Narcissistic Behavior: Modifying Actions vs. Genuine Care

Narcissistic Behavior: Modifying Actions vs. Genuine Care

Being in a relationship with a narcissist, where the person may modify their actions and words but lack a genuine emotional connection or care for their partner.

The importance of focusing on the facts and evidence of the narcissist's behavior, rather than getting caught up in feelings, in order to recognize the reality of the situation.

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[terrywade]

No matter what wonderful words come out of his mouth, he DEMONSTRATES that he doesn’t care about me. No matter what behavioral modifications he makes, he DEMONSTRATES that he doesn’t care about me. No matter what I do, he DEMONSTRATES that he doesn’t care about me. Thank you, Ben for the fine word, DEMONSTRATE. It is an ACTION word that keeps me focused on what I actually see rather than what I hear. Another fine word is CONSISTENTLY. I like to add them together and remind myself, what does he CONSISTENTLY DEMONSTRATE? he CONSISTENTLY DEMONSTRATES that he doesn’t care about me. That’s the only CONSISTENCY he has! NO. I’m wrong about that. He does consistently lie, show lack of compassion, or remorse, manipulates, gaslights, controls, insists on his way, hides money, defends himself and never wants to hear my opinions.

[Bat_Boy]

That's a criticism of CBT (cognitive behavior therapy). You can learn to change your words, actions, and behavior, however, that does NOT neccessarily mean you have made a deep, internal, mental, everlasting change. Edit: However! Even it's just an outward adjustment, this is a huge shift for a narcissist that is NOT likely to achieve at all, because self-awareness is extremely difficult for them.

[GloriaGonzalez-zzwp]

No matter how much school they are these dogs that don't appreciate nothing when you do for them and then you know when they finish get what they want they move on and they don't know you anymore and they look at you like you're the worst enemy so they don't care so you know what Ben is my time to shine now moving on thank you Ben

[Csmith]

Obviously your wife is so wonderful and you have come along way in your own healing journey. Is it possible to have more insight from her perspective? Did she give up on you for you to realise you needed to change? Did you cheat on your wife? Did you discard her? Did she leave? Just wanting the other side’s perspective if it’s possible