The Secret to Being Insult-Proof. Jocko Willink.

From Jocko Underground 74.

Dealing with insults.
Is the Military ready for your worldview?
Making people love how you get and give peer reviews.
Finding a Jiu Jitsu academy when there are not many in the area.
An explanation for Jocko Fuel supplements.
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[claudialsmith]

Lost that job. Start over. Lost your date. Call another date. Many opportunities and it's not over.

[bfcalhoun]

Echo is correct. Sometimes it’s not the insult, but the hostility-the intent to inflict harm-that hurts.

[DonVito]

As much as Jocko talks about discipline and getting after it, a lot of what he hints at is establishing good habits for life and breaking bad ones.

[gurtana]

Not all insults make me angry because they are true. They make me angry because they are a million miles from the truth and they are repeated until someone tries to make it stick or ruin my reputation. It's oversimplified to say you get angry when it's true. No, not always. Truth I can let go pretty easily. It's the stuff that's so wrong and furthest from the truth about me, that riles me.

[Rannument]

2:43 "If you follow the thread of what's bothering you to the truth, then you can actually deal with it"
Words of wisdom right there

[robertbennett]

A valid insight. Anger has an evolutionary purpose in life. It is an adrenaline stimulation, but if it's fueled by petty and egotistical provocations it becomes toxic and self destructive. Easy to anger. Easy to insult. Easy to destabilize.... Easy to manipulate into bad decisions. Anger is useful and appropriate when necessary, but it should be a rare emotion as opposed to a routine response. 👏

[Milos_ndAlt]

Im 14 years old, and when I was 12 I was the kid that would wake up late, go to school sleeping in class, running home and playing video games with my eyes being bloodshot from the hours of screens, when I was 13 I discovered Jocko and funnily the first podcast I watched was #347 and I saw that this was the guy I wanted to be like. I deleted Minecraft (the main game I played) and I got rid of my xbox. I started working out, waking up earlier, being in a better mood, eating healthier, all of the positive things because I found Jocko.

Just wanted to let anyone know that if you are considering watching this channel, I would recommend!

[DonteG]

When jacko said don't get mad if someone says you are gluttonous, it just happened to me recently and it moved me so, I hope to make a change now.

[roelven]

Been bullied in school .... stopped the moment i went apeshit on my 3 bullies (even 2 teachers who watched me fighting them didnt stop the fight, they knew i needed to completly go hulk on them.... later on 1 of the parents dared to come to school and my house to complain.... imagine her surprise when she got told the truth about her "lovely" son)
Been bullied by my parents (and abused)... stopped the moment i became 16... knocked my dad to the ground.... legally divorced my parents, my grandparents took me in.... and not soon after joined the Dutch marines. You are right "looking in" is a good advice... but that makes sense for adults.... young kids/adults lack the moral compass and wisdom to take that step. Anger isnt bad, as long as you can channel it correctly. Insults dont bother me at all anymore... i know who i am, insults and lies cant touch me... truth is truth

[joshstanton]

"Its a signal internally that you are troubled" .. that is so basic, yet profoundly true. I love that perspective. reaction is based on whats going on inside you. 😊

[omartageddi]

Jocko said "start Jiu Jitsu", and man i had it on my mind for like two months. Now im one year in. Thank you so much Jocko.

[chrisministerofsmartarsery]

Many of us on my construction crew listen to your podcasts Jocko. Including my site superintendent. We often use your basic blueprint for the rules of how to conduct yourself. Decentralized command, starting at zero every day etc. And it works. Thank you.

[russahlquist]

Jocko, what makes people mad about many insults is not necessarily that there is some partial truth to them, it is that many of us don't know ourselves well enough to know that the insult is well founded or not.

[dotpenji]

I must say, your discussion on handling insults and delving into the psychology behind them was truly enlightening. It's remarkable how you emphasized the importance of not allowing insults to make us angry, but rather using them as an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Jacob's point about separating the insult itself from the fact that someone chose to insult you offers a perspective I hadn't considered before. It's intriguing how our ego can be triggered, not only by the content of the insult but also by the audacity of someone thinking they have the right to insult us. It's truly eye-opening!

[jussim.konttinen]

One time a person called me "a bamboo rat". He thought I was Chinese tourist. It was so unusual slur that I've laughed at it for years.

[voidofmisery]

"what else, let's rock and roll" Love that!

[BasedTexans]

This has helped me so much in sales as well. When I am working to negotiate a deal and I agree with all of their rebuttals they usually will agree to sign the contract. It helps me establish trust with the clients. They say something like "these fees are awful" I say you are right they are awful, but these are the best out there

[ryannelson]

Legend has it Jocko overcame his anger by getting down and doing a 100 burpees!

[VonRichtburg]

I have been ruthlessly bullied for most of my school life.
I have been verbally and emotionally abused by my father (a psychiatrist) during my childhood, teenage and early adulthood life.

Insults don't mean anything to me anymore.

If it is true, it isn't an insult.
If it isn't true, it is a lie. And lies are insulting.

[Eddie-Spaghetti]

Also work on reducing your general level of anxiety by doing all the right things we know to do (eg. Sleep, eat healthy, meditate if your an anxious person generally stop coffee and alcohol)This will also reduce the constant ruminations about what someone has said to you that has upset you.