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In today's video, Thais Gibson shares what to do if your avoidant (dismissive avoidant) ex suddenly wants you back after a breakup. Watch now to learn more about the dismissive avoidant attachment style and how they tend to deal with breakups as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:43 - Feelings Minus Fears
00:02:15 - Relationship Pillars
00:04:54 - Hyper-Independence
00:07:09 - Limerence
00:07:26 - If You’re the Loved One of a DA
00:09:07 - 7-Day Free Trial: How the DA Shows Up At the 6 Stages of a Relationship
00:10:07 - Conclusion

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[SoledadDelSol]

The avoidant in my life ONLY rekindles feelings for me when Im unavailable in any capacity. I cant entertain this.

[aaronsinspirationdaily]

DO THIS: leave, go no contact.
The end

[winterkai]

*On-off relationship
*Silent treatment
*Stonewalling
*Emotional Rollercoaster
*Saying "Let's just go with the flow"
*Easily getting overwhelmed
*Conflict Avoidance
* Feeling like you are "too much" for them
*Future faking

I think these are signs of a DA...

[harry-james-books]

Avoid avoidants. You might get your sanity back eventually, but you'll never get back the time and effort you wasted on them.

[HealingWithAndy]

The bottom line is that hurt people - hurt people. Avoidants by their very nature are hurt or damaged as you will. Then they naturally hurt other people. I am trying to heal but the damage she has left behind is unimaginable

[DanakuNakka]

Here's the thing though. You express a need. They are too busy for it until they run away. You express kindly, they ignore. You express firmly, they crumble. You're just at their mercy. That's toxic. They must openly admit they have a hard time being vulnerable. Then if a person chooses them anyway it's on them. They hide their true selves

[derekazyan]

Trust me. Don’t date these people. They string you along and aren’t supportive.

[cherylthompson]

Nothing harder than letting go of an Avoidant. They never miss you.

[Sleevecake]

I see all these avoidants saying "don't be harsh we are damaged". We understand, but we don't want to deal with it anymore. We choose us now. Get your shit together and stop hurting people, it is not ok.

[osef]

Nothing works with a DA who is not actively working on himself.
You leave because you're sick of the on/off relationship ? They feel relieved at first then they minimize the worth of the relationship like "It was not that good anyway" and finally weeks later they might find something that make them think about you and start thinking that it wasn't so bad after all, kind of miss you and might rekindle the relationship.

Rinse and repeat.

Do yourself a favor, stay away from avoidants except if they are actively working on themselves and if you truly love them but be aware of the possible consequences.

[lak]

The bottom line is, nothing can be done about or with an avoidant unless they develop awareness about their serious conflicts and actually put in the time and effort to work on it. This process usually takes years, not even just weeks or months.

Should you wait for something that may never happen or will take years? I wouldn't - and I DON'T anymore. This has been part of my own personal journey to recognize horrible behaviour and actively choose to NOT participate. Because it will stay hot and cold, or unsatisfactory, unless the underlying issues are dealt with.

Look at Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez as classic examples of messed-up people who haven't recognized or dealt with their issues and therefore keep having disastrous relationships (including getting together and breaking up TWICE).

[msrae]

Block, Blocked, Blocketh …

Today was my last day in the rollercoaster!

I am NEVER going back I wish him the best
I miss the romance, communication, empathy, vulnerability, honesty
I’ve come to far in my journey to take 100 steps back.
Thank you for all of your help, this was definitely another lesson xxx

[sharnamajor]

I gave him his distance and space, we talked about him needing that time. We also spoke about my needs and that was to see him in a weeks time after his withdrawal. The day before, I get a text saying he enjoyed his free time too much and broke up with me. Can't compromise if only one person shows up to the party😢

[michiq]

Dated one DA for 8 months. I went to another country for 2 months (he even came to visit), but when I got back he dumped me saying that we weren't on the same page. He realized he didn't really develop the feeling and/or wasn't ready for a more serious relationship because of the fear of losing his independence etc etc. I guess distance didn't work for us LoL Anyways, it was for the better: the relationship really triggered all of my deepest insecurities, fears and anxiety. I'm still trying to get my energy back. Exhausting, never dating one again tbh

[DragonFire-xidc]

I can say the content on this video seems very spot on. So much truth to what you’re saying, I can tell it’s coming both from the heart and mind. Very balanced

[solazulardiente]

7:58 “We have to normalize the discussion about needs in a relationships for them to work.” Yes, there’s hope if this happens. Time will tell. 💚

[wendydaniel]

Most of us have had unstable, dysfunctional childhood experiences. As adults we are responsible for the way we show up in relationships. They DO NOT have a healthy relationship with themselves to begin with. They are obviously not equipped for " healthy " connections with others. Stop falling into delusions of " toxic hope" fantasizing they can make good partners.. They can't be if they are unhealed... ❤

[Sifu_Black]

This is really good info. I learned years ago that if someone pulls away, the best thing to do is let them and give them the space to miss you. When I started applying this concept, I'd always get the "I miss you" texts/calls from women who were initially lukewarm about me or had ghosted me altogether. Some warmed up to me, most didn't, but I was never concerned as I know I did my part. I always use the analogy of tennis, in that once you hit the ball, you have to wait for the other person to hit it back. 🤷🏿‍♂️ 🎾

[MC_AudioGratitude]

I would add 'spiritual' as a pillar. But your analysis is amazing. I always appreciate your insight and education.

[Catscalligraphy]

I appreciate most of your videos on DA’s, but this one made it seem like entertain their never ending need for space and they will fall in love with you. I constantly showed my DA empathy, was non-judgmental, repeatedly asked about his wants and needs while he lied about his porn addiction for over a year, continuously bread crumbed me, discarded me more than once, only coming back around for validation and dopamine hits. I spoke to him about my feelings like we were in a board meeting and he was mostly defensive. I believe there’s a spectrum and some DA’s are decent where others seem to be manipulative. The decent ones are scared, but will work with you while the others drop you like you never meant anything to them. Let’s do a video about how if a DA isn’t in therapy, you should really be very hard pressed to believe space will do the trick. They will equate solitude with safety. It seems like many DA’s just wear a mask, people pleasing, not conveying their wants and needs until they finally build up resentment and discard or slow fade out for good.