7 WAYS TO OUTSMART A NARCISSIST IN CONVERSATION: Disarm the Narcissist with These Tips

Are you looking to outsmart the narcissist in your life? These tips will help you disarm the narcissist and render them powerless over your emotional wellbeing. But it all starts with limited contact (or gray rock). When you realize what the narcissist is really after, it's easy to outsmart them. Whether they're really smart or not!

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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[debratrumbo]

They talk in circles. Twist your words. Make you doubt yourself.

[clarkdsouza]

"It's unfortunate you feel that way, " is better than saying "I'm sorry you feel that way." Never apologize to a narcissist. Validation is not required.

[ranakeen]

1. Keep communication simple
2. Understand they lack emotional empathy
3. Distance yourself
4. Don't give them what they want
5. Don't show emotion, don't care about their opinions
6. Make them defend themselves
7. Stay unemotional and don't react to their triggers

[evelina]

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” – Jill Blakeway

[gemeinschaftsgeful]

Number one thing to do: less talking and more walking.

[studiosandi]

The best way to get back at your narcissist is to go have a happy and productive life without them.

[michaeljackson]

You can't reason with a narcissist. They don't care. No contact period. .get your power back!

[foodandhomeprep]

I don’t respond at all. Stay strong. I’m almost free. God is working.

[maroonbells]

I feel the important thing in talking with a narcissist is not to win the conversation, but to end the conversation. I try to make every response a dead end and these are some very good tips.

[alcudiababe]

When we set boundaries they HATE IT WITH A PASSION its suddenly like, I'm not being told WHAT TO DO!!!

[andreaturnquist]

I am an empath. My mother is a narcissist as are 2 of my ex boyfriends. Why do nice people attract such emotionally bankrupt people?

[TheeAntiChris]

In my experience, it’s unwise to respond emotionally to narcissists because by allowing them to see you cry over one thing, or get angry and defensive over another, allows them to see your weaknesses which they will reuse against you, over and over again.
Narcissists are observant and strategic.
To them, life is like a game of poker or chess and you’re their pawn.
The more you defend, argue, question, debate, EVEN converse nicely, you unknowingly show them your weaknesses, insecurities, convictions and strengths... and what you MUST understand and remember (especially in that moment), is that they WILL use EVERYTHING they’ve learned about you AGAINST YOU.

[raceemc.]

The key to outsmarting them is to move in silence. When I left my exgirlfriend who happened to be a top of the line narcissist I completely stopped entertaining her bullshit. I didn’t go anywhere with her anymore. I would wait until she left the house to eat, talk on the phone to friends or family, I cut her off financially, I completely shut her down & it drove her nuts. Needless to say temper tantrums got worst but by that time I was mentally gone so they didn’t bother me one bit. Once I got my ducks in a row she came home to a empty house. That was 15 years ago & until every time she sees me she wants to fight. And I mean literally fist fight me🤦🏾‍♂️. They hate losing control and they’re VERY big on image.

[BRIDGETUHMYEAH]

“A narcissist is wired to not hear you”

[johnmiller-jfez]

Best non-revange revange= no contact. This is the only thing that gets to a narc: being ignored

[BassPotter]

No Contact with the narcissist = Healing for the victim.

[johngilbert]

Don't say "Sorry you feel that way." It may give them some sort of validation as it seems your apologizing. "It's unfortunate you feel that way." They're feeling unfortunate because they are unfortunate people! That's a valid sentiment for them!

[MarkLightGroup]

Having been raised by a narc dad, I can say this is all great advice with one "however": When you refuse to take the bait when the narc is trying to create toxic drama, it rarely just difuses the situation. Rather, you will escalate it and the narc will "invent" whatever they need to in order to keep it in a state where they have control. Requires a lot of emotional intelligence to deal. Best course is usually physical distance.

[KINGOFMOVIES]

I outsmarted my narcissistic by threatening to make a YouTube video of their cyber-bullying behaviour. And they actually called pretending to be a police officer. Now they are charged with personating one. Facing a 5 year sentence. I'm still going to make the video.

[suzannemaroney]

If I seek revenge, I'm becoming what I dislike in the narcissist.🙏