What A Therapist Is Really Saying | Kati Morton

I asked you what things your therapist says that you don't understand, and today I decode them with the help of patient kati and therapist kati. I explain what sitting with a feeling means, what a trauma narrative is, and many more! I hope you like this style of video, and if you want me to do others like this, just let me know in those comments! xox

I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos!
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[juibelly]

I really like the style of different perspectives/dialogue you're using in this video!

[rosiedubs]

I’m a therapist and this was a great way to help reframe the language I’m using with a client immediately after I say it.

[tsubaith]

“Oh okay” - that’s literally me as a client

[oli-]

the cuts between her being the client and being the therapist are SENDING ME this video is so good tho 10/10 💀💀💀

[sometimesaranda]

“Oh okay” “okay sounds good” is literally my contribution whenever I hear stuff like that haha this was great, please do more parts to this

[cd]

I am an extremely literal thinker. So when my therapists have said sit with a feeling I picture sitting with an actual emotion next to me.

[BigGrabowski]

My therapist never said any of these things. She'd just continually ask "how does that make you feel", while never offering a mode of moving forward, past mood journals. Maybe she was just more reflection-based, but as a child with anxiety and c-ptsd, I needed a therapist with tools for molding my traumas into past events, not making me stew in them for years.

[meriahcalvert]

"Sit with that feeling" is probably my therapists favorite thing to say to me. 😂 My therapist is out of the office last week and this week, and I've had some huge life things happening. I'm so happy I have some videos that will help me make it through till she's back. (My therapist also references Inside Out a lot) Thanks Kati! ❤

[miriamnpurple]

Part 2 please!!! I want to know about the phrase "why is it so important for you to have an answer?" Or the "why is it so important for you to put a name on it?"

[TheHuber]

40 seconds in and I’m loving this already. Love the client view as well. This is going to be so helpful for people. Thanks so much Kati. I love how you make such relatable and retainable content.

[_just_TK]

THERAPIST: “You need to speak more kindly to yourself”
ME: “I don’t understand this concept” 🤷‍♀️

::Therapist scribbles on notepad:: “Uses self-depreciating humor as a coping mechanism....or is an idiot”

[TheWriterOnFire]

I love the facial expressions of the "patient." Just saying "yeah... uh okay sounds gpod..." I have done that more times than I can count

[God-AllahLovesIsrael]

This is a great idea for a mini-series. Let's go for part 2, 3...

[ItsBritt]

I work in an eating disorder treatment facility and we use this language all the time lol
It's helpful to be reminded that most people don't know these terms/phrases

[xzonia]

The back and forth in this video made it easy to understand what you're discussing, and your facial expressions as the patient were adorable! X) I'd love more videos like this. :)

[QueenOfHearts]

Definitely a part 2 and beyond please! Its interesting getting to understand the other side better.

[tia]

Sit with that feeling --> examine that feeling
Feeling anger in your body --> recognizing our physical reactions to anger
Dysregulated --> to have emotional outbursts
Trauma narrative --> Trauma experience/story
Holding space for you --> Available for support
Emotional charge --> Emotional upset
Thought or belief? --> Passing thought or true belief?

This was my takeaway.
Love the bloopers at the ends of your videos.

[suzannejanke]

“Find your inner child”. No idea what the heck that means
I have so many shattered marbles, my way of coping was forgetting certain things.

I’m seeing a great therapist right now and she really listens and makes sure I understand. 💕💕💕
You are fantastic and love that you touch on sorts of topics!

I have old friends that I have known for 30 plus years, but no new friends.. 😕😕😕😕

[BeeBeeMacGee]

I really like learning what therapists actually mean, or what they’re actually thinking, because a lot of the time, we’ll either humanize them and assume they have the same feelings similar to what our friends have expressed in our past, or we’ll jump to the worst case scenario and think ‘they’re getting rid of me because I’m hopeless, they’re only collecting a paycheck, they aren’t acknowledging any progress so what’s the point of trying, etc...’

[katieelspeth]

When I started going to therapy as a 19 year old, I didn't really feel empowered to ask for clarification, or if my therapist could rephrase her questions. She would always ask me "how does it feel to say that?" and I was like "Duh, I'm here because everything feels terrible all of the time". I thought I needed a new therapist, but when I explained the problem, she found a new way of trying to get at that information. As an adult, I'm much more comfortable asking for a different approach if something she's asking doesn't vibe with me.