Non-Monogamy Becoming More Mainstream? | The View

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[signalfire]

“How many orgasms can one girl fake?!” Lmaoooo Joy!!!

[Romain_Galland]

I’m not polyamorous but the panel really didn’t do any research on the topic. They were so ignorant in their opinion, that really saddened me

[UrbanDecayLova]

It’s funny the two oldest women on the panel gave the most insight — obviously what Whoopi said at the end, & even though it’s not for Joy, I like that she called out Alyssa’s point and said there’s more to a relationship than just sex.

[StedeBonnetsCravat]

Sunny asking the real question: How do you have THE TIME?

[lifeisrocqi]

I am a Polyamorous Wife and Mama. I'm also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.

This whole segment was dripping with judgment, but let me clarify some things.

Polyamory does not center sex. Polyamory means many loves and centers intimate relationships whether they be romantic, emotional, platonic, and yes some/many are sexual. But there are also a lot of asexual and aromantic people within the polyamorous community. Sex centered forms of ethical nonmonogamy include open relationships, swinging, fwbs etc.

There is also nothing wrong with consensual sex. Within the ENM community, transparent sexual health discussions are the norm with regular testing practices, barrier use, and disclosure.

And yes it's ethical and consensual nonmonogamy. It's not cheating. It does not violate boundaries of relationships. And actually I was the one who brought up polyamory to my now husband. A lot of women have. And polyamory was founded in feminism/womanism.

As far as the energy lol. We have a concept called polysaturation. Meaning the capacity we have for multiple relationships. Some people have higher capacities than others and then sometimes life zaps your capacity as it does within monogamy (going to school, grinding on your career). I am polysaturated after 2 romantic partners but I just had a baby so I was polysaturated with one partner.

Also many view polyamory as an individual identity. So even if we aren't "practicing, " we still consider ourselves polyamorous because we have the capacity and/or desire to romantically love more than one person at a time and pour into more than one relationship at a time.

As far as jealousy, that is completely a normal and valid human emotion. And PLENTY of polyamorous people experience not only jealousy, but envy, FOMO, anxiety, and more. We are trying not to use "evolved" language, but we do have to grow considerably within our emotional intelligence and not everyone is committed to that growth work.

Yes we are currently experiencing the normalization of ethical nonmonogamy and polyamory, but representation is how we educate, destigmatize, and normalize further.

Monogamous people saying how they could never...ain't it.

[naylas]

Wish they would have done some decent research on this. Ethical non-monogamy means that all partners in the relationship are aware it’s non-monogamous. In other words: no cheating.

And it doesn’t necessarily mean 2 people in a relationship that are sleeping around as well. It can take so many forms. You could be in a committed throuple/triad, you could have one main relationship with partners on the side, or if your partner is asexual, or ill, you could be having sex with other people to meet your needs, while still being in a committed relationship with your partner.

[JloveLamar]

"You know I seem like that, it's because...I'm good like that"-Whoopi Goldberg Im HOLLERING😂

[dumpd]

Some people are in voluntary non monogamous relationships and some people are in involuntary non monogamous relationships. It is what it is.

[lynnharper]

I'm a lesbian and my girlfriend and I were in a poly relationship once. It didn't work out, not because of jealousy, just too exhausting.

[ghrose]

I love Joy, ”How many we talking about” 💀 😂

[Tortilla.Reform]

The thing they’re missing about polyamory is that it’s not just about sex, and not everyone is as tied to their ego and acceptance of jealousy as a reaction, instead of something to overcome. Some people are built different, and that includes the poly folk

[lindiwengwevela]

"I'm not looking at anybody in particular 👀" 🤣🤣🤣

[gautrytube]

Alyssa, jealousy affects monogamous relationships too, not just polyamorous ones.

[PokhrajRoy.]

People talking about ethical non-monogamy in heterosexual spaces while completely not acknowledging queer relationships that have thrived because we can balance both monogamy and ethical non-monogamy.

[mscstapleton]

Whoopi be like "I've lived a life" #EGOT 🤣

[SylviaAndrews-vyzr]

Whoopie's "good like that". Love her answer.

[shedskin]

Btw, polyamory is not the same as non-monogamy, which seem to be getting confused by the ladies and in the comments. I would love for The View to have guests in polyamorous relationships to help educate us, to learn from their experiences what works and what doesn’t work, and how they make it work.

[Vvgghgbbvc]

Bring some polyamorous guest willing to really answer probing questions on and let’s find out. The best groups would be the proud ones who think their way of living is better than all the others. 😃. I would love to know, my daughter claims to be she’s been with this couple since her college years, and they just all bought a house together last year. She gets immediately defensive and shuts down if we try to ask her things to see if she’s actually happy or just saying so. She moved an hour and a half a way and doesn’t really invite any of us up. I hope she has sense not to buy a house with them if she isn’t happy?

[elecbass]

Seriously, instead of speculating and joking about it and being cynical about what you think people are capable of, why does The View not have actual polyamorous people on who can speak about it and their communities. Jeez.

[alexramirez]

The thing is, non monogamy is not for everybody and that's ok. It takes a certain type of mentality to actually be ok with it. Not everybody sees life like that. Some people are just different and it works for them. So more power to them