I wasted my 20s

Ramblings of a 29 year old going into the final year of her twenties 🥳

Was I young, wild and free enough? Did I make enough progress in my career? Did I have the social life that most 20-somethings seem to have? Here’s what i’d go back and tell my 20 year old self.

They say your 20s are the best time of your life, what do you think? 💭

Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:59 working vs having fun
02:08 friendships
03:09 timelines and milestones
04:10 confidence (+ a bad haircut)
05:05 relationships
05:39 making decisions & growth
06:21 you know nothing Jon Snow
06:56 your 20s are the defining decade


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I'm Akta, an overthinker trying to be more mindful by slowing down, finding a better balance with productivity and finding the magic in everyday. I'm a dentist who works part time and I'm also doing yoga teacher training & exploring my more creative side through art and YouTube.

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20s, twenties

[janfg]

As a dude I have to admit that I started feeling like a real adult only at around 25. In my early 20s I still behaved in teenage-like ways much more than I realised.

[Dylanshandle]

Rushing into uni is the biggest mistake, my dad is a doctor with a beautiful house and car, he started uni at 28. He prioritised finding a partner and having a child so he won't be lonely and so he can experience the strongest relationship one can have. He is my best friend.

[joesherry]

This just made me more depressed, if this is what your 20s looked like and you thought it was bad, then god almighty mine have been horrific

[MisterHocus]

I love how in the first 30 seconds she showed what she wished her twenties were like, and then some clips of her actual twenties, and they look the same lmao.

[alexaaestar]

Gets off social media it’s rotting your brain. You did more in your “20s” than other people can dream of. You have privileges that others don’t have. Be humble and appreciate what you have been through.

[PetterHughes]

I'm in my early 30s and felt like I wasted my 20s by making mistakes and bad decisions. But then I realized they were learning experiences so that I could build my awareness to make smarter decisions in the future. Now I intend to make my 30s much better and exciting than my 20s, and reinvent myself!

[Cloud]

I'm currently 21 and I have a fear of wasting my 20s, I feel as though there is some sort of countdown until you are 30 to achieve and to have as much fun as possible. But tbh, you life doesn't and shouldn't end when you turn 30, we are all at our own pace.

[michaelbradburn]

I’m 36 and a doctor. I have been practicing medicine for three years on my own now. I spent my entire 20’s in a library buried in books. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I’m miserable at my job that I sacrificed so much to get. I never partied, experimented with anything, enjoyed my youth. I had to be the responsible one at all times so I didn’t mess up my path. Now, I’m single, hate my job, and have nothing to show for all of my hard work. If I have any advice to younger people don’t take things so serious, enjoy your short time on earth. Live with no regrets.

[donttalktome]

you're actually living well in your twenties than most of us lmao. I'm 23, no close-knit friends, have never gone outside of my hometown, teaching in the university where I graduated, no concrete plans for the future, still living with my family (tho I hope this will continue forever, my fam is my everything), have never been to a party, didn't go to prom, no boyfriend since birth, never had a debut (cause partially I don't like the attention), and everything that most teenage girls dream.

[Hactavish]

I believe some of the viewers, including me, not expecting this kind of "wasted my 20's" with a lot of achievements. I hate to say it but you're not wasted your 20's, you just miss some chances. If that what you called wasted, then those who literally wasted their 20's is doomed their 20's but hey everyone suffer differently

[didijy]

you literally have actually done stuff in your 20s that many of us would dream of

[nicky]

I thought I am the only one who thinks that the beginning of my 20s was one of the worst times of my life. Thank you for your honesty. ❤

[guesswho]

Whoever said that "you've been through the most important things in your life by 35" is so misguided imo. After my father passed, my mom (44) was a beaten, broken down shell of a woman, having been the enabler of an alcoholic for 5 years straight. After he left us she was a mess. Now she is living her best life. Truly. She is traveling on her own with friends (which she hadn't ever done). She is fulfilling her lifelong dreams unapologetically. And that is something she definitely hadn't ever experienced. She's around 55 now. And I can confidently say she has never been happier.

[humayrapatel]

I’m 21, graduated and moving out of my toxic parent’s home. I feel like I’m behind everyone else and that there’s always so many obstacles in my life, so thank you for sharing your story & reminding me to forge my own timeline in life ❤

[boltbadblades]

“If you try and please everyone and loose yourself in that process, that’s harder to recover from” YES! 100% TRUE. I had just graduated school and I was a peoples pleaser, when it came time to feel good about me, I felt lost because I had change sooo many aspects of me so that I would fit in to the point that I had to reconstruct my self to be back to my original state. It took MONTHS, but it’s so worth it. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF PLEASE.

[kevinmartelo]

That is what I’m feeling right now, I’m 25 and lately I’ve been feeling down and upset about regretting my teen and my early 20’s and been dwelling on it for a long time. Due to mental health stuff that I really struggled and socially anxious. Now I’m back in college and working for almost a year now! So I’m doing better but still feel I’ve missed out on life and not going out to parties or graduating at a certain age. I’m glad that I’m not alone. I loved the videos.

[jermainemyrn]

I'm 30 teaching myself to be a software engineer. I honestly never cared how old I was as long as I knew what I wanted to do in life

[martinam]

I am 30. Didn’t even want to celebrate my birthday. Exactly going through this existential crisis. But you know what is funny? I never felt more self as I feel now. I am in the best headspace I have ever been. Try to prioritize myself more because during 20s I studied and worked very hard afraid of the future. I am learning that actually 30s might be the best time of my life. I am better person I was before and more confident in my life and career. It’s not ending with 30. I feel like it’s only beginning.

[PhilipOMeara]

I'm 38 now.
My childhood was mixed
My teenage years sucked
My uni years were fantastic
My 20s were mixed, but basically sucked
29-34 was brilliant - perhaps the best time
and now I'm on a journey to sucksville

[hypnosstratagem]

I am a second year medical student, and I can safely say that I have had virtually no significant experiences outside of school. I have had no relationships, few friends, and few major experiences. Literally everything has been placed at the altar of school. Thank you for sharing this video. I am 26, and I can't wait until school is out of the way so I can pursue a future where all of me is alive.