Shy To BOLD in 3 Steps (and How To DEMAND Respect)

Learn how to demand respect, display confidence and act boldly even if you consider yourself to be a little shy.

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[ikkin]

So glad I found this channel. I'm so TIRED of being talked over, having to repeat myself, not being respected, not having the type of people I want in my life, not having a Boyfriend, not having the life that I want. I'm tired of it! But I'm working on it, so thank you! @ The Charisma Matrix

[ellespears]

Barron, I can't thank you enough. I've suffered social anxiety as long as I can remember, situations like the one you've described here push me further back. I feel I'm never taken seriously. It hurts. But I've recently found your videos and will continue to watch and rewatch them, not only do they give me the guidance I've been looking for (unlike a lot of vague, unhelpful "self help" nonsense), but you seem to have a video for every problem I face, with great explanations and examples. I just want you to know what good you're doing. You are changing my life for the better. Thank you

[UltimateBargains]

You won't worry as much about what people think about you when you realize how seldom people think about you.

[jonahcordellgates]

Really well put together showing the 3 things you can do: 1) body posture: open, really open - it’s actually eye opening how little space you are taking up when you think you’re taking up a lot of space. 2) tonality, loud, loud and upbeat. 3) pinging. For me pinging was one of the biggest issues - it’s crazy how much I grew up looking around - every time someone walked into a room, I was lookin! Haha it comes off as a little validating seeming. It gives respect to the person you are talking with to really engage completely and not be constantly looking off to the side.

Cheers Baron!

[CharismaMatrix]

Do you like the format like this where I'm sitting down behind a microphone or standing up and moving around?

[butsirrr]

If Barron was a waiter:

"Hi, welcome, my name is Barron I'll be your waiter today! Today's special includes various freshly caught seafood from the Pacific. But before we get into the chef's specials, check out my free vocal tonality power checklist..."

[BowofRama]

Your channel is like finding a treasure chest

[kungfury]

If someone’s not taking you seriously in a conversation get real quiet and stare at them, then slap their face and say look at me, you listening.. I saw it in Goodfellas and it worked like a charm.

[Rubiastraify]

Sometimes, when I'm in a situation where I have to assert myself (but don't feel very brave), I call up in myself the "attitude" that I take when I go in for an interview. In an interview, I'm representing myself to a complete stranger, and I understand that EVERYTHING COUNTS - tonality, body language, gestures, eye contact, etc. - and when a job is on the line, I'm absolutely NOT going to be "shy" about my capabilities, skills, knowledge and smarts. When I bring that attitude into an uncomfortable social situation, I find that others treat me with more respect, than when I'm "just little ol' me..." In some circles, it's known as "pulling rank". I'm not "shy"; I'm an introvert, and I find it takes a lot of energy to "represent".

[larrygilbert]

Your statements on imagining what a leader or non-shy person would look like and how he'd carry himself in a similar situation and setting reminded me of something I learned a while back. I'm a classically-trained singer and I sing jazz, mostly. One problem I had early on was, "How do I move while I'm singing and what do I do with my hands?" I'd just stand there like of stiff, singing well but delivering poorly. The funny thing is, I've always been good at public speaking, and I like it, which is really odd as I'm typically painfully shy in one-on-one situations. Anyway, while speaking, i never had a problem moving around and gesturing appropriately. So, I started just speaking, not singing, lyrics to songs while practicing, as though delivering a speech. I'd often do this in front of a mirror to observe what I was doing. I'd also do it with my eyes closed, to get the feeling of how I was moving. The other thing I did was to watch videos of other, more competent singers doing the same songs. For example, I'd watch videos of Sinatra doing "Fly Me to the Moon" to see how he moved and used his hands. I'd start out by mimicking some of the things he did, but soon, along with my lyric recitation, I broke through those barriers and that stiffness. Before long, I developed my own ways of moving and gesturing while singing and I went from aping what other singers did to moving my own way, dancing my own dance.

Where I'm going with this is, we can not only imagine how a leader would move through a crowd, but we can see and study it, whether through movies and TV or in real life. You can start out copying those leaders' styles, but you'll likely soon develop your own. Even if you don't, and you continue to mimic, so what? Do what works. To paraphrase Duke Ellington, if it looks good, it is good.

[brandonclevenger]

Barron, all of these videos have helped me so much. I came across the Charisma Matrix while looking for a job and going through a ton of interviews. A lot of these things (body language, tonality, etc.) are things that I have never thought about before, but they make perfect sense. Even with my current elementary level of understanding of these things, I am much better at reading people and taking control of the situation when I need to. I'm currently a Service Advisor at a car dealership and even with slight adjustments of my tonality and body language, I have been able to take control of interactions with more difficult customers. A few months ago, I would have been the one backing down in these situations. Really good stuff.

[millevenon]

I absolutely love your advice. Don't stop Baron

[te]

The problem that I see with the opening assessment of this piece is that sometimes I think ignorance builds confidence, the shy specialist isn't as outspoken because with a true realm of intelligence you realize all the possibilities about your study and that can lead to uncertainty and unseen variables which I believe might make someone more softspoken because of a great awareness.

[stealthylemongaming]

This channel is absolutely life changing. I am using it to help my confidence in my YouTube videos!

[PrejudgedSeeker]

I hate those people who are loud and confident but give false information because other people will start believing in them. The ones who do that are over rated.

[apidas]

from others point of view, if you're qualified but really shy or quiet. that's your problem. it makes them easier for us to shut you down. not that we don't want to. but there's that options.
whereas shutting down much more confident people are difficult, challenging at best. not sure if there's a thrill in that, but things can escalate.

[sygb.]

I wish we had face to face courses like this here
Really need that

[IIMwieMandyII]

sounds to me like fake it till you make it

[doddsd]

This literally saved my life thanx so much

[Chris-eobp]

This truly does cater to the irrational side of humans. I appreciate this truth tho being assertive I did this today and it worked out