7 Warning Signs of People Pleasing and How to Stop

Do you say yes when you’d prefer to say no?
You could be struggling with the disease to please and in this LIVEstream, we'll talk about the 7 warning signs of people pleasing and how to stop.

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[jenniferwyatt]

I don't know if you will read this but I want you to know I have needed this message. I am 46 yrs old. I have been dealing with this since I was a little girl. When I heard this message I felt the weight being lifted off me. Everything you said I needed to hear. The best thing is my sweet loving Heavenly Father knew too. I want to say Thank You. What a blessing you are.
Lord Jesus I pray for this Godly lady and what she is doing for others thru you God. Thank you for her. AMEN
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AS WELL. 🤗

[Chrissyboo]

I hate confrontation, drama, didn’t want to loose a toxic relationship, and I am learning I am a people pleaser. I just want to Thank you for all your videos. They are clear and to the point. I am living my life for God today. I want God’s approval, not man’s. Please pray for me. I am 49 years old restarting my life. I really find your videos helpful

[shawnadinelle]

I grew up in a “Christian” home. Dad verbally/physically abusive. Mom emotionally withdrew when I didn’t do what she wanted. Love was 100% conditional until this day. I’ve started implementing boundaries and distancing myself and poop has hit the fan. My husband was transferred for work 1 1/2 years ago and when I informed my parents we would be moving I was screamed at that I was so selfish. I always jumped when they said jump. I have people pleased my entire life (I’m 40) sitting with the feeling of guilt is not fun. My Dad texted me the other day telling me what he thought I needed to do. I said no and I was then told I’m suppose to forgive and keep on forgiving and because I haven’t it’s on me with the 🙏🏻 emoji. Then I was told I’m over sensitive and the counselling I’m going to is feeding me falsely. I have had the bible used as a weapon against me. I’ve constantly been told I’m suppose to be honouring my parents. I’ve come to the conclusion that they equate honour with obedience. I have been scared to disappoint because of fear ~ thus became a people pleaser :(

[kevinwiens]

I've noticed something Kris, all of us "people pleasers" are motivated by at least 3 types of "fear".
1.The Fear of men, Proverbs 29:25.
2.The Fear of rejection,
3. The Fear of abandonment. 20:03
Whereas normal "healthy" people Love others without fear, because they do not "need" other peoples permission or approval to Love themselves...or others. They have struck a healthy balance between "giving and receiving"...God puts it this way:
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. 1 John 4:18.

[ingridr]

The struggle is real! I was even told by the pastor of the church I used to go to that i was born to be a giver. That church tried to drain me of all my money

[aestis]

I think I am all of those numbers. I struggle with people pleasing. When I stand up to anyone, I feel guilty!

[annaphillips]

I absolutely hate hate hate confrontation. Especially at work, but I recently exploded after holding in my true feelings and now I feel like work will be utterly uncomfortable from now on. I feel like the “bad guy” even though I ended up apologizing - AGAIN! Please pray for me to forgive myself.

[Pokingthebear]

Wanna mess with a narcissist, let them believe you’re a people pleaser and than stop following through….oh man

[selahvie]

Please pray for me. I struggle to tell my parents no when I know that something will not be good for me in the long run. It’s really making me resent them when in reality I need to have the strength and courage to stand my ground and just say no.

[angibird]

I spent years as a people pleaser. I then decided enough, but without God I became bullish and rude. I did a complete opposite . I ended up going on an Assertiveness without aggression course. Then it took another 10 years to get to a 'normal' place. If only I had had God then. Now I have God, I just feel calm and collected. I can say no when needed. I know God helps me when He needs me to say no to someone. I love God and our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
Thank you for this.

[joshuaanzalone]

Saying no is one of my favorite words now.

[Jaysy]

I was finally able to realize that I am a "people pleaser". It's hard to acknowledge that a lot of this applies to me, but at the same time it gives me hope to change this behavior and become free of it. With God's help of course. Thank you for your clarification.
God bless you

[sophianyirenda]

The struggle is real😢i hate being a people pleaser.

[anettethrasher]

Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit!

[jeanwolfe]

As I listen to this teaching, I realize that I am on the road to recovery 🙏🙏! Thank you God, Thank you Teacher..

[vikster]

Yes its like chewing off your own foot to get free from "that trap"...it was so painful, still is, but it was worth it! Trust God!

[anettethrasher]

I know who I am and who's I am! Glory be to God!🙌🙌🙌

[Corinna_Schuett_GER]

I'm not so much a real people pleaser nor with weak self-esteem but rather a "Peacekeeper" type avoiding confrontation which I later learned with my husband who was patient with me and essential part of my healing journey. Early criticism, perfectionism attitude and self discipline have made me separate from my narcissistic and hypocrite parents early and look for other people's appreciation and respect. I often was welcome until I ceased to do all they wanted so I naturally avoided narcissists when they exposed themselves. Since God drew me near Christ in 2005 my life has changed drastically so I am no more part of this wicked world anyway and have found true comfort and peace with Christ, avoiding all of these people. Looking forward to His soon return, MARANATHA! 🙏👰💖

[cjejwyt]

I was all of this. When I got married and got position in the church started serving. And after 2 years I got overwhelmed emotionally and mentally and spiritually. I was crying out to God what is wrong with me … genuinely seeking Him to show me and He did . He said you are putting people before me ! When I acknowledge that, admit it and repent He started to rebuild me and this verse He gave me Psalm 119:45

I will walk about in freedom, for I have sought out your precepts.