C-PTSD AND THE ATTACH/CRY OUT FOR HELP RESPONSE: WHAT IS MY TRAUMA TYPE? (SERIES)

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This video is about the ATTACH/CRY OUT FOR HELP Trauma Type Response in C-PTSD (FROM THE TRAUMA TYPES: FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE, FAWN, COLLAPSE/SUBMIT AND ATTACH/CRY OUT FOR HELP).

We explore C-PTSD and the ATTACH/CRY OUT FOR HELP Response, using Pete Walker's book "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" and examine why a person may use this response and how it impacts their life and relationships, especially around safety and intimacy needs, and what helps to heal when this is your go-to trauma response.

We also explore what it takes to begin healing your FAWN response, if it is a go-to trauma type for you.

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3. IDENTIFYING CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT

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[schannaish]

Omg this is me. I’ve actually just recently been thinking about bringing up with my therapist my cravings to be ‘seen’ by her in session, but I kept dismissing it because it sounded so weird. This was so helpful, thank you! I would love more content on this type of trauma response since it’s so niche.

[saloire]

My goodness! Someone just turned the light on! I’ve been having these problems for years and was beginning to think I was borderline, but this sums up everything I go through with close relationships in a nutshell. And the closer I get to someone, the worst this response gets, and the fear of abandonment ramps up. On top of that, even if somebody does meet the need I have to be rescued, the separation anxiety just gets worse and worse until I have to end the relationship. My current partner and I have stayed together for 20 years because he is actually slightly detached from me which means I don’t feel these abandonment wounds in the same way. I’m struggling with my best friend at the moment. We’ve been friends for two years and I have got quite close. But I keep engineering situations where I get sad, cry out for help and he comes and rescues me. It makes me feel so good, but it’s like a drug and not healthy in a long-term. it feels like it game I’ve been trapped in and keep replaying over and over again with different people. It’s such a paralysingly helpless feeling!

[dieresis]

A video on sabotaging behaviors would be helpful, perhaps relating them back to trauma patterns.

[MM-zsrp]

Wow. This one is me for sure, and I still feel guilty on some level for being that way as a child. The “I hate you” meltdowns every day that were really a child in pain still leave me feeling guilty. Gotta love it!!

[TMMT]

I feel that this was one of the ways I responded prior to deep depression…I went to my mom I was comfortable confiding in her since she experienced similar stuff I was stressed about a lot so I was hoping she’d hear me and again I felt overlooked and unheard from there..I see I was stressed in survival mode and couldn’t think clearly seeking support….She said I was 26 and grown which made me feeling funny and that support stops then and as a 26 year old you deal with what your dealing with on your own…Im questioning if mothers stop emotionally supporting children once one is an adult when they’re in stressful situations

[kerissacox]

I think this one and collapse/submit or freeze are my dominant ones. Most of the time I do this first and then collapse when I realize there’s no point/I’m being dismissed/invalidated

[laurenbrogan]

I find your videos very helpful and comforting. Especially around the more disorganized - wanting to get my needs met but then being on high alert that the shoe will drop. It makes it challenging to relax in and fully receive getting my needs met. Working on it, though. Thank you! 💜

[Taratreehugger]

So there are over 6, 000 views of this video and only 13 comments.

Is this response super unusual??

I have known about the other trauma responses for 15 years and never heard of this one. It explains everything to me - why I can’t cope the way other people do, why I am never in denial, always aware of my feelings, always working on myself, yet I never get better.

[ambernouri]

I'm crying out for help cause I'm tired of the stress and struggle with my Life

[Mi-kfbc]

Your videos are so wonderful and i'm sure will help many! Thank you for making them. Curious if you are open to the idea of seeking a mic with a bit more base (or a room with less echo)? I notice when i listen to the videos with headphones the audio lands quite sharp.

[Taratreehugger]

There isn’t much information on the web about this response at all! If you find something folks, can you post it on here for other people to see?

[Toto-kntr]

Seen and saved or seen and safe? I only recognize the latter.

[EllieGoddard-rhjc]

This is my second main trauma type other than freezing if my friends ant there I just isolate myself because my friends arnt there so I just end up feeling lonely and upset same for people I really admire I constantly want to be around my friends to the point where boundaries can be effected iam often nosy intrusive and tend to follow my friends around too much lmao.