Confidence At Work - How To Increase Your Confidence At Work

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[sleve]

Wow, that's so true, i always worry about keeping my job, not making mistakes and not getting fired. That s what gives me anxiety, everything you said is so on point

[Lichfeldian--Suttonian]

Hi Dr. Aziz,

Thank you massively. This is truly gold!
I suffer from authority anxiety and is just my experience at work!
The idea of slavery is spot on, though I have never heard it expressed in that way before.
I have felt enslaved (so trapped) in those three areas of my life in terms of what I _must_ do:
1 — Culture/Society.
2 — Law.
3 — The Employer, the line manager, the boss.
It’s where I _must_ be the man of the highest calibre, yes that 100% perfection, that Superman that you mention, especially for women, and that I _must submit to authority!_
The notion of losing everything — job, woman, home, life — has been my lifelong fear (it’s a good job that I live singly at the moment!).
It’s interesting that my primary title, and most poignant title, that I have felt most a slave, is “gentleman”, which goes along with Superman, Spartacus, James Bond, etc. I am being a slave or 'slave' to the culture.
So when in Rome, I _must_ do as the Romans do, (I have called it the ‘Rome cage’) and If I don't AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH! 😬😲☹🤐

I am living that dream at work, that of draughtsperson, and have done since 1987 and have fought through my fears in all that time!
Now, I need to find the confidence that _I_ want, and _not_ the confidence that I am told to have, tell those ‘tellers’ to ‘do one’, and not to rely on the ‘authority’ to ‘approval’, a kind of ‘Please sir, am I doing this right?’

Goodbye ‘Eeyore’ and hello ‘Tigger’! 🐯

[dwightschrute]

Before I even watch this video I want to say thanks! I know I might be late here but it’s crazy how there’s a lack of such content online. I’ve graduated with Master, had several great roles in management, worked around the world, yet this lack of confidence is destroying me! Every time I start a new job I get anxious to not meet KPIs, I always think I’m under qualified for the role, and that Ive been hired out of luck! I often realise that most people in their jobs have little experience or knowledge yet they are respected and make themselves look smart and important because they are confident! I wish everyone to overcome this issue, I think the best way is to step out for a sec and remember we’re not defined by our job.

[meldepaz]

Your confidence, makes you so attractive. Like a magnet

[bells]

Watching this as a 16 year old with a new job in retail. I feel so awkward but this helped with the mindset

[ceeg]

This is so on point! I may share this perspective with my company to help management understand the mental health of their employees✊🏾

[biaat]

A woman here.  I've been watching a few of your videos every once in a while and trying to slowly shift my mindset!  

[jcepri]

Your message about being able to face the fear of being fired could be applied to many different fears. I freeze when I encounter issues that other ppl seem to have no problem with. I recently noticed that the door on my dishwasher was leaking and it totally disabed me for the day. I felt this anxiety because I didn't know what to do. Its like I always need someone to provide advice or help me. I have no trust in my own capabilities.I need to just sit with that feeling and send it love. Then, think through some solutions. You're awesome, Dr. Aziz.

[ENGRALiArtZ]

Hi! I am a Engineer(Philippines) and I had a social anxiety since childhood and get me struggle everyday specially at work thank you so much for this video for taking back my confidence step by step. Hope create more videos about this (virus) in my brain this virus killed me every time when i had a presentation at work or meeting talking to my bosses. This help me so much Thank you and God bless.

[andrewsokulski]

Thank you so much!
I actually have this issue at home with my Dad and at work. This helped a lot

[terrijohnson]

Love the suggestion to exercise self compassion. That is a good piece of advice as we tend to be our worst critics and not give ourselves grace. This was a very helpful video and you are great at this.

[johnpetty]

You are very helpful and insightful. I will continue to watch and apply your wisdom. Thanks.
John

[fatmah]

Thank you Dr aziz for your videos. I have been watching them for a year now and I have improved in so many areas eye contact, confidence around people, and confidence at work.. thanks again.

[aplas]

I really connected with your message. i have lost so many jobs because i overlooked most of the key points that you make here. You have a great way of not only saying what needs to be said but you also say it in a way that inspires people. Thanks

[michellejones]

I appreciate this video and the perspective you have given me!

[dawnw]

Thank you. Some great take aways and a nice boost to my own confidence.

[mstango]

Great advice. I didn't do this too much. Freaked out at work. Need to let go. Need some passion think it might be a career change feel out of sorts and unhappy. Need to look at this situation another way.

[kimwalker]

My daughter showed me your videos, and oh man, do they hit home. I am the biggest ass kisser in a social setting especially at jobs. I smile constantly, worry obsessively about what I say, how I act.. will everyone like me. I would say "good morning" to everyone at work, every single morning, first. Starting new jobs, I would put my hand out to introduce myself to each and every worker there. They'd look at me like I was from another planet. I would always tell myself, "do not say hello first, let them acknowledge you one time, " but I would always give in and say hello because it felt so awkward to not acknowledge them.. though I wondered why they didn't seem to care if they greeted me. I hated the awkward silences if alone with someone. I would ask them about their lives, how they're doing, how they're kids are.. etc.. And, never ever did anyone ask about my life. I would leave work, say bye to everyone every single time I left, and one day I remember I told myself, "Do not say bye to these people." They watched me clock out, and leave and no one acknoweldged me leaving. It was very hard to not say "have a good night, see ya later" but I didn't. It felt good on one hand, but also an isolation that was uncomfortable. I have noticed that the more nice I am to co-workers, the more they seem to dislike me. So, watching your videos has helped me see what I'm doing wrong, and is helping me change my ways. I have felt alone in my awkwardness and anxiety my whole life.. never feeling like I fit in. I appreciate your videos.

[brugiti_]

Brilliant. Gold content, thank you Dr. Aziz

[rachellopez]

I felt like you were talking straight to me. Thank you so much.