How To Listen More and Talk Less

For just one day, try this challenge. Listen more and talk less. Listen to understand. Listen to learn. Listen to empathize. Listen to validate. Listen to connect.

Don’t worry. You won’t become invisible, powerless or less impactful. In fact, you’ll become more visible. You’ll stand out as someone who cares about what others think, in a world where, generally, people are busy pushing their agenda, selling their ideas or jockeying for position.

Keeping our mouths shut is hard. So, try these three techniques to listen actively.

[piandao]

I need to do this. No one likes "me" persay. So I'm trying to learn how to stop talking and being annoying. I'm trying to adopt the "don't speak unless spoken to" saying.

[laulaushouse]

1) mirror the speakers message, paraphrase what you’ve heard
2) empathy with the speakers emotion, use phrases like “oh I’m so sad about that” “that’s so cool”
3) confirm that you understand what they mean through their eyes, appreciate what they’re saying and try to show it

[chilip]

I have ADHD so I want to learn how to talk less and listen more.

[DiamondCrushIvory]

Im going to try this for a day, one day at a time. Im the worst person ever to talk to because im an ineffective communicator who has nervous energy and I don't like when there is ANY silence. I started trying to be an effective communicator 20 yrs ago and haven't mastered too many days of being quiet. One day I'll get it, thanks for the video, just one of these days I'll get it.

[Ubon_abasi]

I was once told that I am hyperactive and I wasn’t too cool with that cos I was becoming predictable. Gladly, there’s a change now.

[jasudarai]

I can't shut and keep listening i wanna change it

[SergioMolan]

Very classy and intelligent lady. Thank you for sharing!

[manopinket]

I keep talking about myself only to later realize that I was probably being annoying

[nazikiwe]

Thank you for these tips. I will try them. I really want to be a better listener and shut up sometimes, so that I can stop feeling stupid afterwards and i can LEARN more.

[perryh.]

I already do this with my Mom and little sister. I listen to what they say and tell me to do....and in their presence, I only talk when spoken to!

[createchangeempowerers]

Listen more.. learn to love being silent, let go of the urge by talking to your own self !! .. no one understands u better than yourself and it’s a great reflection.. easier said than done, however practising daily, this video gives a great technique, thanks

[petermitchell]

Thank you. Now I have the tools to be a better listener and how to talk less.

[IcecreamCat]

I get excited and love to talk, so I really want to learn how to listen more to my friends

[sunmoonstar]

I'm listening to this video today because I realised today that I'm too serious with people and I always try to push my agenda on to other people's advice

[Dan]

Boy do I need this! I found my mind wandering to my own thoughts instead of LISTENING to what she was saying -- which was the reason I was playing the video in the first place. PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE. I'll have to work on this quite a bit.

[rachealbesong]

All the points in this lesson are very important. The most important point to me is paraphrasing what you understood, as this helps to clarify and or correct any misunderstanding. This reminds me of taking a telephone order from a doctor, you always read back the order to make sure it is correct.

[MinnieFerguson-gdnz]

Love this! I am going to start practicing right away.

[bethannsmith]

Listening to validate stood out to me. That is really key to letting others know they have been heard. Thanks for a well done video.

[dflow]

Every word in this video was so clear and concise. Grateful for the time that was put into making something so informative and helpful 😇

[KandyKidraver]

A helpful tips is to listen to the last sentence someone said and ask them a follow-up question.
When possible ask a question with the word How.

Examples:
How did your meeting go?
How did you learn how to do that?
How did that make you feel?
How long do you have before your next class?