Unrealistic Expectations Are Destroying The Dating Market | Ep17 | I Wish You Knew Podcast

🎙️ Tune in to a riveting episode of the "I Wish You Knew" podcast, Relationship Coach Sarah Dawn Moore and The Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith, delve deep into the labyrinth of male and female expectations within modern relationships.

This episode poses a compelling question: In today's world, dominated by social media influence and changing societal standards, what do men and women genuinely expect from each other in relationships and friendships?

Embark on an enlightening exploration of the nuanced interplay between evolving gender roles, relationship dynamics, and the impact of digital age dating.

🌟Keep an ear out for:

👉Debating whether contemporary women's expectations of men have escalated beyond reality.
👉Analyzing the effects of social media and dating apps on how men and women perceive and relate to each other.
👉Unpacking the core attributes of masculinity and how they are perceived and valued in today's society.
👉The significance of communication in understanding and aligning the expectations between genders.
👉Strategies for men to embody genuine masculinity and for women to realistically set and communicate their expectations.
👉The conversation around how economic and educational progress influences relationship expectations.
👉Sarah and Adam's insights into the evolving expectations in male-female dynamics within the framework of modern-day relationships.

This episode promises to enhance your understanding of contemporary relationship dynamics, offering thoughtful perspectives on how men and women can navigate their expectations and foster more meaningful connections.

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Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction: Unrealistic Expectations in Dating
06:00 - The Influence of Social Media and Economic Factors
12:00 - Height, Income, and Physical Attractiveness Standards
18:00 - Addressing the Paradox of Choice in Modern Dating
24:00 - Masculinity, Femininity, and Relationship Expectations
30:00 - Economic Independence vs. Relationship Dynamics
36:00 - Visual Attractiveness vs. Realistic Expectations in Dating
42:00 - Navigating Modern Relationship Challenges
48:00 - The Role of Safety and Trust in Healthy Relationships
54:00 - Conclusion: Reflecting on Improving Relationship Dynamics

[iwishyouknewpodcast]

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[MeidaandChill]

I worked my ass off for 10 years. My wife stayed home we no kids and did nothing but hang out with her friends. I did everything cooking cleaning working day and night. I would plan dates and she wasn't interested . We rarely had sex she keep changing the goal post on how I wasn't fuling her needs. It got to the point where nothing was good enough for her.I went to a counselor because she made me believe that I was the problem. When I tried having conversations and setting boundaries she accused me of being abusive and threatened separating I told her to back her bags. Enough was enough

[bezoznaught]

I dont want a model, I prefer shorter women, but it's not a deal breaker, and I want a chick whose reasonable, doesnt constantly hound me about dumb shit and isnt fat, hell I dont want a glamour girl at all, I cant stand chicks who dive head first into makeup and constantly complain about hair and nails. Is there such thing as a "normal, not insane" girl? That's what I want. I'm a 6' 3" male with a job and doesnt live at home, I'm allowed those standards

[Neoteny]

Adam explains three stats that haunt him about women's unrealistic expectations and in a nano second was met with " Yeah, what about men?" She never even sat with that for a second.

[marriagecausesdivorce]

21:51 "if she has bad behaviour, dont talk to me like that, I'm not afraid to lose you". This sounds great in theory but when you are married with kids and living in a world with a biased family court, in reality a lot of men are afraid of the consequences of walking away and divorce.

[royalslyfe]

I think this is the best episode yet.

55:51 As a man, I wish every single woman would follow Sarah’s advice here 😂

[Victor-svv]

Sarah, the pareto rule is a principle, not a study. Sarah is referring to an okcupid study. The study showed the opposite of what sarah is claiming. The majority of ugly women message men and the majority of hot men messaged women. But women as a whole recieved much more messages than men. Dating app data overwhemingly proves hypergamy is very prevalent. Why sarah has such a hard time admitting it, god knows. That woman needs to learn some accountability and self reflection.

[friendmost]

Him guys give everything. Her response is yes men are the problem.

[seriousjan]

OMG, that is best one. Advices from other men/women. For me, manifestation of terrible relationship advices is Cosmopolitan - I remember mom had those and as I was reading it, there were terrible things about men and crazy advice.

[lann]

I think we should strive to be more open-minded and accepting of models that go beyond the traditional 'men need to provide financially, women need to cook and clean' model. There are a lot of women who have well-paid full-time jobs, are much more fond of intellectual activities than housework, don't expect a man to provide for them financially, but also don't want the man to expect them to be a maid in the house in the little free time that they have.

[Gearhart_Music]

It is so refreshing to hear a woman say some of the things that she's saying. I agree so much with so many of the things that get said on this podcast. Even if it's something I don't want to hear.

[niledunn]

When you are able to empathize emotionally connect they see you as a nice guy.

[joearcher]

Men are absolutely dating within their league. However they HAVE to swipe right on women out of their league because the women ALWAYS show up looking nothing like their profile pics.

[leeyou]

Love how honest the podcast STARTED! Men should still have to fix women’s damage! You don’t want me when I’m broke don’t love me now that I have money! Women wanted this society now live with it!

[niledunn]

Masculinity is lonely. The stoic life can be hard and unrewarding. It is rewarding to self improve and to try as much as possible to life a righteous and productive life, but a man can’t hug himself he can’t recreate the joy of making someone he loves proud or happy or having that same person lift him up when he stumbles. “Man shall not live by bread alone” so to speak

[ThomasFaller]

Those sponsor shameless plugs are smoother than my beard 🙌

[marriagecausesdivorce]

36:13 "the drive for safety and security is a drive that women have". I agree with this but, in practice, when you give your wife the safety and security of marriage, she still files for divorce around 50% of the time. I think marriage, and the safety and security it provides, sometimes makes the relationship boring and the people complacent.

[jimgoplayoutsideable]

Just listening to the list of woman requirements is exhausting! Trying to imagine how I could ever feel full and satisfied... ... ... the only thing that makes it worth is when we share dreams for the future. Then there is real inspiration from a woman.

Woman is not the only one with programed biological behaviors that need to be attended to.

As soon as the balance of nitpick to inspiration tips over, no man will provide or protect you. In his instinct it is better that you will die, then the stress is ended. That's the real nature of the man. Men that have too high morals will go towards self-delete instead.

The only way to endure the picky needy woman nonsense is those bonding experiences that Adam is always talking about. Men honor the bond. That is also male nature. But, if the stress overwhelms the bond again the balance tips and no provide no protect.

If woman cannot control her annoying-ness, there is nothing for the man to do but walk away. And there are many situations (like children for example) where a man cannot simply walk away. Woman does have a weight of responsibility to carry, like it or not. The name of her responsibility is grace. Grace is what makes a woman tolerable to a man. If she cannot become graceful, there is simply no man that can tolerate.

In this way, it is not reliant upon the man to 'make her feel safe' so she can 'be in her feminine'. Being graceful is the requirement of every human being that wants to have relationships of any kind, with people or any other living being. It is a basic human requirement.

Could flip the responsibility to: it is your job as a woman to be graceful and inspiration to your man or he will lose all impetus to protect or provide for you and only see you as a burden. Then woman have the power in their own hands to do something about it. Not all men are real men, but most men are real men, but only to woman that are not overly exhausting/annoying.

[Gregsclafani]

Men: Be a 6 foot tall multimillionaire who is also in shape

Women: Don't be obese.

These are both unrealistic expectations? 🤔

[alanthomasgramont]

Ugh. Stop groaning “mmhmm” over and over. It’s annoying.