'Why are you so quiet?' | words from a shy introvert

why are you so quiet? why are you so shy? why don't you speak more? i've heard all of these questions and more throughout my life. when i was younger it definitely made me feel very insecure and i felt like i needed to be more outspoken and "friendly." i know i'm not alone in feeling this way which is why i wanted to make this video. to all my quiet people, the shy ones, the introverts: you are perfectly you and you don't need to change if you don't want to. if you do want to change, don't beat yourself up and have patience! anyways, let me know your experiences: are you a generally quiet person? has it ever bothered you?

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[lynnleemayorga]

Ohh she speaks!!
Me: yeah just not to you.

[Cactusmushrooms]

The worst thing is when they constantly try to change u to an extrovert.. Like please stop please your gonna kill me

[camilagnz]

Oh my god. I totally get you. I wish more people would understand that being an introvert is normal.. and be respectful

[wall.daisies]

Being an introvert is like being judged for sitting there and minding your own business.

[andriana]

I was always the quiet kid and most of my teachers didn't like it. Once a teacher told me to speak and I did but no one heard me so she told me to repeat it louder. I did and she yelled: "She can talk!!" and made the whole class clap for me. I felt so bad that I wanted to cry..

[bikashshrestha]

Growing up as introvert in extrovert society is really really tough.

[lauramolano]

the worst part of being the quiet kid in the classroom is whenever we had visitors and for some stupid reason these person start asking open questions to the whole class, such as "who is the most this or that?" an when the question "who is the most outspoken?" comes up the asshole bully answers with the name of the quiet kid and all classroom laugh reinforcing insecurities on the quiet kid about being quiet.

[drainershuttalz]

When someone ask me “why are you so quiet” then I’m done lol

[jo-ysqn]

“oh, you’re so quiet” “why are you so quiet?” are the phrases that i’ve heard the most in my life i think.
i still remember how in one class the teacher made a question and nobody could answer right, i knew the answer and i wanted to raise my hand but i just couldn’t. what i had in mind was indeed the right answer. and is dumb that i still remember this because it happened years ago.
i still am very quiet, but i (wanna) try to be more confident (?)
also, i always find myself rehearsing what i want to say, whether it be for something simple like a phone call or something more serious like a presentation

[ameenahhhh]

I relate to this so much! Especially the part about rehearsing exactly what you're going to say and being a good listener/analytical. I was extremely shy and quiet growing up and everyone said I would grow out of it, but I haven't! I'm turning 25 in a few weeks and I'm more socially anxious than ever. I try to explain to people that even though actions like introducing yourself, making a phone call, or talking to a waitress seem easy or second-nature to them, they are incredibly difficult tasks for me. I think this is why I am so drawn to art (writing, illustration, filmmaking)—it's because I can use these mediums to communicate my ideas and feelings much more effectively than I am ever able to verbally.

[nadineking]

Pure Resonance. Sadly quiet people get bullied quite often. Trying to be normal to fit in to not be judged negatively is overwhelming

[merlokiii]

I love to be an introvert, but I used to dislike it when I was a teenager. People made fun of me because I was quiet and not talking a lot. Now I don't care anymore, if I don't want to interact I just don't do it.
As you I overcame most of my shyness but I'm still shy and that's part of me :)
Thanks for the video✨

[heatherclark]

At my last job we used to have staff meetings where we all bought our own lunch along to eat during the meeting

I was a part-time receptionist and my responsibilities were to help customers with very straightforward, mundane issues.

I knew nothing about finances, administration or the future plans for the organisation.

So I had very little to say at the staff meetings and this was fair enough.

However, I was criticised for not saying anything.

On the rare occasions when I did have something to say, my comments were dismissed or ridiculed

But, if, the very next week, someone else made the exact same comment, they were treated as if it was their own wonderful idea

One day I had a really good idea about something but I knew that if I put forward that idea myself it would not be heard

So I asked one of the other head people to put forward that suggestions as if it were her own idea

Once the idea was accepted as something wonderful she told them that it was actually my idea

They didn't know what to say!

Also, it didn't matter what I took for lunch, it was either too healthy or not healthy enough or they had to make some smart comment about it

[xsinfinity]

People make me feel so uncomfortable for being an introvert, but once you find people who accept you and how you are, you realize it's normal and okay. You dont have to answer to anyone.

[getwun]

I am a 6'6 Black Male, and I have been like this since elementary School. I don't know why I am quiet I watch alot, I can scan a room and find weakness and strength within that group. I don't even talk loud or seek confrontation unless I have to be aggressive. I tend to be alone alot but not in my mind it's a party. I Love me.

[christina]

Ever since I was a teenager i used to be so introverted and i noticed this in highschool people would come to me and ask me why I'm so quite. The question hurt me like a thorn i started blaming myself for being an introvert. But by time you grow used to it . I love being me.

[whenyousmileismiletoo]

Gosh life is so hard when youre an introvert. My teacher asked me for the answer in class and its been a day but i still haven’t stopped thinking about how stupid i sounded. In my head I understand but when I speak my words are all over the place. Its makes me blush, hot and my heartbeat gets louder and louder. I hate myself! I hate how the easiest tasks are hard for me.

[yez]

I dont like how people keeps saying "why are u shy?" Like, its just my personality

[Winterfly]

Thank you for normalizing being a shy person. Especially as an adult. People either treat you as a child or try to change you.

[footofthecross]

I have been quiet my entire life, and I am 61 years old now. I would not change the way I am for anything. I am not insecure or shy. I just observe a lot and do not say anything. I also have a very rich inner life, read a lot, and prefer to keep my thoughts to myself. There is nothing wrong with that.