5 Things Most People Get Wrong About Life

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In today's new video, I talk about 5 things most people get wrong about life. These five things are quite common and easy pitfalls to fall into, and I myself have definitely done some of them as well. By breaking down these common pitfalls that can hold us back, we can also reframe how we think about them. So that we can learn and grow, and no longer hold ourselves back.

Lots of love,
🌼 Vera

VIDEO CHAPTERS
Intro 0:00
Magic fixes 0:59
Life maxxing 4:56
Past or future 8:55
Happiness destination 12:29
Opinions 15:49

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[cherylatkinson]

My friend told me to watch your channel and I'm so glad she did. I just turned 61 and in need of zen

[jenniferhuff]

I think our society encourages short term rewards. I agree with long term goals.

[annettekeslinger]

Your emotional quotient (EQ) is well beyond your years. I'm very impressed. As a more seasoned woman, I wish I had your maturity when I was younger.

[polish_native]

Dear Vera, I can only share my personal approach to anxiety 🙂 Do you know what I do when I feel it? I just let it be. I don't focus on trying to fight it and make it let go. All I think is "oh, hi anxiety, how are you doing? I will let you sit here with me for a while, a will not try to frighten you and I believe that after a while you will just go". I know, it sounds a little bit out there, but it really works for me. You know, at least I don't feel anxious over feeling anxious if that makes sense😅

[Magazinelady]

You mentioned mindfulness. It is about staying in the present. Depression is when we are looking to the past. Anxiety is when we are looking towards the future. When you catch yourself in the past or in the future, bring yourself back to the present. As you said and I elaborated on it, "Right here, right now, I am safe. I have food, water, clothes, heat. etc."

[marlamartucci]

You have such wonderfully calming communication style....
. Like sitting with a wise, warm, and well-spoken friend ❤

[susannah]

As a kid I was different from other kids; my Mum told me the quote from Thoreau; "If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer." I also loved the line from the song "Garden Party"-Rick Nelson. "You see, you can't please everyone, so you got to please yourself." (1972)

[tainoaquarian]

I adore this video, but separate from anything else, please accept the compliment that: your hair looks exceptionally healthy & beautiful!
Love to see you rock~ the voluminous wonderfully wavy locks!

[dfuetwr]

What was freeing for me, was to realise that caring about what people think was not the problem per se, but those specific people might not be my community. Even if it's your family, or where you are from. There are many different people around, and you can find yours. After all we are social animals, so wanting to be part of a community is like instinct and being worried about being left out too. I still care a little about what people think, but only because these are people I respect and look up to. and while I don't let them decide for me, I do listen to what they say and decide for myself if they have a point

[connie_daisy]

The life maxing thing reminds me of reading too! I’m part of reading Facebook groups and people constantly set ‘targets’ to read x number of books per month or year and then pressure themselves and probably feel annoyed if they don’t reach their goals. I don’t count the books I read. I read them when I feel like it.

[stitchysworld]

I took a break from Facebook and Instagram and I’ve noticed that some things that I used to care about don’t seem like a big deal at all. Comparison is the thief of joy, but I would add that it’s also the killer of gratitude. Now that I’m not seeing social media as “reality”, I’m a lot more appreciative of the little things in my life that bring me joy. Thanks for another great video! I always love your content!

[Haynee]

Your comment about being childfree by choice resonate so much with me! My boyfriend and I spend so many years trying to justify our choice, dreading the questions about it and finding excuses... I was always coming up with jokes but then our friends thought we just hated children (not at all, we like them, just don't want any of our own ) At some point I even considered pretending having health issues so that people stopped asking >< At 37 yo I'm finally comfortable just saying "I don't want any and that's it" and I don't try to explain myself anymore to people who don't even want to understand. I love being an auntie and godmother, it's just all the best moments <3
Thank you for this great video Vera, a lot of food for thoughts which I like! <3

[susangrimm]

I have held this philosophy for many many years but I seem to drift away from it at times during the chaos of life. Thank you for bringing me back and re-centering me:-)

[melaniefromafar]

I enjoy the way you intercut your discussion with the nature scenes…this time the ducks almost stole the show at the end, right after your reference. A very enjoyable and subtle way to enhance your message.

[moniquechristiansen]

10 years ago, during a hard divorce, I focused on knitting only square, cotton dish cloths. I still am solely doing them bc the cotton, the $ cost, the colors, the rhythm & the pattern makes me happy. Additionally, I get to give them away. 2 years into making them I was with a girlfriend and we were trying out a Coffee & Knitting club. To see if it was a good match for us. The second month we attended, a member of that group came over to me, looked at my project and unkindly commented about my "still" working on "that". BTW it was a different color than the one I was doing during the previous group's monthly meeting. I responded assertively, not either passive or aggressive. With a warm smile at her, I said I know, isn't it a wonderful pattern ? I kept my big blue eyes focused on her eyes while I waited for her response. My eyes spoke to her saying, I know what you are doing & it will not work here. She simpered, saying yes, caught in a mess of her own making. She went away. We never went back. All to say, I am fully HSP but, I have learnt with time & experience to be kind, thoughtful & strong.

[jennyjenkins]

For so long, I was searching for the holy grail of personal care products but I'm at the point that good enough is good enough now because I hate trying something new that's worse than what I've been using.

[zeinabrahmani-tnrq]

I read the book "When Things Don’t Go Your Way" twice this month—I read it once and immediately read it again. I liked it so much! In the book, the author talks about 'Small but Certain Things' and gives an example: 'a drawer full of neatly folded and stacked underwear.' After reading this book, I started paying attention to these small things that make me happy and found so much more happiness in my life. Now, I can think of many examples of 'Small but Certain' happiness in my own life. That was a really big 'wow' moment for me. Now, I live much more at ease, enjoying life and feeling happy. Thanks a lot for introducing this amazing book and sharing your thoughts on this idea! ❤☺

[HollyL-ty]

Great video! I have to say that I’m not sure I ever had a real lightbulb moment, but turning 40 almost a decade ago flipped a switch. I stopped caring what people thought and started doing things my own way. I stopped wearing uncomfortable clothes and shoes, because that’s what others thought I looked best in. I stopped asking permission and doing what I thought was right instead, and ask forgiveness if needed. I wasn’t really conscious of the changes at first, but it is so freeing.

[mcrl]

Btw your hair looks more and more beautiful and healthy 😍 nothing compared with how it looked when you diyed it and bleached it

[penny]

*Great* video Vera - one of your best, and that is saying something. 🌸