Rethinking Bossy

Raise your hand if you have a child who likes to take charge. Now keep your hand raised if you’ve ever snapped “Stop being so bossy!” Hand still up? Well, Dr. Becky’s is too. And here’s the thing: You’re not a bad parent. And your kid’s not a bad kid. You have a good kid who has a hard time with flexibility. In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky discusses how to help your assertive child build the skills they need without shutting down their strong sense of self. She offers a new framework for “bossiness” and, as always, pairs her big ideas with practical parenting strategies you can use in your home right away. Two things are true: You can love that your child knows what they want and teach them how to make space for what others want, too.

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[alexandramaitlen]

I am parenting a bossy 5 yr old sweet, sweet boy right now. I can’t WAIT to listen to this Dr. Becky. Thank you, thank you!!

[emc]

Babysitting a bossy boy rn so they do exist haha

[allisont]

My daughter is 10 years old. She and I have been going to a psychologist for a year who thinks my daughter may be on the autism spectrum with a PDA neurotype. My daughter's brain may interpret things looking, being, or going a different way than she imagines as a crisis and reacts with fight or flight. I mention this in case the information helps another parent.

[louisaruth]

i don't think anyone has ever expected a podcast to end gender expectations, but one sure can perpetuate them

if my little boy ever has a bossy sister but he stays chill, i would consider it a win. kids pick up on the real world, and maybe they would have figured out on some level how to compensate somewhat for the sexism that will always benefit the one and harm the other. if i was worried about the bossy sister missing out on skills required to stfu and do what her boss has instructed, i would take her bowling, fishing, camping, or to work. if i was worried my son would become a doormat, i would either check that feeling or recognize his patience and maturity with an appropriate reward, like a bike or video game

[theyoga.nutritionist]

Me crying as I tell myself the mantra at the end ❤

[alyssamurphy]

When a DAUGHTER is bossy to her brother, he hits and then gets in trouble for it, because he is a testosterone ball and doesn't have the words to push back and gets flooded with the "big feelings." She doesn't get in trouble for commanding him in an insensitive way because the hitting takes the cake.