Self Love VS Narcissism

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[noahhh]

"Ultimately, there's no difference between self-love and love of others." I like this way of looking at it.

[XZXZ]

This is such an important concept! I realize most people do not understand the difference between self-love, narcissism and cannot distinguish between codependency and love

[alex-ander-]

A big "Thank you!" to the lady for asking the question and a bigger "Thank you!" to you for answering it so clearly!

[GaiusAsiniusPollio]

Unconditional love that starts with yourself. Only the master within can love unconditionally.

[briivdienaa]

Basically: let others be free and do what they want and do what you want too ;-)

[xoxchunaxox]

the way you can just speak factually and be caring while being informative on some of the sht I repeatedly quietly ask myself is just awesome, , also that just helped me get out of bed, and for that I thank you.

[withanianight]

This articulated so well what I was feeling but had trouble putting into words. I have a friend who advocates a lot about self-love and empowerment, but things they would say felt controlling at times, they'd demand people to behave how they wanted them behave, implying heavily in the light of "self-love" and "self respect" and they had for themselves and said "These are my boundaries, and if people don't respect them, they don't respect me."(Early in the friendship I thought "oh this is self love and empowerment", but i learned the hardway on my own it was controlling and not ok because I wasn't respecting other person choices and free will, I was pushing how I thought they should behave just because "it was the mature and healthy way". No one should force another how to be, regardless if you're right or wrong, it's not a mutal thing to force change on someone.) They will do what they can and you can always choose to step away if needed. I would always have to be on alert mode with my friend and be careful because I was scared they were going to tell me im not respecting their boundaries therefore not respecting them as a friend (words they have mentions mutiple times about others), but it just made it exhausting to be around them because I had to be on it 100% of the time and be careful how I said things or what I talked about. I really did respect them, but I was loosing myself tbh to be to their mold. And they did grow up in a dysfunctional family dynamic exactly the one you mentioned. I know they don't mean ill intention, but it became stressful to be around them.

[marinagentilcore]

I think that practicing self-love (at least for me) has proven especially difficult when I find incompatibilities in a relationship I’m in. Because unfortunately sometimes there’s no way to bridge the gap between what I want and someone else wants if they are extremely different and ironically the practice of self-love there is to accept the incompatibility. I feel I’ve had to do this many times and it’s led to a lot of endings in both friendships and romantic relationships. But I know that ending/leaving those situations was what was in the highest good of everyone because I feel like now I’m finally attracting supportive people in my life who see and hear me and vise versa.

[pranayomama]

Self Love, felt only in states where we relate to a higher conscious presence beyond ourselves... and not so much ourselves or our priorities, needs, etc...
Self love is like a breathe that lasts a thousand years, or a drop of water sufficient to quench a thirst...

[lailamnn]

You have covered such a vast and complexes sphere of human relations in such a precise and cleared way . Thank you Teal, you are my daily company and dose of learning ❤

[michellewalker]

Codependent on people being dependent on me... This is most ugly parts ...thank you for the truth ...nailed it...may be I can hopefully change THIS...

[randomelvis]

It’s very simple, ask yourself this question often:

Am I coming from GAIN or GIVE?

Mastering the art of GIVE… places us in a “conscious gain” but is totally motivated from the place of “GIVE” ✨🙏🏻

Make GIVE your motivation…love is always giving ✨ be your very best version ✨

[David_J._Kozirovsky]

Love.. of... HUMANITY! Which innately then includes and involves your own. Narcissists don't love and stand for their own humanity; they love and fight for their false image and everything that helps them to maintain it.

If you do love yourself and the rights of humanity with self-respect and dignity you fight for, you need a healthy ego with strong opinions which people will of course project onto.

Love always deals with foundation things pertaining to the wellness of our emotional/psychological well-being which is inherently about mutuality and reciprocity.

[janefem]

I'm a bit done with the self love concept. What has come to work for me is being in a state of love. When I stop...put myself in a state of love There is love for all where all is at in the moment. For me there is something magical in BEING in a state of love. You cannot be in a state of love and not love yourself and others and all. It also creates clarity on boundaries for me as I can see more clearly what does not serve my state of being love, while holding tge opportunity to compassionately allow others the space to have their experience and learnings. Consciously feeling love within and without until separation melts away and you become awareness in the is joy and clarity in this space, there is compassion and clarity for what we are all here individually learning and experiencing and you can do it anywhere at anytime.

Thank you for the space to share this. 🙏

[empress]

Omg where did you come from thank you so must the glory to the almighty god creator for bringing this revelation to light and me accepting and meshing and becoming one with myself this is the best day of my life
YOUR DOING A GLORIFIED JOB
YOUR SENDING A UNIVERSAL MESSAGE AND I THANK YOU FOR BEING A MESSENGER YOUR HELPING THE WORLD SOULS PAIN BODY TRAUMA INNER WOUNDS MINDS AND SPIRITS

[human-qpmf]

I'm in my 60s never heard of this narcissism stuff. It's easy to point out now.
I hope I never stop caring for people.
I'm good, I hope everyone fines their way, don't follow me I think I stepped in something.
It's to hard knowing....😢

[chanodyaweerasinghe]

"Self-love and love of others; it's all self-love" ❤

[jacquelinehendricks]

Thank you Teal. Sending love and hugs ❤

[სალომეგუგავა]

control is super important and necessary

[indigoneutral]

People just need to zoom out of their own perspective. The 2D matrix of phones and social media has put the focus more on the individual perspective and less on the collective, which means even if you're doing something for somebody else, ultimately most people are doing it because it makes them feel good. It is impossible to fully remove the individual from the equation when we talk about giving to others, but it has to be a functional relationship, no matter who it involves. As well, we are complex individuals of a fractal nature, so we have to cultivate a healthy relationship with self, which involves giving the physical body what it needs, as well as the emotional body. But that also means we have to make peace with being uncomfortable. Sometimes the emotional body needs to process bad feelings, and the self loving thing to do is sit with it, instead of running from it. As with all things, it's a process. Much peace.