Ex Said Maybe in the Future -- What Does It Mean?

Clay Andrews answers the question, “What does it mean if my ex said maybe in the future to getting back together?”

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It can be very confusing if your ex tells you maybe in the future or maybe someday?

Are they stringing you along and toying with your emotions?

Probably not.

Although it isn’t completely impossible, your ex probably isn’t doing this to torture you.

They are saying this because they actually like interacting with you. They actually like spending time with you… but there is still something that is holding them back from wanting to get back together with you.

Maybe actually means, more often than not, that your ex enjoys you a lot, but there is still something blocking them from wanting to get back together or give your relationship another try.

And you’re going to have to address whatever that things is.

Maybe you need to make some changes in the way you bring yourself to a relationship? Maybe you need to improve the quality of your connection with your ex? Maybe you and your ex need to work through some logistical things that are keeping the two of you apart such as a rebound relationship?

Either way, the best way is to focus on the emotional block and resolve that.

If you can do this, then your ex will stop saying “maybe” and they will say “yes” instead.

But it’s actually a good sign when your ex says maybe in the future. It means that you are on the right track. You just need to clear up a few final things before your ex will feel totally comfortable and ready to get back together with you and give your relationship another shot.

[mrs.nerdaholicotaku]

My ex says we tried, but aren’t working rn. He said maybe in the future, but nobody knows. He doesn’t know how he’ll feel, so maybe I should just give up the hope?

[ChordsForU]

My ex broke up with me but said she still thinks I am the one which confused me! She’s been very hot and cold since then, admittedly I’ve done something’s wrong but we seem to be getting along better now but I feel like she ignores my messages sometimes and stuff like that

[marfran]

Clay Andrews awareness as in...? he is the one I wanna be with a truly is the one. But he and his recent ex gf both hang out together quite a bit. How can he or she be healing if they don’t have time away from each other? Let alone what if they can’t emotionally separate from each other. How will he be able to get to that level with me let alone have the chance/ give us the chance to get to that level of connection and time with each other. She even she says she doesn’t want the type of guy he is. But has a super strong connection with him.

[DailyServers]

Thanks for clearing this up makes so much sense she thinks there will be a chance when our daughter arrives so I just got to work on myself still and just say hello now and again

[elizabethpage]

My ex said if nothing else comes from our break up at least the debts will be gone, as he said he's still not sure....that was a couple of weeks ago. Said confused. Think that's sort of the same as this

[nivadafnn]

She said “i really wanted jt to be you” and “maybe in the future” during the breakup. i messed up her trust by hiding things from my past. Other than that ive been treating her well. I really want to fix this but i know it can take years. What do i do

[ajaifields]

What does it mean when he says he found a new girl n he telling me to work on myself maybe n the future I asked and said are u lying he said no I said okay I trust u he said he trusted me to what should I do n he said I got more bigger things then him he said take the chance he said he will never forgot me I'd always be and his heart and on his mind evening with the new girl around he said next year he wants to be with me cause I'm moving to where he lives

[cindyhenderson]

Hi clay
It's seems to be me alot asking for advice. I've had ppl break up with me before and vice versa and I've never been in the situation where I wanted another go, but this chick I do.
I don't know if it's relating what I need to improve deep within myself as to why the break or her own internally struggles she is personally facing with kids, looking for a new home, her entire family is always going to her or both of our issues.. any advice??

[youarestrongerthanyouthink]

My gf of 10yrs broke up with me after break up and making up many times, I felt like I was the one who took her for granted all those yrs. So she decided to dump me a month ago. Of course I went through the stages of hearbreak. Denial, bargaining, etc, acceptance. I am in the stage of acceptance now. Yesterday, she started emailing me (the only means of communication) we blocked each other on social media and cellphones. She told me that I am her precious and she also said " I love you, and maybe someday, in a few yrs, if she's single and I'm single, she will undoubtedly pursue me again. BTW, she's in a relationship now and planning to get married hahahah!I just laughed. I told her to just be happy because she deserve it, of course didn't tell her I would wait, of course not! I told her, I will pursue someone in the future if I am ready, I don't like to have a rebound because its gonna be unfair for the other person. So, now, I don't know what she's thinking. She's planning to get married to this new person and at the same time cracking up a window for us maybe in the future. Crazy huh?

