Women's Sexuality Isn't 'Complicated' | Sarah Barmak | TEDxToronto

On October 27, 2016, some of Toronto’s greatest thinkers and change-makers joined together onstage at TEDxToronto to deliver powerful talks and performances that embodied our theme, Symbols + Signals.


Born and raised in Thornhill, Ontario, Sarah is a freelance journalist and author. Her first book, Closer: Notes From the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality, was published in July 2016, with a focus on exploring the cutting-edge science and cultural trends behind women’s sexuality.

Sarah’s message aims to reveal how women today are reshaping their sexuality in new and innovative ways – and how female sexuality is being redefined on its own terms. Sarah’s work has appeared in publications such as Maclean’s, The Globe and Mail, The Walrus, The Toronto Star, This Magazine and Canadian Business.

[DZrache]

Spot on. If this talk makes you feel defensive, you need to unpack those feelings - there's no shame in developing self-awareness.

People with vaginas need to stop being shamed for their sexuality (or lack thereof, ) and learn to embrace it.
And people need to listen to them when they tell them what does and doesn't feel good - even if they can't or won't say outright, reading your partner's signals is so important.

And no, this doesn't take anything away from "more important" issues, or MGM/FGM/IGM etc.

[yek]

It's really unbelievably wrong to not have a body part in the anatomy books.

[sophiachuslinkoracleoftime]

YES. "They could have just asked women about their experience"

[ShaudaySmith]

When will i learn that the comments section is a black hole. This particular one is full of self proclaimed women's sexuality experts... Her argument is just advocating for education, experimentation, acceptance, and enjoyment of your preference. She isn't holding men accountable for women's sexual satisfaction, on the contrary, women are responsible for it. The history lessons just bring context to the confusion of sexuality between the sexes. Ya'll need to relax and not feel so affronted by a woman advocating women understand their own needs and desires and not feel bad/wrong/inefficient/shame for their preference.

[StephJseph]

This explains a lot for me as a young woman, thank you so much! 🙏🏽💖

[Ada-tvzl]

Thank you Sarah for spreading awareness!

[katireijonen]

A great TED-talk! Thank you Sarah Barmak <3

[charlesward]

A woman needs to find out what works for her, and then find a partner who is willing to cooperate with her to ensure that they both experience full pleasure.

[so]

Camera zoom-in should have been made when the diagram of the « Non-linear response » was shown.

[TheJoern]

As a man, I am pretty sure that most of us could use that same advice.

[tonykouros]

A Masterpiece talk that overwhelmed all my Senses! Grateful, Grateful 🙏✨

[Bookhermit]

While there are many good points brought up here, I think it's VERY clear that it IS 'Complicated'!!!

[Moovment-Media]

And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why, as a born American, I love Canada, and seriously may move there in the near future.

They are so open minded about things.

Love y'all up there.

[avimehenwal]

Very informative ... I didn't knew about most of the interesting topics discussed here. Thankyou for sharing.
Hope it makes me better partner from here on :)

[Gratitudejoy]

GRATITUDE for your 🙏🙏🙏 From Belgium, Europe

[yobrojoost]

This is nothing short of enlightening! Bravo!

[Babesinthewood]

A few things under estimated in regards to feeling attraction and lust: kindness and respect. Getting back what you invest in someone. As well as excercise and plant foods.

[BleezyMonkey]

if you having all fake relationships that doesnt go anything beyond physical things. dont expect to be totally satisfied

[jfinney]

Probably one of THE best Ted talks I've EVER watched... And I'm obsessed with watching Ted talks of all subjects. Bravo!

[cspacenz]

This video is perfect for all those women who never seem to find a relationship partner but are experts on relationships through their endless analysis.