attracted to men. What??

[BrandyTexas]

So sad.. I’m married with kids, everything you said is accurate.. every single one of

[LexDiamond]

Certain cities I would not look to date Atlanta and DC are on the top. Really every guy I meet today I look over with a fine tooth comb. You never can be too careful. Meet his friends or take him around a gay friend or family member they will tell you.

[mariahg]

The guy I was talking to liked pictures of a gay guy on Instagram where the gay guy was suggestive … he didn’t like the regular pictures from the guy profile only the suggestive ones

[patrickclayton]

Here's a sign, if he always want to try to start fights with gay men or men just coming out. I learned that in high school. Smh.

[kevinmcalpine]

You are a beautiful woman and you deserve a heterosexual man who will love you. That is why when I was younger I just decided I had to be honest and live in my truth and fuck what people think. My family and friends still love me and I decided not to deceive a woman when I knew the truth about myself. I know so many men that does that shit and live a lie their whole damn life. Don't worry cause what you do in the dark will come to the

[Goldenerame]

Watch out if he's a narc too. Stay away from narcs regardless, but they're low key dL as well and they got mommy and daddy issues.