10 Rules For Dating After Divorce

Let's discuss essential rules for men reentering the dating scene after a divorce. I will cover a wide array of topics, from self-reflection on past relationships to understanding dating goals and taking care of your personal appearance. You will get valuable insights and advice that will help you navigate the post-divorce dating world successfully. Subscribe for more valuable content, and hit the like button if you find this video helpful!

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction
00:26 Relationship autopsy - identifying red flags in your previous relationships
2:02 Know why you want to date - being honest to yourself
3:10 Keep your children out of it
4:05 Have a team of people to make a great dating profile
6:02 Finding a new social circle and reviving your social skills
08:21 Get yourself a makeover
09:56 Get a gym membership
11:07 Avoid burnout
11:54 Do NOT self sabotage | Understand your fear
14:06 Understand what happened for you in the relationship | Personal accountability
16:53 Conclusion

[mr.goodwrench]

The dating scene for me personally was a dumpster fire. Every woman I dated had "daddy problems" or even "mommy problems". And some of them had gone through two or more divorces as compared to my one and only divorce. Red flags all around. Mainly control issues due to baggage. Not that I think highly of myself as being mistake free and perfect. I know I'm not. It's just that I actually took the time to get over my ex-wife and recover well by me working on me in every way possible to move forward in my life. Whereas these women I met and dated for a short time frame did absolutely nothing for self-improvement and brought in baggage and drama that ruined the relationship. So, I have just been minding my own business and enjoying my peace & quiet for a few years now. I'm enjoying being a content bachelor.

[robertlopez]

Rule #1: never be foolish enough to remarry.

[chrisoldham]

Thanks Sarah- super practical tips! Bless you and your channel. Chris.

[Snarge]

I'm casually dating someone. I find I don't have romantic desire for her, so I'll have to end the relationship. The question I need to answer for myself is "Do I really have the motivation for a relationship?" My answer may likely be No. To many who are divorced, this may be their answer as well. Given time that answer may change.

[canoozie]

Seriously, a divorce is an opportunity to either learn something of value from the experience. Be honest with yourself, find out what you could have done better, what you expected, how that changed over time, etc. The real thing is you can be honest with yourself, and use that information going forward. Maybe you didn't set boundaries you should have, whatever it is, you can be better about this if you're intentful when you're dating later.

[Ashbringer]

Rule number 1
Don’t put yourself through that meat grinder again, if 1 marriage fails that’s it don’t get graped by the divorce courts again

[tomg_]

Sarah looking out for the kids. That’s 💯 correct.

[JohnDoe-ugpf]

On the wardrobe..just good to work on that..no matter how it relates to your life..because cloths carry memories..emotions which tie us to our past...can be good or bad...shifting your energies with new cloths good for all kinds of issues..I am working on that one for sure Sarah..helps move my blocked memory energies that keep me stuck

[commanderpro]

Hi Sarah, interesting video unfortunately for some information here doesn’t reflect me because I’m 60yrs young with adult kids and grandfather so hopefully you may have additional information for people in my category. Thanks great work and observations.

[truthinliving]

I am not in the position to accept your advice to look for a new woman, but I love your advice. It has helped me in my marriage!

[JohnDoe-ugpf]

Yes ..more than helpful..so many detailed points..lots of very specific and concise information..tho in my case not divorce..still most of your info covered things for me to reflect..absorb..and grow on..personal accountability...so many things you covered..in my case I should listen a few times..as much of it spoke to me on many levels...good job on your point by point

[lyfandeth]

Sarah, I don't want a new wardrobe. The old one is who I am. It is unfair for me to pretend to be someone else.

[davidduff]

Good list. Very comprehensive. I’ll think about it.

[Lucas-mftc]

I’m stuck at “what’s the point.” I have a career, a child to raise, and I fear wasting my money and time that I need for my yearly global treks and art… I feel like I need to choose between getting laid and having a rich and fulfilling life.

[whiteknight]

After my divorce, i just enjoyed some me time. Caught up on some of my video games that i like to play. But i did have some learning too, when i was on my own i learned to pay bills directly which i had never done prior. Back in those days i mostly just stayed to myself until a couple work buddies started wanting me to hit the bars with them. I agreed but I did it just to appease them though i do love drinking. Overall though bars make me feel really lonely on the inside, so i decided to stop going to bars and started trying dating apps. I ran into a couple of women who just wanted money. After those, i eventually found my now girlfriend and we've been together 10 months now..

[rjds]

I joined a club recently and the reason was due to club activities. Fact is I've caught the attention of a few women who attend so even if you need a confidence boost group situations definitely works. Also it's a place that has become my happy place.

[Larrymh]

I'm keeping my pleated pants. As soon as I throw them away, they'll be back in style.

[mr.mr.]

After my divorce, I partied a lot and eventually didn’t recognize myself. I started putting effort into rebuilding myself in the best advice I heard was B the person that the person you were looking for is looking for so I realized I wanted a woman who was gorgeous and had her stuff together financially independent didn’t want any more kids. And I found her within a year, she would not have wanted me the year prior. We’ve been together for 10 years now.

[richardhall]

Perfect point thanks for sharing. I needed this. I married a narcissist and didn’t know it. We divorced after 20 years. I don’t know how to get going. Narcissist are horrible people for anyone to get involved with. I have trust issues with everyone. Could you do a podcast about this.

[sands]

Talking to a woman in the gym will get you kicked out.