10 Things You Should Never Say To Your Child

This might surprise you. Dr. Paul shares a list of the things we should never say to our children:

1. Great job
2. Practice makes perfect
3. You're okay
4. Hurry up
5. I'm on a diet
6. We can't afford that
7. Don't talk to strangers
8. Be careful
9. No dessert unless you finish your dinner
10. Let me help you

Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[Lovely-wyfo]

A family friend told me "practice makes improvement". I was around 13 years old and never forgot it. Everytime someone said practice makes perfect. I would say "no, practice makes improvement".lol

[redwoodcottageart]

I love to say "practice makes progress!"

[annalieseelizabeth]

Pregnant with my first child; best time to start learning how to parent and what I would want for my child, will definitely be taking notes on all your videos!

[dreamtoonofficialchannel]

The person reading this comment: I wish you great success, love, health, and happiness! ❤️ 👍😍😆

[ayanabenjamin]

You know what I noticed? Avoiding these and trying the alternative words will require you to spend a lot of time and energy having conversations with your children. I think we often use these to keep things short, to carry on with our chores, to save time and energy.

[commongirl-yeez]

I loved this in my sons kindergarten class. The teacher taught the kids the phrase "the more I practice, the better I get" .

[yuezeng]

I would ask "can I offer my help?". If my son says "no". I would go back to my own business. And he would ask me "can you help?" eventually. LOL

[JM-iorh]

Wow, I just about say this whole list to my child! I never realized how my own words are affecting my relationship with my son. Thank you for helping me learn better alternatives!

[nebbialunabella]

So complicated to be parents.
We all need a degree in psychology to handle the job.
Then again are the psychologist perfect parents? I guess not.
We can only try our best and give them love they need and forgive us about our mistakes. Life is not black and white and no one is perfect.
Anyway thank you for your guide line.

[eursvbmompreneur]

Oh ..hearing all these makes ME feel so guilty especially that i'm still coping with Post partum depression. It's really really difficult to become a Mom especially when Your husband doesn't support you.

[Nadiahope]

I have a one year old & will be watching this 1000 times. 😂

[hyperspaceoddity]

Oh my gosh. Two things i knew from a very young age was that my mom had self esteem issues and that we were poor. It made me accept the fact that being self conscious was just part of being a woman and that I was just poor and things were just supposed to be this way.

[danarchambault]

I really get tired of people that beat up on their parents, my parents weren't perfect, but they taught me to think for myself, work hard and be independent, and my dad taught me to trust my instincts, thanks mom and dad ♥️

[Pot]

I'm 24 years old and still single. I am a victim of Emotional Neglect from my Parent and still suffering until now. I don't want my future kids to be in my situation. And so Im trying to research articles or video clips on how to make my future son/daughter healthy emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

[crescentmoondesigns]

My mom says she's on a diet all the time it makes me feel insecure about my own weight sometimes even if am not that heavy

[Greatgerd]

1) Great Job!
2) Practice makes perfect
3) You're ok?
4) Hurry up
5) I am on Diet
6) We can't afford that.
7) Don't talk to stranger.
8) Be careful
9) No Desert until you finish your dinner.
10) Let me help.

[rosekadoges]

I don't even have kids but I find this really informative! I am a teacher though and I think it could help in the (adult!) classroom!

[blerinapsota]

There’s definitely great advice and intention in this video. I just want to point out that the pendulum swing of modern parenting psychology has gone from the authoritarian parenting type in the 50s-80s to current day: “make sure you don’t ever say anything that would remotely hurt their feelings.” I am all about balance. I don’t see anything wrong with telling my child “great job” or “be careful when doing X.” In my opinion, all this advice is going a bit far in the feelings realm and making good parents feel like they need to over analyze every single thing they say. We should definitely be conscious of our role model and language we use with our children; however, this advice makes you doubt even basic parenting phrases. As I mentioned earlier, I appreciate the video, I listened to it, took from it what was valuable to me and left the rest where I found it.

[awakesurfer]

In a little time I watched your video, I learned a lot though I don't have children but I shared this with my family. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

[aprilthompson]

I love that you brought up the don't talk to strangers. My kids have been told that by not only my husband & I but also adults at school. As tweens (with autism), they have taken this advice so literally that they won't even talk to the waitress at a restaurant or say sorry, if they bump into someone at the store. We have tried to clarify what we mean by "strangers" but it taking some effort to undo. Wish I had gotten this advice when they were much younger.