I Transitioned And Detransitioned | Humanity

Alia talks through their gender journey of transitioning and then detransitioning.

[erikaamerica]

Your message is a blessing. Wish more people would realise it’s okay to be themselves. There are masculine females and feminine males and there’s nothing wrong with that.

[mikejones]

The sad and frustrating part is how the media leaves out how many of these poor people end up regretting the transition surgery and how often those that do become or attempt suicide!

[DViiANT]

As someone who is trans, has been for a very long time and has no regrets regarding transition, I think it is important to take in the perspectives of people who realized this wasn't their journey. There are many folks who've thought they were transgender when they weren't and made irreversible changes to their bodies. It's okay to take as long as you need to figure it out. Neither side has it easy.

[titanblade]

This is why kids shouldn’t transition medically or surgically. If adults aren’t fully sure what they want to be, what in the hell makes you think a child would know?

[tastyaplysia]

Based perspective. Transition or detransition, i think whats important is stay true to yourself. They decided being trans male was not who they really were connecting as anymore and was brave enough to detrans. Please keep sharing your truth.

[Alchomik]

Woah, she was already 22 when she started to transition and it turned out the transition was a mistake. Can't imagine what percentage of teen transitioners will come to the same conclusion

[asiwassaying]

(Longtime out, activist trans person here) The ONE THING that every one of these folks take lightly, which breaks my heart, is that they follow their hearts without REALLY thinking about what they are doing for the long run. Before ANYONE goes on hormones or even comes out to one person, there should be some seriously introspective therapy; not by some "open-minded" green-lighting ally but a competent therapist who will (gently) challenge you to think about what you are doing, why you are doing it, and WHAT ELSE IS ON YOUR MIND THAT MIGHT INFLUENCE YOUR THINKING and guide you to face whatever else is in your head (possibly) misdirecting you to think that transition is your escape route.

[SuperAndrewFACE]

The best detransition story ever. Thank you! Super compassionate without having to blame or point fingers at anyone. I love when you talked about having compassion and empathy for yourself.

[malloryschroeder]

“I didn’t want to change myself”. That should have been enough.

[teeciewalk]

I was a tomboy coming up. I too had a lot of male friends and family members. When my breasts grew in I was uncomfortable because I was now “different”. I was uncomfortable with my body as well. However I’m glad I came up when I did. I was given the space to grow into myself. I’m now very comfortable with who I am still a bit of a tomboy but also feminine. We’re all different some are more masculine others more feminine I just wish things weren’t being pushed onto children and they were given the same space to grow into themselves. I’m glad
she found her true self. 💕

[MrJustonemorevoice]

Everyone hates their body going through puberty, sometimes past that, particularly women.
Everyone feels isolated.
Its a terrible lie, telling kids all of their angst can be cured with this magical procedure.

[dinaledi]

What ever happened to plain old tomboys, I know a lot of us girls went through that phase especially pre puberty and felt uncomfortable with all the changes in our bodies, it’s totally normal and temporary.

[Avarcirith]

Young girls today need to be taught that it's okay to be unhappy with being female sometimes. There are real trans people, but jumping into transitioning too soon has real risks and can lead to devastating, irreversible consequences. It's important for young girls to realize that just about every woman goes through a phase (sometimes multiple phases) where they hate their body and being female. It's like the moment you hit puberty as a woman, your body becomes a sort of public commodity that others are always judging and placing worth on. You begin to feel vulnerable as you realize that being raped and/or sexually harassed are very real risks. You feel a sense of despair as it dawns on you that no matter what you do, there will always be men who are stronger, faster, and more powerful than you (for most women, this is most men). Things have gotten better for sure, but life is still very tough for women compared to their male counterparts, and there's a long way to go in terms of breaking glass ceilings and being seen as full and worthy human beings beyond appearance. Gradually, you come to terms with your life and your biological limitations, and you learn to deal with what you have to and work to change what should be changed. These are the truths of womanhood. Being unhappy with being female as you're growing up does not automatically make you trans, as unfortunately so many young women are being socially manipulated into thinking today.

[dustyboylson]

I SAY THIS AS AN OLD CONSERVATIVE WHITE GUY, HOW YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU. IF IT FEELS RIGHT CONTINUE, IF NOT, STOP. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. HAVE A LONG AND HAPPY LIFE.

[monkeytennis]

This individual looked great, either way male or female attractive in both choices. I hope they can finally be happy. Best wishes to them.

[lionessprowess]

I'm starting to see a lot of people regret transitioning on the internet. Let's accept it's difficult being human period, whether you are born male, female, gay, queer, etc.

[manifestgtr]

The major problem is that kids are no longer being told that having identity crises is a normal part of human development. That needs to be taught and EMPHASIZED…it happens to nearly everyone. Kids have identity issues nowadays and instead of being told “everyone’s a little different, dude…being human sucks sometimes but I *promise* things will get better”, they’re being labeled this and that…even encouraged to change themselves physically in certain circumstances which should be illegal, imo. There gets to be a point where encouragement crosses the line into abuse and when you’re talking about changing a 15 year old FOR LIFE, you’re solidly in that territory. If I had to be held permanently, physically accountable for the decisions I made as a 15 year old, I might be dead…I’m not joking…

[amandahaynes]

It's so heartbreaking that they start with..."I was a Tom boy...or I liked to dress like a boy...or I like to hang out with boys..." these things do NOT mean you were meant to be a boy...we all grow up through these phases and yes it differs for everyone...sighs. children/ adolescents should never be put through these things...the amount of guidance that is needed in these formative years is tremendous. It doesn't not mean convincing them that they are not who they were born!

[PrimoPete]

It feels like a story of, "I felt comfortable when I was looked at as a male so I became one, but then I realized that men don't get much love or attention, and that felt lonely and depressing, so I detransitioned".

I am not being facetious or sardonic or anything like that. That's literally what some trans men I have known say.

Sometimes, temporarily feeling uncomfortable is not such a big deal when you know that being a man means being uncomfortable, taking abuse, bearing the responsibilities and the pressure, shutting up about all of this, and only being free when you have created a world for yourself or maybe not even then.

Sometimes, you just need to get out of your own head and ACTUALLY(& not just say it) & really not care & /or put so much emphasis ON THE WORLD, especially when the world is bitching about empathy and using other strategic terms to make you care about it.

[Talot]

Imagine this "issue" taking up you whole life. Its like being able to play Skyrim for a set time, but you spend the entire time on the charachter creation screen.