A Breakdown Of Why INTJs Are So Authentic

This video explains how INTJs develop our external personalities and how it's perceived by others.

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[peon]

I was literally having this conversation with a friend the other day. I was discussing how I tend to put on different faces for different situations, and I was questioning whether my personality was fake because of it. Putting a different spin on it definitely helps. Thinking back on it, even if I do put on different faces, at my core I'm never actually compromising my values. It's always for a reason. The few times it did feel fake (primarily as a teen), it didn't last long.

[Intuitioncalling]

My Ni predicts that your channel is going to explode in terms of its popularity if you continue to produce videos such as this one. Good job.

[Firstlove]

Future video suggestions: INTJ’s evolution through dating, interview with a INTJ female ( but one whose been married for a while or recently engaged), differences/similarities between INTJ females vs. Males…Awesome video by the way!

[buddhalovechild]

70 yo INTJ here. Thank you. This is the first time I felt someone understands. Hard to describe the misteps I made trying to fit in. I am now retired and the happiest I have ever been. I no longer have to fit into any system and am 3 years into a ridiculously challenging project. Heavan. Most days I spend by myself reviewing and processing then discarding a lifetime of shame and anger. I have learned that you know when you truly see some aspect of who you truly are because it first feels like death and then like freedom.

[smot-poker]

The fact that I know you're a fellow INTJ, gives me the belief that you're also genuine. Subscribed.

[epyonalpha]

Amazing breakdown! I love that you talk about the process and how exhausting it can be, as well as how exhausting it is to "exist" in a persona that is in the testing phase, so it's not natural. I know a lot of people that don't understand MBTI well have always thought I was more extraverted when they would initially meet me, so when they would see me in my more natural state it always garnered the same reaction, "You're quiet today, is something wrong?" To which I'd then have to go and explain that "No, this is how I am naturally, and especially when I enter a new system until I understand the ropes. Once I know how things flow I'll "fit in" where I can."

Then comes the lines that start generating the rage meter... "No... no, something is wrong. You don't have to hold it in, you can talk about it, " or "Well that's dumb, JUST BE YOURSELF." And that's where I usually have to excuse myself for a moment, lest the "blunt side" comes out too strong.

[imwritingapoemaboutit]

recently discovered im an intj, but for a long time i thought i was an fi dom because of how sensitive i am and how preoccupied i am with cultivating the "ideal self". i resonated with so much of what you said here. I tend to notice how i respond to others and what qualities of theirs i admire and then adopt said qualities. like you, ive always loved comedians. i learned to be funny and use my sense of humor early on in life because i didnt really know how else to connect with my peers. i also take note of the way certain people have treated me or those around me, and if it leaves an impression on me, i begin to treat others this way as well. i feel like im a collage of all the things i have ever loved.

[renardenfard]

As a female INTJ, I used to think I was on the autistic spectrum and masking to adapt, which might still be true but I haven’t been officially diagnosed. However, I have never felt more seen than in this video. Thank you for the clarity!

[anniefarrell]

This is so true. I remember when I was trying to simply improve myself, my goals and my spirituality my "friends" at work for some reason or another suddenly asked me if I thought I was better than everybody else. I remember being like wtf? at first, then hurt and well..we're no longer friends or associates. But it's a process. I love evolving into what I believe I am meant to be. We're not fake but constantly finding ourselves.

[Chrupignat]

The most INTJ thing I can hear in this video is you using very specific terms bordering on professional or more likely precise to make sure there is no possibility of misunderstanding the message. I understand it quite well as I tend to do the same when I'm talking about something that is important to me... and as being truthful and precise is very important to me. I'm an engineer/IT administrator by trade, that should explain a lot and yes - our stereotypes are quite true...

[Xereszone]

the persona thing is on point. when I mistype myself as infj because constantly change my persona depending on the situation and people im with just like infj being a social chameleon but what doesn't resonate is the FE. after going through functions and watching each personality type videos INTJ ticks all the boxes.
I also created different personas to cope with any kind of situation. I didn't know it was an intj thing until I watched this video.

