3 Ways To Gracefully Express Sympathy & Condolences

I'm sharing how to be graceful when expressing sympathy for friends and acquaintances.

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[mustbethemusic]

Thanks Devoreaux for this video, it came right on time. A manager at my job just had a death and I wantes to know the best way to express condolences. Looking fabulous as always

[joyce_galugbo]

The best question to ask someone in this situation is: how can I support you in this, I’m here to listen. My friend said this me when I lost a loved one and I told them.

[mimismegalife]

Perfect Devoreaux thank you so much for making this video 🙂

[beautyforumbyangela]

Thank you for sharing. I do my best to get a card out as soon as I know someone has passed on. Thank you.
Cheers 😉 🌷

[k.r.]

After 7 yrs of being a sole disabled caregiver of elderly parents who BOTH have/had different dementias, my father died SUDDENLY on 6-16-23 (no hospice, & just less than 24 hrs notice from their asst'd living)...yet I rec'd only 4 sympathy cards from friends, 1 from family, & MANY from ONE DEAR FRIEND! I know my dad's obituary was online...but the business handling it handled it wrong, didn't ASK me about donations, just picked for me, made errors in typing, etc. WHAT SHOCKED ME was after 7 yrs of caring for BOTH parents for all those heartbreaking years w/NO family on ANY SIDE helping, & my health declining enormously, was that NO ONE BUT A VERY FEW actually bought & mailed a REAL sympathy card, not 1 brought a meal (when I couldn't get out of my pj's or bed for 3 days, several times, & cried non-stop!), nor did ANYONE but ONE actually show up to just give me a hug!! The past 7+ yrs being a disabled caregiver, running my own health into the dirt, has shocked me @ ALL the people I'd loved, cared for, helped, & been there, ALWAYS sending money, encouragement cards, sympathy cards, flowers, & THEN an enouragement card EVERY WK, then every other wk, then 1/month, then especially on bday, XMas, etc., anniversaries after the death for at LEAST the 1st 2 yrs, then knowing they were OK, stopping, tho' maybe sending a text acknowledging that I remembered this was their loved 1's date of death. After doing this over 20+ years, & so MANY knowing how alone, disabled, & having TWO ELDERLY parents dying slowly from this horrific disease, I cannot handle looking online...& I've treasured the PHYSICAL cards mailed to me I could touch & see their written words, + the ONLY 3 bouquets of flowers, & the ONE person who came to our home & gave a gift ctf 4 a meal, a card & a hug! WHAT IS WRONG W/HUMANITY? We've lost the art of showing up to JUST HUG THE GRIEVING PERSON!! I couldn't cook! Where were the meals that in the 1990's were there w/i 1-2 days!? At least for my sweet husband? I've lost my love of humanity over the past 7 yrs. Especially so-called "Christians." Even as busy as I've been, I helped other caregivers, or elderly people dropped off in asst'd living w/o anything to make their room "homey." I bought wall hangings, decorations, made sure they got recliners, etc. And did it with love! Yet not a single family member of THEIR'S EVER thanked me for giving joy to THEIR dying family member! Not that I do it for thx, I don't, but when I am ONE, & they are SEVERAL, could not 1 person say "thank you." Not even the $12, 000/month asst'd living sent a sympathy card! I've grieved dad's death, yet still have a mother in late stage dementia, so am STILL going thru ambiguous, anticipatory, complicated, etc., grief watching HER die slowly too! WHERE IS EVERYONE? Shame on those who cannot even write a note & mail it! We have lost our HUMAN TOUCH! And as a 58 yr old woman, I am stunned & heartbroken!! If these people think they'll inherit anything from me, well, surprise, they won't! It'll go to my husband's & my care & then to our favorite charity (& a bit to the ONE family member). Plz wake up people! We wonder why suicide is on the rise? It's because people feel SO ALONE! Esp. us older, disabled, who can barely leave their house! You need to go visit THEM/US! When you were young, we were there for YOU ALL! Yet as we age, we're ALONE & MUST HIRE HELP! How SAD! When you stand before your Creator, I truly believe He will ask ONE question..."DID you LOVE others?" What will your answer be? I know what mine will be..."YES, OH YES!" Stranger, family or friend, ALL WERE HELPED! A LOT! Yet I feel so utterly alone (as does my precious husband). We want nothing to do with 95% of people anymore! I pray they wake up soon! I said "no regrets" reg. my parents & husband, & I'll have NONE! Will you? It takes less than a cup of coffee to share love! Do you do it! I took flowers wkly, as don't give flowers to dead people! I mailed 3 cards a wk 2 my parents during Covid & put up window signs, visited from a window in heat, cold, rain, snow, etc. NOT one person did that for my husband or I! How dark & cold this world is now! And how sad!😢