Loneliness, Emptiness, Anxiety in Modern Society

Loneliness, emptiness, and anxiety – these are the main complaints American existential psychologist Rollo May encountered over and over from his patients. In 1953, May published Man’s Search for Himself, in which he explores these problems – that are perhaps more relevant than ever in our modern age.

When society can no longer give us a clear picture of our values and standards, of what we are and what we ought to be, we are then thrown back on the search for ourselves. This is one of the few blessings of living in an age of anxiety. To venture causes anxiety, but not to venture is to lose oneself. To venture in the highest sense is precisely to become conscious of oneself.

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⌛ Timestamps

(0:00) Introduction
(0:47) Emptiness
(4:46) Loneliness
(8:17) Anxiety
(13:22) Rediscovering Selfhood
(24:08) Freedom
(28:12) Courage
(29:19) Death

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[FelixSkura]

Jung says “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”

[SugarTide]

“Everyone, deep in their hearts, is waiting for the end of the world to come.” - Haruki Murakami

[tonybettersalt]

I'm currently delaying gratification by keeping my ambitions a secret until I have something to show for it. "Disappearing" to minimize distractions and check my values has shown me that it's very easy to be lonely and that your companions will let you slip away. The absence of social stimulation causes an overwhelming emptiness. That emptiness can be filled with challenge and productivity. You can use the fact that it's easy to disappear to improve yourself and work towards setting yourself up for a satisfying mindset. When you reenter the social world you will know more than you did prior, and the perspective you gain will keep you from taking certain things for granted.

[aleksander]

I have experienced loneliness, emptiness, and anxiety throughout my life. Always felt like I don't fit in this world for some reason. Glad I found this channel!

[DevonExplorer]

Every time I listen to Eternalised I feel a little bit sad, a little bit comforted and a little bit wiser. Beautiful content, as always. :)

[scruffythejanitor]

I feel like losing my soul piece by piece from depression over the years. I find solace in reading books and living in my own head.

[seanwooten]

I think it is true that anxiety results from not knowing what to do, but it also comes from knowing precisely what needs to be done, yet realizing (or thinking) there is no way to do it. I would say that creates hopeless anxiety, which is greater, I think. Anyway, this video means a lot to me. Thanks so much for it.

[RiverWorksCo]

For years I thought it was a bad thing to be alone then I realized that
It is better to be lonely than to constantly look at what fault the other person finds in you day after day.

[psychosophy]

I feel your philosophy is getting more and more wholly. You seamlessly link particular concepts, key words, ideas in a very compact speech. I assume your joy is up to the moon for having your art to this level. I am proud to see this channel growing so much in numbers and the person behind it in spiritual depth.

[Yoshoggutha]

Life isn't perfect and as children we're made to see the world that way and as we get older it becomes uncomfortably clear we're all on our own. The human condition is a real asshole. It's no wonder so many people are screwed up. We have this image or definition of wanting our lives to be perfect in general as human beings and to have normalcy or some sense of it because it gives a feeling of protection and routine. The reality is that we're born and then thrown into the equivalent of a giant blender or a sea of sharks and left to eventually struggle and figure this whole mess out on our own, hopefully with friends and family to help us on the journey. The human mind has the ability to eat it's host alive very slowly and if you feed the monster and give into it, as most of us do, we end up with anxiety, depression etc. We become disassociated from ourselves and the world around us. All I can really say is I'm thankful for my therapist and my time in I.O.P and learning how to tackle this stuff on my own and having outlets like this channel to learn more. I relate very much to everything discussed here and I hope everyone else here can learn to understand that there can be hope, no matter how dark that hole is that you dug yourself into and you can get yourself out if you put in the work but only if YOU want to help yourself. Nobody else can do it for you or give you definitive answers. After dealing with this stuff for so many years, I can tell you that it really is a scenario of do or die and nobody but YOU can control it.

[giovannii]

I love when Eternalised drops a new gem of knowledge!

[thibaut]

In our society, people confuse sadness with peace.

It is not sad to be alone, it is not sad to think about our existence, it is just the most important thing to do.

[ggx]

“Whoever will be free must make himself free. Freedom is no fairy gift to fall into a man's lap. What is freedom? To have the will to be responsible for one's self.”
- Max Stirner

[jordanthornton]

"Their activism is a way of running from themselves" - excellent and appropriate observation at 22:37.

[saberbo]

I find happiness when i play games walk alone in the rain.. I dont want to be around people anymore.

[manvelavetisyanvids]

I'm so grateful for you and your channel! I'm going through a very tough "dark night of the soul" following a very difficult ayahuasca ceremony and your channel is really helping me get through it with some sense of direction and meaning! Thank you endlessly!

[mrmcdingle]

I often have thoughts on so many topics that you cover, im glad to have found someone that enjoys exploring the human psych like me. Whenever i strike a convo up on these im always met with blank stares or confusion.

[mandelabrein]

Wow, this makes me glad to be an introvert. My motivation comes from being alone therefore my boredom is cured when by myself. Matter of fact, I'm either bored or stressed around most other people, especially when there's more than 3 of us.
Aloneness = happiness 🥰

[MrKillswitch]

I am honestly fascinated how such a large part of the population lacks any personal identity hence the strong dependence on others for identity and the group labels to the point of being a cliche where it is sometimes comical while other times tragic. As for the boredom that is a problem for some common personality types that are sensory driven thus requiring a lot more stimulation than others so they have to stay busy otherwise it is back into the abyss while for others they usually have enough interests and hobbies to get by so their experiences with boredom is different.