5 Things Life Is Too Short to Worry About

Our human brains like to worry. Some of the worrying is adaptive and for our survival and some of it is not. Much of our worry is not protecting our lives it's preventing our lives and here I teach you some key things to stop worrying about so you can feel less stressed and anxious and more calm, clear and confident.
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[juliakristinamah]

Hey you all - what connected with you from this video? I'd love to hear.

[dwshbag]

Thank you for this. I’m 45 and single. I’m pretty content being single and just enjoy living my life on my own terms. But I feel I’m surrounded by this constant pressure that there’s something weird or wrong about being single and content. I constantly feel that people look down at me as being in a relationship is such a societal norm. But I need to let go of this worry and carry on living my life on my own terms. And not bowing to societal pressure. Thank you.

[KaitlinsCovers]

I will try and stop being so hard on myself for every “mistake” I make.

[MikeAnn]

Julia Kristina, something that really connected with me was when you said something to the effect, "Painful/hard things are part of the human experience." So true, and in a way _calming!_ It's to be _expected._ What I'm feeling is _normal._ And it will pass.

You went on to say, "You know you can get through hard things or you wouldn't be sitting here right now." That put an instant smile on my face. I think I heard you say it once before, and I liked it then but the reminder was helpful. It made me flash back to just a couple of the numerous things in my life which, especially at the time, seemed *very* hard. Medical issues, relationship heartbreaks, deaths, trying something scary (like my first flying lesson, or my first MRI) lost valuables, big changes. *Yet here I am.* I really like that, Julia Kristina, thank you.

I'd like to add something that I invented over a decade ago -- unless I plagiarized the idea from someone and forgot 😁😂! I keep an ongoing "worries list" on which I record every significant worry that I experience and remember to put down. Then later after life has determined the outcome, I add a notation to the list: it happened, or it didn't happen. Or sometimes I have a third notation: it happened but it wasn't as bad as I feared. Well, to my amazement, _very few of those worries ever pan out!_ I mean, something like 90%.

I bet you're not surprised by that, but I sure was. The takeaway is that I can now _sometimes_ successfully calm a _current_ worry by reminding myself that my own data shows it's not likely to happen. It's not a perfect system, since I forget some entries -- probably more than I realize -- but it has _helped._ An older version of my list even had a column to answer the question: "Did worrying make the outcome any better?" or something like that. Unfortunately I lost track of that list so I don't recall what I learned from that part. 😃 But it was nice to hear your reminder that it most likely _won't_ benefit or prepare me. OK, that was long but hopefully useful to someone. Thanks, Julia.

[_GiGiBloom_]

Thank you for this!! I’ve been raised being told “you worry about what you’re going to worry about” and now I am a worrier! And a people pleaser 😩 I’m working on it finally at 53

[gerardineKubacki]

✋🏻I’m a worrier and over thinker and get very anxious. Great video!

[arozsa-h]

“We wonder why we don’t trust ourselves” — so good!!

[tayy]

Hey, my name is Tavon. A friend brought me here today and I’m glad to be here (:

[carmenl]

"You were fine until this information was made available to you." This really stood out to me, I recently ended a 2 year relationship and I felt sad but grateful until some information was presented to me by a friend. My ex and her were texting for months and there were hundreds of messages between them. Nobody told me and I was extremely upset when I found this information out. The two had met through me only once, but yet they had 100+ messages between each other? I felt betrayed, angry, humiliated, and cheated on. But before all this, I was okay. This puts things into perspective, how I feel is what I choose to do with the information presented to me. I also know it was not my fault, because even if I hadn't introduced the two of them, my ex would have slipped into another women's DMs.

[meme-qnuv]

you are correct in saying you won't trust yourself much if your in a relationship where you are criticized for every little thing.
I spent 23 years in one and now struggle to shut the voice out and trust myself. It's been 7 years and its getting better, I'm still learning.

[Simplyme]

I grew up with parents who criticized everything I did (even when I succeeded) so I do have bad self doubt. I started a new job from home during this pandemic and it has gotten my worries and second guessing to the next level. I haven’t connected with anyone at my new company or team and the worries about whether I’m doing my job right, doing it fast enough, am I asking too many questions? ... It’s all debilitating. This video has opened up my eyes!! I just purchased your self-trust course. Can’t wait to dig deep and fix this self doubt in me.

[admirbarucija]

As someone who tends to worry a LOT, this is exactly the kind of video I needed!! I know I don’t need to be worrying and yet I still feel it sometimes. I hope you’re doing really well 💖

[jahzah]

1. what other ppl think you should be doing with your life
2. What is driving someone else’s action- don’t read between the lines, instead just ask that person respectfully
3. What other people are doing
4. The future, don’t worry about what maybe, might or could be happening. It’s going to happen anyway so live in the present
5. Making mistakes, get out of perfectionist brain

[angelferris]

Learning that I could give myself permission to ask what they meant or what they were thinking instead of automatically making it mean something negative about myself has been life changing 🧡 Thanks Julia. I am forever grateful 🧡

[christopher]

If someone treated me the way I treat myself I wouldn't have anything to do with them.

[MT-uksq]

It's actually crazy how many people overthinks and ruins for themselves. Why are we like this? Life is too short and we're wasting it in our heads 😣

[RoadRunnergarage]

I keep telling myself that I've been through difficult times and it helps me get through...

[cookiemonster]

Thank you for this video! You’re right there are a lot of things that cause us to worry. The constant worrying hinders progression.

[wandalee]

I am so happy that your channel showed up on my feed! You are straightforward, smart, and strong!

[thcxrevlikeit]

Hi my name is Allan and i am from New Zealand. Your work is truly amazing! Thank you for your educational and inspiring videos what connected with me with this video is the anxiety of the future and trying to be the perfect father and husband all the time. I feel like you have given me tools to better be myself each day. Thank you Julia!