[stilianosgabriel]

I am leaving for studies and I am not sure when I will be back. She told me after we talked that we leave things. We had a fight and tried to work things out the brake up was because of the issues not from the long distance think. She also told me "if you want when you come back text me to try again if not i totally understand". How should i take this? I thing she needs some alone time but she doesnt want to move on is that right? Shall I go into no contact or shall I keep talking with her? I am also concerned if she moves on but I get hopes that I will be very broken when I figure it out.

[gracelepri-valitutti]

What if he said "probably not" mean

[anto]

For me it’s a physical block because of her mother

[christokruger]

Hi Clay obviously I'm making all the mistakes even while I know what not to do🤦🏻‍♂️but I'm back on the friend path. She is in a rebound or I pray it is she is taking it slow and its a complete opposite of any relationship she ever had is it a rebound or is my chance lost. She told me in my face that she still loves me and she is not in love with the new guy but she is starting to gro to love him. I supported her financially but stopped it and I told her that she sould talk to the new guy to help her and she basically told me that it's not he's responsibility. She told me that he is very understanding about our previous relationship and our current friendship (must be the best guy in the world I cant even get him to be jealous) please this is my future wife what do I do please please help! 😭😭😭

[farahb]

I am wondering if the active no contact rule should be used if the person did the dumping has depression? I'm worried it won't apply to this situation as he said he doesn't feel he can be a good partner to me and doesn't like himself or much about life right now. The depression was just some of it, we also were bickering the last 3 weeks of our 5 month relationship that was otherwise amazing.
Im just worried that since he is depressed and can be pessimistic, he will think i want nothing to do with him or hate him and will let his defeatist attitude win..when in reality, i do want him in my life (don't need him though!)
To be honest, I am 4 days into the active no contact rule and some of this concern (that the NC rule doesn't apply to him) may be me trying to justify breaking it?

[KuysDonTV]

my ex contact me during no contact rule, and she was asking for a coffee date we had a small conversation through text do you think if we met she will open for a closure almost a month ago our breakup. and if she will ask for a closure do you think I still have a chance? we ended our 5yrs relationship before and the only reason she gave to me is she was already tired, no cheating issue or so on.

[dkeys]

That is my exact current situation. She didn't want to say that we'll never get back together but she wants us to date other people. Months down the road now the few times we've run into each other she always gives me those puppy eyes look undressing me with her eyes. She interacts with my family members on social media. She always ask about my family and how are they doing, how work is going etc... I did ask her to hang out once over the phone to do something fun but she became a lil dismissive and sounded a bit annoyed saying that she couldn't because she is hanging out with her friend so I left it as that. Than changed the subject asking about my family etc.. She doesn't initiate contact on the phone anymore but she doesn't respond to the few casual texts that I sent her. I am puzzled as to what to do really. Guess I'll just wait until she contacts me ?? That's if she ever does.

[marfran]

They said this a couple times a while ago. But What if they are obsessed with their most recent ex? And still hanging with them? He and I have had been connecting and talking. We have had spent one on one time together but he’s doing the same maybe more with his ex. She says she wants to be done with him but says she’ll still hang out with him if he doesn’t do anything or talk with me. And wants me to tell her what we do or don’t do.

[Kaizenflo]

I broke up and iam during no contakt after she said that to me, i mein i did everything for her. I told her that and sie said I KNOW... Common kam not for These games

[KrissyAleigh]

My ex said the exact same words after we broke up and I have been confused since but have a little hope of getting back together I mean we were engaged had everything planned and have a baby on the way but would the no contact rule work still I mean I have 21 days left and was wondering if I should keep on doing it or what please let me know

[pinkcutestuff]

My ex said: i’m sorry like this isn’t working for me,

ik how u feel abt us n i respect that i do, maybe this can work out in the future but it’s not working rn.