Tips On Dating Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

[mikmindd]

My boyfriend has BPD, he’s had such a traumatic life and despite that I can see him slowly growing and looking positively toward his future and our relationship. I’m so proud of him, and I’m so happy to stick through all this darkness with him.

[LPLegolin]

I have a partner with chronic PTSD who is Autistic/ADD and has BPD. We're going strong on 5 years!
We did have a whole hell year after some re-traumatization, but my relationship with her got me to get my shit together. She was already in therapy and healing herself long before we got together. My childhood left little room for communication and so I had to learn a whole new skillset, one that I'm still working to build. Now we keep growing stronger together, even with a sudden disability striking her. We make it through each day together.
One protip though:
There will be times when you are their enemy, because you're human and not perfect and neither are they. So, you need to be able to be strong enough to make space for yourself, step back, and walk away from the situation. It's not worth it, they're in an irrational place and nothing will be resolved in a healthy manner in that environment...they're sick, come back later when they're feeling better, and you can talk your hearts out together.

[joshyjoshy]

I gave my everything to my quiet BPD partner and she still ended it, because she didn't feel good enough. She did it because she was trying to protect me from herself. She showed awareness and said that she doesn't know how to be in a relationship.

Saying that, I wouldn't ever do it again, it drained my soul. I'm sorry guys, get therapy or date each other, because I care about my mental well being now, and it's not possible to look after yourself and the pw/bpd at the same time. It's too much.

[naomirootsmusic]

Thank you for this hope. I have believed for years that my BPD diagnosis meant I was doomed to never have a healthy relationship.

[CassidyOfficially]

As someone with BPD, we arent all bad. Some of us have handled it better than others. It makes me sad that people cant even have the energy to help their partner with it and just end up leaving. A lot of my symptoms are just feeling alone constantly, eating disorders, my emotions being flipped (overemotional or not emotional enough), but im not an out-burst kind of person. Give us a chance, we all deserve someone and we arent all the same

[williamtaylor]

This is amazing, I needed this today. My fiance is struggling, I just want things to be ok. Thank you for the tips and infectious optimism!

[Westcoast]

Currently talking to a girl with bdp I’m blessed that I have patience. I want to be with her and doing what I can to be there for her.

[angelanorth]

I’m in this situation my on again off again girlfriend is undiagnosed and is in denial about her mental illness I’m mentally drained over this and don’t know how much longer it is before I completely walk away. I would never do this again with another person it’s to much.

[chelseastrmserver]

I appreciate this so much as I have been diagnosed with BPD. I would never in a million years wish this condition on anyone, not even a death row inmate. That being said, I think it’s important that person with BPD is working on themselves and doesn’t lack insight into their own part. Accountability and empathy is key to success.

[roxywyndham]

I hope so, I have found it yet but I hope so. On a good note I don’t hate the fact that I have BPD anymore. Therpaist, learning skill and practicing them helped me immensely. I’m happy for how far I’ve comes

[dannywholuv]

If a bpd person isn't working on their issues then dont date! Its not good for either party. Remember abuse is abuse.

[TheRobmaynez]

Tried all of this and had to file for divorce after years of relationship and six months of marriage. Most difficult decision of my life, but some roads are to be walked alone.

[xaesalyszimpkee]

These are also great tips for loving yourself with BPD ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Attackatyourownrisk]

I agree. Communication is key. No way should you hide any health issues from the person you’re dating or with. When you do that of course you’re relationship will crumble. And one thing you should never do is go untreated. If you go the holistic way so be it. But you have to be treated because you’re setting yourself up for failure when you believe that you’ll be okay untreated.

[lkblondie]

Thank you for the positive video♡ I was worried !

[_amberthemayo_]

Not everyone with BPD is a horrible person... If my bf and I ever have issues we sit and talk, I got to therapy and I can usually control some of my outbursts, I have BPD and as far as my relationship goes we're happy, the only toxic BPD people are the ones not willing to get therapy and help themselves

[konstantinosvlachantonis]

It's ironic, because for the most part all BPD people require is doing more or less the same things you should do for anyone else you are dating, with the only exception that if you date someone with BPD you can't go unnoticed if you are an asshole, while with non-clinicals it can go unnoticed because they give less fucks or react more calmly. People who get butthurt with this video are probably often not even respectful in relationships with neurotypicals, and are just not used to being called out (which is unavoidable when dating somebody so sensitive). It can be tough dating people with BPD, but I've seen it being many times a learning experience for the non-BPD partner, who thought they were 'normal' but were also flawed.

[e.paradigm]

Nope, been there, done that. My advice is don’t, the constant abusive “broken-record”daily arguments is enough to drive you insane.

[AboutGreekss]

Not possible to date someone with BPD unless they’ve been going to therapy or are still currently in therapy. If they’re untreated it will cause tons of emotional pain for both parties but the abuse is fairly one sided for the victim in the relationship

[wearetheiam]

This is refreshing and honest and compassionate. Which is more than I can say for some of your commentors.

The more you stay and love someone with BPD and encourage them to get help, the better they get. Most times.

All ya'll in the comments who are so bitter guve me the same vibes as MGTOWs who avoid woman with daddy issues, single moms and sexual abuse victims...