How To Make A Man Emotionally Addicted to You

What makes a player settle down? We’ve all seen it happen. Think of that frat guy from college with who was all about partying, having fun, and putting notches in his belt. A couple years pass and you see the pictures on facebook. He’s married, settled down and has a couple kids. You can’t believe your eyes. What caused this total transformation?

The answer is emotional addiction. His wife has managed to make him totally addicted to her, mind, body, and soul, and so he can’t imagine his life without her in it. And you can do it too. Hi, I’m Amy North, author of the Devotion System. I’ve been studying how men fall in love and commit and I’ve noticed a pattern. Men may really like you or even love you, but unless you create emotional addiction, he’s not going to stick around. Stay right there and I’ll explain.

First off, what is emotional addiction? Think of it this way...remember your first love? Your heart beat fast when you heard his name. Your cheeks were hot when he was near and it felt like you were going to die if he didn’t ask you out. That is emotional addiction--an automatic biochemical reaction to another person that becomes dependence.

If you can foster this in your man then he’ll never leave your side and he’ll have no idea why. This may seem extreme but the truth is emotional addiction is a natural part of falling in love for many couples. That’s why the frat brother’s wife was able to create it in him without any help. She simply got lucky.

Creating emotional addiction is about two things: passion and longing. If you can master these two aspects of emotional addiction then you’ll have no problem. Let me explain.

Think of it like drug addiction. In fact, falling in love releases the same neurotransmitters in the brain as doing cocaine. Just like a hit of a drug, you want to create moments of intense passion in your man.

So let’s talk about creating these moments of passion. You want to connect with your man early and often if you’re going to get him emotionally addicted. Texting is still important but you need to keep it to a minimum and use it to push for time spent together in person. I recommend short dates, booty calls, and quick intense meetings at this stage. Be upfront about your feelings and don’t be afraid to be mushy or extremely affectionate if the mood is right. Lying in bed together after sex is a crucial time to create emotional addiction. Men and women are particularly susceptible after orgasm due to its effects on the brain. Feelings are heightened and bonds are strengthened when you’re both sweaty and tangled up in the sheets.

I also want you to sprinkle in a few dates where you don’t sleep with him. This will up the stakes and drive him wild. This stage is all about keeping him guessing. You don’t want him to get comfortable having you around. Instead you’re going to blow his mind with passion and intensity and then make him watch you disappear.

That’s when you follow up these moments of passion with moments of intense longing. This is about creating absence and space between the two of you. Pulling back completely, getting out of town and waiting for them to reach out. Think of it like withdrawal. You’re his drug and his stash has run dry. The longer he spends without you, the more he’ll want you. If you can maintain this distance, he’ll be fiending for you in just a few weeks.

This isn’t about simply giving him the cold shoulder. Men can tell when you’re playing games and they have no time for it.
I noticed that many of my clients who were having lots of trouble connecting with men, would get into very serious, long-lasting relationships and marriages after periods of travelling. At first I thought that travelling had changed their outlook and made them more ideal partners. But I found that many of these women actually knew or were involved with the men they eventually settled down with before they’d even left on their trips.

One client, Chanice, told me she had been dating her now husband Peter for only two weeks when she left on a month long tour of South East Asia. Things with Peter had been going alright but she was suffering from her usual problems: lack of connection and neediness on her part. They spent one last magical night together, knowing that this was it and they parted on good terms with the understanding that the relationship was over. Imagine her surprise when he was waiting at the airport upon her return. Peter said that he couldn’t stop thinking about her the entire time they were apart. He’s been by her side ever since. The more clients I talked to the more I noticed a similar pattern: intense flings followed by clean breaks.
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[sabb]

He will settle down yes. Few years down the road he starts cheating. Don’t bother with a player.

