Failed Mormon parents #lds #mormon #exmormon #latterdsysaint

[theeight-roadwanderer]

The only way I'd say my parents failed significantly is that they purposefully ignored my obvious pleas for help to get me out of my mission. That caused me a lot of deep trauma I still deal with to this day

[christophercampbell]

I couldn't have said it better myself. I don't feel so bad about leaving the church as I do about how my parents feel about it. I don't want them to think they were awful parents. In fact, the fact that they raised me to pursue knowledge means they did something right.

[cindihunter]

Thanks, Dr. Dehlin, your speaking truth! Your spot ON! ❤

[rtharalson]

Mormonism teaches a lot of vicarious things. This you see a lot of parent living vicariously through their kids.

[bedazzlejuju]

I guess I should be grateful. My parents were so strict and limiting, the church was so judgmental and ridiculous, seminary teachers couldn’t answer even the most basic questions that I was inspired to leave the church at 13. By leaving, I meant no longer taking the sacrament and ditching the classes (only to go home and find my father on the couch watching football). I dug the stories of Christ, but the hypocrisy was too much. God isn’t a petty human. God is love.

[michaelreidperry]

Is being LDS necessary? Is going through all this conflict, strangled by unrealistic and unreasonable expectations, the only hope for happiness people can have?

[rap]

I thank god I wasn’t born into a religion. It’s truest a blessing.

[Wheels_Unlimited]

And the reason they're worried about failing is because they fear the judgement of others in the church. It's all keeping up appearances...

[edddddddddddd]

If only they would question anything about the Mormon faith.

[kera]

This is so accurate. I remember my mom saying what did I do wrong when myself or my brother left. Everything is extremely internalized and she felt that she failed as a mother so the “burden” is on her. I can’t remember where that’s taught but it was a horrible thing to go through and not come out scarred on the other end.

[jamesstevens]

I failed as a parent by not leaving earlier and saving my children from that oppressive cult!

[susancarver]

very true, for I was one of those parents. It took a while to recover from that sense of when I researched the church and found lie after lie annnnd left the church. STILL.... STILL feelings of failure. 😢

[nicoledickerson]

Wow! So they’re more worried about themselves then their child. I’m not Mormon … but I would think their child’s eternal life would be one of the most important things in their life because of their love for their child

[angelicataylor]

It goes even further, the only thing my parents were successful in was raising three atheists, my dad deconverted, my mother switched to Catholicism after several very stern talking-to's that my grandmother and aunts gave her about how she had implicitly failed a line that went all the way back to the beginning of The Church.

[MsMadmax]

I married into a generational LDS family. I feel that my in-law, who lives with my spouse and I will not be happy until she brings her son back into the church and me along with him. I think she feels that her eternal happiness is threatened because all her children won't be in the celestial kingdom with her.

[edmc]

They failed their kids by getting them into a cult.

[Ellen-sgtv]

Love your honesty I'm from Utah he's telling the truth

[AberdolphLinklr]

You’re failing as a parent the second your feelings come first.

[DarkmanRides]

The church teaches that tactic to the parents so that they can hopefully exercise enough influence over you to make you return to the church don't play their Wicked Game

[joetaylor]

Too often, people get cultured into the idea that "everything good" is wrapped up in, or tied to, "the Church." This is amazingly myopic, tunnel, and faulty vision at best. Many need to pull their heads out and look around a bit.