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[insideAdirtyMind]

"cold and distant" during custody switch? This is called "emotions after cheating" Lady.

[owl]

Lol imagine cheating on your partner and hurting them in one of the worst ways possible, then having the _audacity_ to go "You know, I'm getting sick of your crap 😠" when they're cold to you as if you're not the sole reason they're acting like that towards you. She made her bed, she can lie in it and doesn't get to complain it's too cold ☕

[singaporesammy]

2nd story - "My inlaws calling me an a-hole for taking my FIL's recovery lightly and refusing to do as suggested."
False premise. It wasn't a suggestion, it was a demand. FIL has no power to make demands.

[KimPossibleShockwave]

#1: She wanted back in and was trying to get her foot in the door. He's going "lolnope". She's

[mr.willie]

Her guilty of cheating is getting to her and she is mad because he will not be her doormat

[melanellie_art]

12:21 “Making the whole wedding about me” how dare OP make their own wedding about them. How entitled 🤦‍♀️🤣 NTA

[jessiejeanne]

His recovery is exactly that... *HIS recovery.* It would be like me, an opiate addict in recovery, getting into an accident and demanding the entire hospital get rid of all the opiates before I arrive. He's gotta learn that his recovery doesn't dictate other people's choices (though it is nice when people do make concessions, but it shouldn't be because someone's demanding it. ).

[BIGEAGLEDUDE]

First story she's not happy now and quite frankly it's only going to get worse. You need to prepare yourself for future accusations of abuse from her and for her to potentially use your daughter as a weapon against you. She's mad that you're not giving her a second chance and that you don't want to go back to the way that was before you found out about her infidelity. In addition I also get the feeling she's sick and tired of her living situation and the fact that you don't want to see her face. And the fact that you either secretly was recording her or she knew that you were recording her I get the feeling that she is one of those people that is only going to get worse throughout time. You need to tell her if this doesn't stop and you don't get into therapy then I will go for full custody of the child. This is a woman who has a firm belief that if you won't go back to the way it was before you found out about my selfishness that destroyed our marriage and family then I am prepared to basically make your life a living hell to the point where I could drain your funds. And turn our daughter against you when she's older. You're not in the wrong but you need to prepare yourself for when that happens. Either that or she's going to go down that road of if I can't have you nobody can especially our daughter. You're not in the wrong but you need to prepare yourself you were very generous with the 50/50 custody you need to be prepared for her going for full custody and making any and all accusations to where it can get you fired from your job and for you to lose custody of your daughter. The one thing women who commits adultery hate more than anything else is when the man doesn't take them back and the man is being fair to them or has a backbone

[hothotheat]

She is clearly engineering meetings with you to wear you down. She wants back in and is pissed that you aren’t falling for it. Never see her for a drop off again. Get a court order and have an official handle the drop offs.

[QueenIrene]

People always want to go therapy after they cheat 🙄

[Confession]

First story, yeah, I would have DEFINITELY told her that hating her was NOT the same as hating her daughter. SHE'S being manipulative and an idiot. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[stupidhat]

I am a recovering alcoholic and it would never occur to me to ask someone to change their event to accommodate me.
It's up to me to decide if I can deal with the presence of alcohol and to look after myself.
The father sounds like stopping drinking didn't effect his A'hole status, he seems to come by that naturally lol.

[rochellethundercloud]

1.public places for exchange, 3rd party mediator for exchange.businesslike, only pertaining to child .easiest way.

[winsterphilipp]

Im curious, what are you manipulating her to do. She sound like she was test driving some words she learnt last week. Imagine staying with her the amount of gaslighting he would have gotten. "Get over it. It was a long time ago."

[oClock]

First Story: Nadine's the one who deserves OP's support and sympathy, definitely not her mom. Keeping things civil is to everyone's benefit, but not to those with a victim complex who want an advantage.
Second Story: If the father-in-law's lack of self control and personal accountability's gonna be a problem, he shouldn't be invited. Also, healthier boundaries would do wonders for his daughter and her relationship with OP.

[saltqueen]

Story 1: Am glad op got everything straight and all went well! However am kinda scared for his future dating life and daughter ngl. Sounds to me his ex really wants to get back together with him. It’s easy for her to manipulate her daughter against op. It’s also possible that maybe she might harass OP’s partner if he gets back on dating again. Idk OP’s ex sounds like one of those people.

[melvinmelvin]

1st story...yeah that might work for a while but the instant he dates anyone she will become a pain in the a$$. she wants him back so it doesnt matter how nice he is she will continue to be a pain.

[albertgongora]

I was thinking it would be okay for Opie's ex-wife parents should be the ones to drop off the daughter to him cuz I'm pretty sure they do understand why this happened and knowing that it's the ex-wife's fault

[leahrenea]

1st story. The OP handled the situation very well. I know a lot of people we saying no contact and stuff but you are going to be dealing with the ex for the rest of your life. The quote I love is "you have to love your child more than you hate your ex". My parents divorced when I was 3. They remained friends after. When my son was 2 his dad and I divorced due to him cheating. We sat down and discussed where to go from there and both agreed that the best thing for our son was for us to remain friends. I wanted it because I knew how good it made me feel to have parents remain friends. My ex knew what it was like to have parents who weren't able to stay friends. It wasn't easy in the beginning. I had a lot of anger but I had to put it aside for my son. The kids should always come first.

[JayeEllis]

Story 1: She is no longer entitled to your emotions, and I would tell her so.