[gabrielleriley]

I want him to be obsessed why is that so hard

[kaylavlogs]

Thank you for getting straight to the point 😮‍💨 I’ve been watching so many videos and they take forever to get to the point

[tonybrown]

Emotional Dope! There is a reason the female protagonist is called the Heroine X- D If you do this too much a healthy partner will walk away and only the dependent junkies will stay. And if you're suffering from this, especially early in the relationship, and they do not respect you, find someone else you like pronto, go on a date, shift the attention to another, and you'll see real quick it's the dopamine, the fact you're light on your feet and happy, that you are addicted to and not the person. That can be shocking to realise in yourself, how could you be that superficial, how could you switch someone so quick and forget them when a few days before you were so hung-up on them! If you want a long lasting relationship you have to get beyond this.

[insanemaori]

narcissistic abuse? if he's cheating he's the problem and doesn't truly love you... work on yourself and move on to something better

[maximd]

Imagine how different the comments would be if a man would have done such video

But to break things down, this guide shows you how to get a boy not a man. But it works on these boys.

[adfranko]

This video helped me from a toxic relationship where I was being deceived and manipulated, it was a breakthrough and I think I'll enjoy my bachelor life with peace... Oh by the way I'm going to Paris to celebrate 🕺🏽

[shawnbunch]

Lol as a guy I'd say this is mostly accurate. Hate to say it but the women I've fallen hardest for were the ones that put out relatively early in the dating phase. Not because I "didn't have to put in the work", but because sex is a form of validation and appreciation for men. When a man spends a lot of time and money on woman and she still plays hard to get, it feels like manipulation at that point. Then the tolerance for that manipulation gets lower and lower. I agree with giving space too. Nobody (men or women) wants to feel like they're dealing with a needy puppy. Everyone needs their space and unfortunately absence makes the heart grow fonder

[amberstarchild]

OMG!! Bless you for making this video. It resonated with me fully. I get everything you talked about

[therealjamiesmith]

I’m in a long distance relationship so keeping distance isn’t difficult

[thxgofx]

💕❤💕His longing and loneliness makes him vulnerable and it leaves him open to other women who approach him and can offer what you offered him. Also, he will eventually get tired of being left alone again and again. There will come a time in the future when he gets tired of the games and leaves for good. Its better to be upfront about our feelings for a man. Because men usually do not understand how we women feel, and neither do we ourselves. Emotional games hurt both partners. It will seem smart and seem to work in the beginning but will backfire. That being said, thank you for the video, it was very interesting to hear how others deal with relationship issues in their own way.

[ar]

Any man settles down when his mindset is ready for it simple..the only thing we can't notice is that the woman who is with him just got lucky to be in his life right, time right place ..nothing else ..

Women don't belong to successful or a failure category in the dating pool..they belong to lucky and unlucky categories in the dating pool..that's it..

[rojasdemetria]

I feel you talking about me and the guy I'm seeing. We both work and have busy lives so we don't spend much time together or see each other much.

[_Pat_]

But how to get a man to spend a couple of days and nights in a row? Most men will pull back in order to not get emotionally involved...

[lisamarielozano]

That's all well and fine for single people, but what about Married People ??? You can't just disappear for 2 weeks when Married. Shall I just suddenly to busy for quality time ( wouldn't that make him think I'm off cheating or avoiding him ) sounds like a good way to have it all backfire & hey worse not better.. ADVISE PLEASE For Married People too ..

[folklore]

Offer him the big three S.
Sx, sandwich, silence.
Anything else is a bonus

[M-M]

Ooh my God i do this without knowing it!!!🤦🏽‍♀️😂 I just try not to get too attached and it makes all these men want me bad🤦🏽‍♀️

[r_and_a]

uncomfortable with how manipulative this seems but must admit i did some of these things for different reasons (fearful avoidant/disorganized attachment style with c-ptsd & depression trying to work on my own regulation when re-connected with a dismissive avoidant long distance) & he literally said he felt "addicted" to me so when we went a while without speaking it felt like what he imagined withdrawals would…

[generaljackripper]

Geez, it's almost like giving a guy his space, and not smothering him every minute of every day, leads to more stable and long lasting relationships.
Who would have thought?

[Iliekchoocolatye]

5 minute psychopathy lesson. This sounds like the female version of the D.E.N.N.I.S. method from it's always sunny in Philadelphia.