Why Men Pull Away When Things Are Going Well

Why Men Pull Away When Things Are Going Well
Have you ever had that sinking feeling when someone you like just seems to be slipping away? The texts become fewer and fewer in between, and the man you’re really into, he stops making plans with you. Maybe he’ll respond to your texts or respond to any effort you put in, but he’s starting to pull away a little bit. He’s just not showing the same level of affection that he used to show. And the worst part is that you felt like things were going well and you’re compatible, and you have a close connection with each other, but everything seems just to be falling apart. If you’ve ever been in this situation, then you probably felt incredibly helpless. But never again. In this video, I’m going to be talking about why it is that men pull away and what it is that you can do moving forward.

Hey there, my name is Adam LoDolce. I’m the head Love Strategies, where we help single women successfully find long-lasting love with a proven strategy. Let’s jump into the three reasons why men pull away. And by the way, the first two reasons are things that you really can’t control if they happen, but you can control how you react to how they happen. The final reason men pull away is directly within your control and something that you can change. So, let’s jump right into it.

Reason number one is that he was always planning on pulling away. When you ignore the red flags at the beginning of a relationship, and you invest your time and your energy into an emotionally unavailable man, well, you pay the price later. If you find yourself in a situationship with a guy who tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, but you still keep seeing him, you always keep investing your energy into this guy and then you’re surprised later when he pulls away, well, that’s kind of on you now. I recognize that not all guys are that direct. And some guys may have kind of tricked you into thinking that they were interested, but they never had plans of ever being in a relationship with you.

Reason number two why men pull away is that he’s just legitimately busy in his own life. It’s not unusual for people to just get incredibly busy in their life. Whether it is with work or maybe it’s with school, or maybe it’s nothing going on with his family life. He is legitimately overwhelmed, it’s likely he’s going to put his energy elsewhere and maybe focus a little bit less on you. So, the best way to react to this situation, if a guy is legitimately overwhelmed, not just using it as an excuse, but legitimately overwhelmed, is just to show that you are there to support him and be there for him whenever he needs you.

And the final reason why men pull away is that you’re showing more interest in him than he’s showing in you. When you’re the one who’s constantly trying to push things forward and show interest and tell him how much you like him; well, what that does is it lowers your value. And on the other hand, when you let the man lead, well, you have all the power. Now, in love accelerator coaching, we actually have a specific step focused on what we call, pacing. Once you get to what we call little love step number five, which is pace the progression of your connections, we tell you to slow things down, even slower than the man wants to move forward. And what happens is the more that you slow things down, the faster he’s actually gonna wanna speed things up. It’s actually a little bit of a reverse effect. And I wanna be very clear, we don’t do this to play games or to manipulate men. We do this because the way to a healthy long-term relationship is to not dive into any relationship too quickly. It’s to slow things down, take your time, and really decide whether or not this guy is worth your time and energy. That’s what pacing is all about.

Now, regardless of the reason why he’s pulling away, what you wanna make sure you’re doing, is being incredibly intentional about the way that you react. It’s really easy in these situations to let your emotions get the best of you. And maybe you get a few drinks in you and then you wanna text him and vent your thoughts or your feelings towards him, but I urge you to not do that. And that’s a huge part of what love accelerator coaching is all about. It’s we hold you accountable to your goals. We help you stay intentional each step of the way throughout your dating life. And we have these group coaching sessions where we all work together and you actually connect with the other love accelerator coaching clients, so that you can really stay focused on what matters most—which is finding a long-term healthy relationship that serves you.

[EverythingLydia]

Ladies NEVER settle for a man who won’t communicate how he truly feels! It’s always best to be honest and simply say “I’m not interested anymore” no matter how hard that is! anything less is disrespectful!

[gem]

If he's legitimately busy, I get it and I would put myself first too. But how hard is it to communicate this properly? A man who really likes a girl wouldn't allow so much time and space for someone else to take his place...

[micaelizza]

I have been dating an awesome guy for a year, same values, same wants, we have been able to communicate everything, even the hard stuff. Been really happy with him. While back he got busy with work and life, okay, I gave him some space and did my own thing. It has been two months and I haven't seen him, he ignores my messages asking when can we talk and whats going on. I don't want to start stalking him at his workplaces parking lot just to ask him if he wants to break up or what is going on, this is not normal or exceptable. Gents, this is how you make a woman crazy 🤷‍♀️

[stellakamau]

If hes busy he should let me know lack of communication is not a solution.

[Shirazie]

I agree when a woman pulls away n he won’t hear from her for a long time he starts wondering what’s going on n does whatever he can to get back in contact with her.

[nursekillm]

Sick of being told by men to repress feelings and the expression of them when reacting to a "man"'s shady behavior.

[EntrepreneursBusinessandServic]

Great video!! I do not give my body to just anybody. Especially if they are not relationship material.

[claudiapurcell]

I had a loooong, very long relationship...(7 years; even engaged with the guy..)
Yet, we never got married. I loved him dearly, I was in agony when he left the state with his job...
We still talk...in every day, (if I call him); just...
He's emotional unavailable, immature I'd say in some areas...he liked flirting....yet he's still alone...(I'm talking ab someone very smart who wrote three books already); if he's looking for someone"better" you'll never be "the one" for him. Just wait time, nerves, life and s.o. - just thought that someday will see how good I am for him; I think he finally did...but I got too tired.🥺😔

[pinklipstick]

Because that's the time when it's expected to meet the family and friends be sexually exclusive and committed, expose each other vulnerability, possibly spending too much time together...and someone who was only looking for casual isn't going to want to dive that deep.
Move on, start over

[amytango]

Why men pull away when things are going well makes no sense to me at all. I mean, if things are going well, then they're going well, right? Why would they self-sabotage something good. I think it's a fear of commitment, to be honest. The idea of a relationship scares them away and they don't want anything serious.

[lucyfunnell]

Thank you so much for your video Adam it is always helpful my boyfriend did that to me just kept asking for naked pictures of me and then never text me for months on end I deleted his number blocked it moved on thanks again. Lucy

[an_impasse]

Hm, what happened to *Sexy Confidence* ?

[ravenmatcha]

Yea we hanging out 8 times in 2 months.. then he stopped haha sigh ☹️ but I know he is now having problems in life so I am still wanting to be here for him

[VAMPYANGY]

love love love the way u talk..and the positive energy .. <3

[cherisew]

So you can’t ask him why he pulled away?

[AGirlNamedVan]

😭😭😭😭 The guy who took me on holiday 2weeks ago😢 maybe I'm not too good for him. Maybe I'm too plain 😢

[choroukabdessettar]

So.... I confessed to my guy best friend and it turned out that he loves me too... We were happy for a while before he told me that our relationship can't be more than friendship, because I'm Muslim and he's not
I'm still sure he loves me, and i do as well
It's so frustrating and sad for both of us to act as being just friends
I don't know what to do
Help🥺

[maryhume]

It sounds like he is selfish and he's all for himself and he don't help nobody but his self nobody needs a guy like that

[jennyjen]

My bf right now, pulling away. I am not ready to let go nt yet.

[amisakihyuriko]

have you ever heard dating tips from astrology signs? im aries woman and dating an aquarius man. astrology said aquarius man is really taking time about love. like really really really taking his time off about love. what do you think?