Back To Basics - Part 1/7 - Unresolved Unmet Needs

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What is Complex Trauma? How does it affect someone? What is needed to heal from it? Tim will look at a very subtle way in which a child experiences Complex Trauma - when they have unmet needs that they can't resolve.

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[stevennorris]

It's long overdue for pastors to know how to understand people who've experienced complex trauma. Instead of only teaching and preaching that people who were abused are to trust God and forget and forgive the past pain. And reach for the prize for the high calling in Yeshua The Messiah

[lunastar]

You are the most important teacher I've ever had. Thank you so much for being here. Words will never express my gratitude. You are giving me the guidance I never had. X

[AVADAMS]

I'm stunned. I have an MS in Industrial / Organizational Psychology, written numerous papers referencing Learned Helplessness (Seligman) and yet, I could not see, until this moment, that I have learned helplessness as a result of my trauma.

[rebeccaconn]

Covid was certainly a huge disruption/derailment in my life … lost my new house (which is minor, but was still upsetting), but also lost my husband to COVID. … my life was forever changed.
Trying to rebuild, heal and stay mentally healthy and positive … especially for my daughter was only 8 at the time … she lost her daddy. Talk about trauma.
But, God is faithful … He’s with us through the pain.

[KatWoodland]

The more I hear these beautiful lectures the more I realize how messed up my childhood was. I’ve been on a very long journey. I came here after realizing I have suffered with abuse from my pathologically narcissistic mother. Of course this led to three pathologically, narcissistic partners. Once you realize that this treatment of you is not acceptable, you won’t except anything other than humanity. Treat me like I am a human. I am a human. But it is so empty. I’m all alone and not abused. Is that considered a success?

[janethomas]

I don't know anyone one who gets this EXCEPT TIM FLETCHER!! Thank You!

[leahflower]

Adapt by being less human, yes you hit the nail on the head!

[wolfferoni]

This is such a great resource. Resources about complex trauma are hard to come by in comparison to other mental health issues, especially in video form and explained so well. I'm surprised that there are so many videos on this channel with such a wealth of knowledge. Thank you for making these videos.

[ybigirl]

Thank you so much for separating the religious section from the "therapy"! Having had a lot of religious trauma at the hands of religious schools and institutions, I would not have been able to watch your wonderful presentations with religious doctrine included. Maybe someday I'll deal with it, but for now I'm just working on the family systems stuff. Thanks again for being aware :)

[kaygenio]

I think the key is not talking, reassuring, and showing a person the path to freedom. It takes someone dragging them out until they feel empowered to function on their own. There is a very distinct difference between pushing and pulling. Anyone can push another. But pulling or drawing someone out to become acquainted with empowerment is successful only if there is someone doing it that they deeply trust....someone to mentor them. Those are few and far between.

[nishasankaran]

Causes of complex trauma can be really subtle...exactly! And compound over time

[jackierios]

In 2010 I was diagnosed schizoeffective now as time has gone on they realized it’s DID I am working on it i recently found you and realized it’s complex trauma I’ve lived in a freeze state for 48 years thank you for you wisdom

[iw]

Parents never available. Chaotic home is like flash floods. You never know when it's going to happen or for how long.

[LivingDradgirl]

At 30 minutes in he puts to words what I had no words for my entire life but knew it to be the elephant in my room. My elephant. Thank you. You have given me hope.

[Anson]

It seems many people, if they meet a kind, good spouse, could get those needs met in adulthood.., not from a narcissistic spouse which is who most of us end up with sadly.😢. Just someone who loves them and accepts them and grows with them....

[Chris-yfzs]

6:00 Born into the world with healthy instincts. CT means moving from being healthy to adapting to different behavior to survive.
20:30 Seligman shocked dog experiments
30:20 putting words to pain

[joehowerton]

I’m 53 and still learning/dealing with complex trauma starting 45 yrs ago. It can be debilitating. Thank you!

[artsyalkalearnandgrowbeaut]

Very well said! I felt validated when you said that complex trauma can’t be healed magically by music and meditation and other such stuff. It gives thoughts to apply but which mindset works for you is completely individualistic. We all get wounded in our ways. It’s completely subjective experience and the response to it is also individualistic.

[jillanderson]

That was an incredibly cruel experiment on dogs and I hate animal experimentation it's initiating pain on the innocent and helpless its truly awful

[xuan]

in some strange way, I am grateful for my parents for being so goddamn unreasonable that even when I tried the masking strategy as a child, it STILL wasn't good enough for them. 🤣 so I was like, FUCK IT, I will just be myself 101% because I'll just be treated the same way