REJECTING WOMEN is a SKILL: wanting is free, giving is costly

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There is an inherent asymmetry between wanting and giving: wanting is free, but giving is costly. This is why wanting is such a good interpersonal strategy, and why -- the more successful you become as a man -- the more you should expect more women to want more things from you. However, your time, energy, and money are limited quantities that cannot be doled out on request. So learning to reject women is a skill. In this episode, I discuss some of the beliefs that prevent men from doing this effectively.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[psychacks]

There is an inherent asymmetry between wanting and giving: wanting is free, but giving is costly. This is why wanting is such a good interpersonal strategy, and why -- the more successful you become as a man -- the more you should expect more women to want more things from you. However, your time, energy, and money are limited quantities that cannot be doled out on request. So learning to reject women is a skill. In this episode, I discuss some of the beliefs that prevent men from doing this effectively.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#women #psychology #relationship

[maxpower]

'Women generally don't stick around when you have nothing left to give'
Damn. That hit home hard.

[DragonNo]

Never feel guilty for rejecting a girl.

[ozymandias]

I once rejected a girl and she asked my friend if i was gay. they simply cannot fathom rejection is not a part of their lexicon. its a true story.

[chadmcmullen]

My wife regularly rejected my sexual advances. No big deal - I learned to redirect this energy in other avenues: work out, weed the garden, work in the shop, etc. But the handful of times - over a 17yr relationship - when she initiated but I wasn't feeling it? Holy shit! The browbeating, the gnashing of teeth, the incredible double-standard! Women simply cannot handle even the slightest of rejection - even after a decade of marriage.

[JJ-wiuw]

Whenever you start to feel bad for a woman, consider if she would do the same if you were in her position. 9 times out 10 your sympathy with instantly disappear.

[latt.qcd]

Being single is far better than being in a relationship with a woman you can't say no to.

[carlospita]

Even our own mothers and female family members raise us to to become simps

[robertfindley]

Regardless of whether rejecting women provides any future benefit in your romantic endeavors, it's important to keep your dignity. It's better not to have a woman than to have one that doesn't respect you. She will soon replace you. Or worse yet, to chase one that is not interested. That almost never works.

[iacangelofinancialgroup]

It took me a long time to learn this but rejections often were the best things that ever happened to me, in both business and relationships.

[wadap]

She was diplomatic. They say diplomacy is the art of telling someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip.

[jjs]

When you reject a woman she will get mad and tell all her friends you are a bad person. The last thing they want is to see their friend get with you. It's very hard to reject a woman with out her getting bent out of shape and then wanting to get back at you. I just pretend I didn't understand their advances as advances and walk away or say I have a girl I like. Be careful men.

[cb]

I am a master at rejecting women, I can do it without even opening my mouth.

[tbobtbob]

It took me decades to realize that seeing my mother so distraught over my father leaving when I was 7 was why I've stayed in relationships I didn't want to be in for YEARS after I should have left.

[daedae]

If you can't reject anyone that just means you are lacking self-respect and not placing boundaries for yourself as well. It gives people power to always get what they want from you but if you learn to reject them when necessary the power balance shifts as you are holding on to yours and they are losing theirs; you do not rise above them but are again on equal terms.

[maxavail]

All people should master the art of rejecting others. It's part of being civil.

[OliverFFM]

The easiest way to reject women without hurting their feelings is to act like a super boring nice guy towards them. Show weakness. They will lose interest in no time.

[joncarbone]

Agreed. It's much easier to reject than have to walk away years later. I know from experience.

[ChanceSanders]

As someone who has never had an issue with getting a woman, I can tell you that no matter how awesome you may be, women will become accustomed to everything you have to offer. It never ends until you reset them .

[GeoFry]

Saying "No" is an essential life skill in general. Not just telling women no, but every other person or entity that comes along with their hand out.