7 Ways to Protect Your Peace in Love and Dating

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[milliondollartrooper]

Thank God I get to wake up everyday and do my life. No someone special yet..wait I digress🤚🏼I am someone special😂why do we forget to count ourselves when we look at others as special? Be the love you want❤be the one to be kind to yourself first❤

[TonganJedi]

I will always be grateful to my ex for ending things. I wouldn't have cut the strings and they really needed to be cut. Being emotionally detached from the situation gave me a clearer perspective.

"When you wear rose-colored glasses, red flags just look like flags."

[lylyanazarela]

❤️ Dont take rejection as a bad thing it's a protection from what u never deserved

[akshatjain]

1:58 Who and what is draining you
4:59 who’s approval do you need to stop looking for
12:11 remember the gift of unanswered prayers
16:13 solution minded
20:46 choose to heal
24:05 create simple happiness
26:52 what’s right for you right now

[desertrose]

Half of life is lost in charming others, the other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others. Leave this play, you have played enough. —-Rumi

[ShopgirlNY]

I just went thru the most painful breakup of my life but it turned out to actually a blessing. I thought I wanted to move my life 5 hours away to be with my then boyfriend but it turns out he’s an avoidant and I’m so glad we didn’t work out because I would’ve been miserable. My need for closeness and his need for space just isn’t compatible. I’ve now learned so much about myself since the breakup I’m thankful for it because without it I wouldn’t have found out about my own attachment wounds and now I can work on healing.

[JillJaffe]

Matthew I've listened to your coaching and YouTube for over 2 years. I am a 60 yr (young) woman who has been dating for almost 2 yrs after a 30 yr marriage (which I was the one who ended it)
This video is truly one of your best- and here is one of the reasons why: you are addressing much broader but very important issues than just a specific dating 'problem ' or issue. it's about 'Zen' and peace and being happy with who YOU are at this moment, and that's a great message to send to (most of us ) who are women out here trying to figure out relationships. Keep up the awesome work man.

[iArekusu]

Accidentally ended up at this podcast, but the timing couldn’t be more perfect. For years I kept reopening wounds and putting on a brave face. Yesterday I chose to leave the toxic environment in order to heal, at the cost of losing one of my best friendships and ‘what ifs’. Today I was already doubting why I left and wondered if I could ever start over somewhere new. But thank you for the reminder, I did it to protect MY peace and happiness. All 7 points are applicable, hearing it and writing it down will remind me and help me persevere ❤

[Sayaka]

I'm so thankful for this content. I've been listening to the Hussey family for years to help me get out of a narcissistic relationship and here I am again after giving up on someone who wasn't consistent. I'll keep looking for someone who wants to build a wonderful relationship. Till then I will keep listening to keep standing up for my standards and boundaries. Thank you so much.

[ivonneflores]

Thank you! I'm really struggling with someone who used to show interest, then pulled away and it has affected me a lot, but when I listen to this...well it's made a difference on me instantly! I have realized how much energy I've invested on him, and others, as one friend told me "You've put so much of you on a broken cup, it all goes away, you're filling a cup that will never be filled" 😢 Thanks a lot Matthew!

[neko_rora]

Since i found your videos, i understand a lot more, not only in love relationships, but how actually people ARE.
That makes the pain sometimes easier and allows more to open the deep closed things to heal.
I'm really grateful today for that and in general, keep up your good work. We need more Angels on Earth <3

Have a blessed day all :)

[doe]

Not sharing your goals with people is usualy a good idea, sharing it does put a pressure on us to achieve it or achieve it in a certaim time frame

[jennyy]

Hi Matt, your videos have been helping me a lot. I restarted to using dating app for the past 4 weeks. I'm feeling draining...met at least 2 guys a week. 😢 And no text from them. My anxiety was really bad and tired to meet new people over and over again 😞

[atty.veronicainoturanosg]

I have the Trent Shelton's new book, as well as yours. I have repeattedly read both & have even underlined & made notes regarding certain topics. Thank you, Matthew & Trent, for inspiring me/us.

[authines]

I’ve been so stressed out lately over many things I can’t control. This was very helpful thank you 😊!!

[michellawarren]

Lovin' this last section: what's important to self - Today. Here's me feeling guilty for not getting on a plane and relocating to pursue my film and tv interest....nope! I love my day job to much right now, my investment property needs me here, and the small jobs I pick up are serving me well. I'm not ready for L.A yet!

[aSomehowRandomBeing]

Your advice in all areas of life feels tailored for me. Thank you for your efforts!

[tedtalksrock]

Hey! everyone at the Matthew Hussey Team! I watch every vid that comes out. I’m a long time fan. So please take this as the “constructive” criticism that it is:
The repetitive guitar “music’ in the background in this video as Matthew is talking about the retreat is insanely distracting and should be removed. I had to double check to tell if it was coming from your video or if it was an external noise—. Like an alarm or something—Maybe it’s the frequency of the tone or the rhythm but it’s distracting and detracts from my ability to focus on what Matthew is saying.

I hope feedback this is helpful. Again, love your work.

[piatawormald]

Interesting video but I have another approach with the section on choosing to heal.

If I’m drawn to an exes social media I wallow in it. I acknowledge that I haven’t grieved for him properly. I acknowledge the grief goes deeper and it’s layered too. It’s not just him I grieve for but the potential for that relationship and past losses too. I lost my husband after 25 years together and both my parents too so my grief is layered, deep and heightened.
I permitted myself to grieve for an ex all week when something triggered me after our short relationship which ended ages ago. I only needed a few days to grieve.

However, our lifestyle and culture don’t readily allow for grief or this outpouring of emotions and pain so we rarely get a chance to properly grieve. It’s mostly cut short.

So my approach is to slow down and embrace and honour these feelings. Blocking an ex may be done in an anxious state when grief isn’t properly exhausted. So a need to block makes me realise I need more time to grieve.
And of course, grief isn’t linear so it may strike again but probably with less intensity as time goes on if we don’t rush this process.

It’s also important to be very compassionate about healing as it’s heavy work and there’s not always space for it. Sometimes it needs to be put on hold when we’re just trying to survive eg if living in poverty

[idissolvebutirecrystallize]

Why does he always come in at the right time