This is why so many men are single…#shorts

[Mindmymind-OG]

My husband dated MULTIPLE girls who did this. Once we started dating, and I saw that he was on the defensive because of past traumas, I made it my mission to make him feel as safe as he makes me feel. I cant speak for him, but our relationship has grown into something so amazing

[arturosalinas]

Even if they're 💯 at fault, no accountability will be taken. Gaslighting will commence

[stinkwink]

The flow chart goes like this:
1. He screws up>she gets mad>He apologizes and makes up for it.
2. She screws up>he gets mad>she gets mad>he apologizes and makes up for it.

[XRPotential]

Plus, a woman will receive lots of support, will get build up, and most friends will side with her. The man is generally on his own. This even happens online as well with strangers.

[johnblackhead]

Most women accept no responsibility for their actions and rarely apologize for their cruelty.

[stinkwink]

Men will just quit all together before taking anything out on the next girl. Women will take a grudge from 3 guys ago out on you.

[chrismhickey]

This is spot on, due to the trauma from my ex wife and my mother, I dealt with the same stuff. I went to therapy to get rid of that trauma and even though I share custody with my ex wife, I still avoid her as much as possible because she’s thrown the fact that I’ve seen 4 therapists at once, done CBT, EMDR, and also ketamine (which ended up being the thing that scratched that itch) right back at me. Funny cause I did all of that just so I could have my daughter in my life.

Ladies, stop this crap, you wonder why I’ve run away from you, well this would be the reason, cause I get a whif of you treating me this way and I am out

[exothermal.sprocket]

Love his accessory shotgun barrel. Big thumbs up.

[chadaustin]

Some women are really good at doing this without you knowing.

[joeramrod]

I'm literally dealing with this now.. I had to explain she always plays the victim and makes me look like the asshole

[karenjohnson]

Women make men out to be all sorts of evil without taking any responsibility for their side of the relationship. Women, ever only seem to be victims these days yet so often are doing unreasonable relationship tests designed to make him fail. There is so much of this online

[dementiasorrow]

All break ups I EVER suffered through I was made to feel like shit having all my insecurities and mental problems thrown at me like they were character flaws.
I have Adhd and that has always been an issue, but the key thing is they picked on common things that happens to everybody and made me feel incompetent saying I need medication and therapy...but I don't I'm a functioning competent adult and I don't need medication to manage my condition.
This is such an important topic. This may cause depression an other mental health issues. Women please be compassionate during break up. Take emotional responsibilty and just say you want different things. Don't hurt your partner emotionally because it is brutal and devastating to have to go thrugh moarning a relationship and on top of that have to rebuild your self esteem and work on your mental health.

[maeshelley]

As a woman who recently realized how my insecurities were doing this and now I feel so bad and such regret!! 😭 (Now in therapy for 4 mths to heal myself.) He was a truly wonderful man who loved me well but understandably he broke up with me. I would give anything to love him again.

[eichzoernchen]

as a man i must say: i'm not sure about this... gaslighting, framing and blackmailing aso. often goes both ways in my experience

[joea]

People regardless of gender can have emotional baggage and unresolved conflicts from childhood that create relationship problems. The key is having self awareness, acknowledging neurotic behaviors that harm partners and children and seeking help. It really is all about unresolved conflicts from childhood. Most domestic fights, arguments are expressing our existential angst from childhood. One other real conflict is men and women’s differing communication styles, men tend to be direct in communication styles while women tend to be indirect.

[Gardenandglass]

To be completely honest this isnt really about men or women, this is about narcissistic abuse. Anyone who has ever been with a narcissist goes through this. Anything you do or say can and WILL be used against you, this is how a narcissist gets control over you in a relationship, both men and women are guilty of this.

[jeffreypmurphy]

So many people (women especially, though) seem to justify bad action with "well, person A did bad thing A to me, so I can do bad thing to person B".

[DavidCooper-vhnr]

Emily, sometimes when I'm just sittin around and "feelin sorry for myself", l think "But all the good ones are already taken" and what's left are "damaged goods".
I still cling to the hope that l will find someone like you.
You are " a Keeper" for sure and an inspiration to me.
Cincinnati, Ohio

[MrMarried]

Add equality to the consequences of court and accusations, and all this gaslighting stops.

[raphaelsolo]

It's not just in the demise of a relationship. Went to a bar with my wife and people were saying "If he ever hurts you just let us know."

Society a simple if/then logic sequence. If male, then bad guy