Andrew Huberman Explains The Neuroscience Of Heartbreak

Dr Andrew Huberman explains why breakups hurt so much. What does Dr Andrew Huberman think is happening in the brain when we go through a breakup? Why do people obsess over their exes? What does HubermanLab think is the Neuroscience of getting over your ex?

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[InnerIntegration]

“Grief is a motivated state to bridge the distance in time and space and yet it’s impossible.” Fascinating!

[emilesteyn]

Heartbreak made me work fulltime, build a profitable company on the side, workout 1-2 hours a day (5-6 days a week), study Python coding, and learn Mandarin.

8 months in, and still going strong. It kickstarted an entire identity shift for me, and I will forever be grateful for the labyrinths that grief has opened up in me.

I am evolving in ways I never believed I could.

[rsv]

Grief as a motivated state was such an eye opener. It really is. Explains why people are so motivated to hit the gym after a break up. Start a business. Improve themsleves in every way. Illuminating stuff!!

Since the primary motivation is to bridge the gap between time and space, it takes enormous willpower to avoid doing so in the case of a breakup. It's incredible that we are able to instead channel this motivation into a self growth journey of our choosing.

[DaBooster]

Took me a decade to finally come to terms with my divorce. She wanted out and I didn’t. 11 years later I am ok financially and emotionally. She is struggling financially and struggling emotionally having failed in a couple of recent relationships. I still miss her but she chose her path

[TheCrazyCatHouse]

My Wife told me she wants to divorce after 26 years together. It was hell the first 4 weeks. No sleep, no hunger and emotions almost killed me. It is really tough, but getting better day by day.

[berger]

1. Supressed emotions will come back stronger
2. You must feel you emotions to let them free
3. Let go with love. Wish the other person the best even after the break up. Everything else is egotistical and will result in hate, anger or grief emotions.

Love is the only way to accept your past and accept the break up.


(Never said it is easy tho)

[CoachMacMcCarthy]

This is a great breakdown of heartbreak and loss.. Huberman is spot on 💯

[yohaizilber]

When you're heartbroken over someone who was never yours ...

[DeanithForeverYoung]

I lost my best friend a few years back, suddenly and without a warning. Few years later I had a very bad ending of a "situationship". No real conversation took place. 8 months ended via text.

The pain I felt in both situations felt so similar that it shocked me. It was so intense that I couldn't sleep or eat properly for days. I ended up coming out of that but I was definitely different.

[Nah-ah]

When you lose a parent/s you were close to as a child, you can’t really get close to anyone emotionally and psychologically as an intimate partner. It’s taken me many yrs to feel close to my husband bc of losing both parents as a child. I was more closer to my dad than my mum and still felt an emptiness in my relationship for the first 10-12 yrs. Heartbreak is no joke!

[Higgzii]

I actually experienced where heart break made me feel like I have changed me somehow, or personality. I then started, and still currently, working on my health and fitness, a strong desire to travel, hopefully be able to learn a language, want to develop a stronger spiritual faith. At the time it was grief, but albeit strangely enough, I am glad I went through as it made me focus on my health, kind of "woke" me up.

[sckiw]

Its important to approach your grief from a stand point of mental stillness. Its a gut-wretching experince but all you can control is the experience in your immediate area and process in private.

[annerliemoss]

Thank you for sharing this information on loss of loved ones as it puts things in perspective 🙏💛🙏

[alexanderwindh]

How does one move on after dating a unicorn (special woman) After 10 years of searching - then finding her and lost her to her ex due to age difference and the need for children does one come back from that? I've been on many nice dates since but nothing compares and i do all the ACT and try not to compare. How do you replace somebody special without feeling like you settled for much, much less?

[Stallnig]

it's virtual incapacitation while every fiber of your being wants to take action.

[Sams]

I first experienced this at the ripe old age of 49... she was 25, and my perfect woman, the woman I should have married (I was never in love with my ex-wife)... it was so hard, I'm 53 now and just starting to get over this, but the lessons I learned on how I fucked it up will live with me for the rest of my life.... wish I'd learned them sooner.

[vishvaasvardaan]

Would definitely recommend the book "Attached" which covers Attachment styles !

[asterisbampos]

So if it is in fact comparable to grieving.. then what happens to people who interact or have unavoidable contact after the breakup. How is it perceived? Does the brain feel confused?

[kimhardy]

Just a quick observation Chris! Adore your content btw. Coming to you from Rogan. As a first time visitor to your YouTube Page I find it difficult to discern your full feature podcasts from your clips. Wouldn’t it be better to put the podcast number first so it’s immediately distinguishable? Just a thought, not a criticism. Looking forward to soaking up your content, you are on a special path for sure. Best Regards

[pallabjyotidas]

I am not the same after my heartbreak i will never be in love again. Can't risk to go through this again.