Memory Gaps - Complex Trauma Sixty Characteristics - Part 3/11

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[maryamsh]

i didn't expect these lectures to be this life changing. im only a few hours in but i have to say im so so so grateful for this content.

[HISdaughterC]

While I am not an addict, this series is definitely providing me with a better understanding of who I am as a person, as a parent and more importantly my son who is currently an addict, who recently relapsed after almost of year of sobriety. All parents should listen to this, recovering addict or not…

[LAURENROBERT]

Tim Fletcher appears to be a lovely, bright, wonderful teacher and healer. He is a delight. I have been counseling for over 30years, yet I find learning from Tims lectures is a refreshing and exciting adjunct to what i thought i knew!
So greatful for this wonderful series!

[Weeflowerofscotland]

I am an addict. Pretty much addicted to things that ‘numb’, I have used alcohol, drugs, food, sex anything that stops the chronic thoughts of feeling worthless. I’m so thankful I found these videos. I’m finally hopeful I can heal from my childhood. Thank you

[x-mess]

Anger on yourself can look like depression

[AmySolokha-qlbw]

Dear Tim Fletcher, thank you so much for all your videos about the complex traumas. I'm currently undergoing a rehab and your videos (found them on youtube) are good additions to my therapies, and they help me understand my behaviour and its drivers better. God bless you!

[saycog]

I have a trigger that drives me nuts but I control it otherwise I’d repel people all the time. It’s noise, I mean noise that can be controlled. Loud tv makes me want to lash out, run away, say harsh things to the person. I feel it very personally, as if the person is doing it to torment me, and not for other reasons like they have a hearing problem. I also carry this rule with me, that if I ask someone to not do a certain thing because it hurts my feelings, the person will do it, and actually do it more and more.
I remember my mother was like that, every time she found a weakness of mine. It was extremely irritating, and the more irritated I got, the more she thought it was funny.

[LisaMiller]

omg i love this guy he is amazing, wow wow wow ive only started listening to him this evening since i got sent the link.... i didnt realise just how much my childhood trauma has affects on me, i am an addict in recovery working a 12 step program this guy is so spot on

[JuliaShalomJordan]

Tim, your teachings are giving me hope for more. Hope that things can change.❤

[gember]

These video's are enormously helpful. I just don't recognize anger in my cptsd. For me anger is an emotion I'm afraid of, so I don't feel it. Or.it tends to get inward. Hope he will be talking about that too in videos to come. The shutdown of (helpful) anger. But, wow he explains it all so well.

[kritikasingh]

Sir i am so greatful that you share your knowledge with us ❤

[elizaday]

Thank you so much for giving such a clear insight. Both my parents, myself and my husband ‘tick’ all the boxes for CPTSD, and in short, it is despairingly awful.

[elaineandrepont]

I do not have anger issues-instead I am an empath I reflectively observe the anger and learned to not take that in but I do have complex trauma with no major eruptions. A narcissist person perhaps have the real anger issues. I use to internalize and stuff it but now I have more control over this most times due to awareness. The anger is mostly frustration and that leads to smoking cigarettes or a binge drinking escapism. This is my next hurdle to combat.

Coping patterns, need to be shifted. Violation of love, judgements, cornering me, not accepting me or respecting my views or disowning or rejection is my triggers.

Not ever getting resolve over trauma meaning never hearing an apology is my stuffing but this does not affect me too much anymore. I see through and empathize and pity those that fear, control and Judge me.
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[mellissamorrell]

I am 48...I've been through recovery...relapse 3 times...I am absolutely Cptsd affected. Original Trauma at age 2...I am not in my addiction...but I am on my 3rd divorce...and barely found out about
Most of all this...I've been self educating via you tube...diagnosing (mostly in my head) narcissist...in trauma therapy( not very good therapy) and I'm absolutely trying to decide if I'm borderline or Cptsd...And with a narc dad and borderline mom...I know I've had narcissist traits... I need to heal...but from what?

[SpiritualloveAD]

Yes it was child protective services that told me I let things build then conflict with my teenage kids. I now use interpersonal relationship skills to tell them straight away I describe the facts express my emotions assert my wishes reinforce consequences it's a constant commitment and the only way I can keep relationships with them and I still feel abandonment every time.

[davidpeterson]

I'm 35 years old I've never had any relationships I have zero friends and when I get really bad I beat the crap out of myself like my dad used to because it's the only way I can feel anything

[shelleygee]

I love your logic and your sharing. Thanks so much! But, EIGHT ADS, oh my. A bit much, IMO.

[ChangelingX]

The last couple minutes of this video do not play out properly. Is there any transcript?

[rewakaur]

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