[RonHaddock]

I really enjoyed the discussion concerning the adaptablility of the INTJ to the system they are in.
I didn't find out I was an INTJ till 10 years ago.
I have never found it to be a problem to adapt to the system I was in.
Force of personality is a real thing.
Living on my own at 16.
RM1(SS) on both Nucs and Diesels and 23 Navy schools.
I know you know what that entails. LOL
Regional Sales Manager.
Banking Software Development Project Manager.
At each of these groups, the core people and my leaders had values that mirrored my own.
If not, I moved on.
A funny quote that comes to my mind often is:
I don't have to walk a mile in your shoes, I can see you are a train wreck from way over here.
The difference between a seasoned professional and a rookie is the rookie has to look at everthing, before coming to a decision on what to do, where a pro automatically moves the nomal to the side and focuses on what is different, then makes a decision, of course always be open to what you did not see and others have.
I do find time and energy is my most valued possession.
Thank you for your efforts.

[sandisomtakati]

I can't believe how you always spot on regarding INTJ's

[tingting]

Now that I think about it my INTJ personality started developing after I watched MaidSama at 5th grade. And it was all Misaki. I just finished my University recently. I didn’t even noticed it till now.

[azaleaglow]

Just discovered your channel and I'm happy to see another INTJ joining the YouTuber community. Thank you for your videos, congratulations on your growth so far, and keep up the great work 👏Side note, I love that you assigned family roles to our cognitive functions and yourself; it makes them sound so endearing. Gotta love Papa Ni, Mama Te, Auntie Fi, Baby Se, and of course, Uncle Jon :)

[michellelea]

Thank you for this… excellent breakdown. I often tell my hubby the only time I feel comfortable around people is when I am at an event with a specific focus…. Hence I have a built in subject to talk about and feel somewhat comfortable. If you take me to a basic event with strangers and expect me to small talk and enjoy it… I would personally prefer getting a cavity filled. And yes… I’ve done the “well… I’m just going to be honest here”…. Sometimes it makes people mad, sometimes it makes them laugh and other times they just nod their head like this one is interesting”. At almost 53 and a female to boot, I am tired of the personas game (though admit I am definitely adept at playing it) and I just am now. If someone finds it disingenuous all I can say is “yeah, well, that’s just like your opinion, man”. 😊. I have subscribed.. great work fellow INTJ.

[kaycevanveer]

Wow. Thank you again! I never realized how similar INFJ and INTJs are. You are helping me with so much stuff that I experience on a regular basis. I see you. 👀❤

[TheIT]

I couldn’t help but think of the Great Gatsby when you mentioned the system, where he has his rich person persona of always being polite and such, then there’s the side where he is who he is whenever he’s around close friends

I really like how you worded that, where you exaggerate an element of yourself. Almost all the time I always secretly disliked how flexible I felt my actions and personality was, and I always had disdain for how how I acted or what I’d say where sometimes afterwords it felt empty, as if who I act to be is actively being watched from a distance by myself and such

However, it is good to note that whenever you are like that it is someone you wanted to be or needed to be.
While you directly worked on personas with awareness, I somewhat developed them subconsciously, and it seems they always were what I needed to be in a situation using elements of who I was, whether it’s very soft and caring to those who were emotionally weakened / struggling, or a relaxed attitude where I felt like was safe, or a somewhat arrogant and confident when challenged yet very cautious during normal circumstances, etc, where what I needed to be to succeed in whatever goal I had I was able to adapt to

Idk where this was going, but it’s comforting to get reassurance that it wasn’t all empty nonsense

[LaMach]

Best INTJ channel on YT, hands down. Really appreciate your work Jon, super helpful.

[Souperior]

i was a bit late to get to this community but i have to say... Im addicted, by the way you express what i feel in a way i get. I love the way you know how we feel and i feel understood. Thank you and i assure you, You've earned a new subscriber and supporter.