The Truth About BetterHelp, Life Coaches, & Positive Affirmations | Dr. Ali Mattu

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00:00 Intro
01:09 Social Media Doctors
07:16 When To Start Talking About Therapy
11:30 Triggering Language
22:57 Medical Turf Wars
49:00 Thought's Don't Matter
56:19 Life Coaches / School Curriculums
1:14:24 Affirmations / Manifestations / Ice Baths
1:26:20 Punishment
1:38:00 BetterHelp
1:58:14 Hacks / Meyers-Briggs / Astrology
2:10:35 The Quesadilla Story
2:25:35 Doctors As President / Pokemon Go
2:33:44 Perks Of Being A Psychologist

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[drali]

Thanks for having me on Dr. Mike and for continuing to make mental health part of the conversation 🙌🏽

[Ruth-tumu]

I appreciated what Dr. Ali said about mental health and criminality - “it may not be their fault but it’s still their responsibility”. That’s the most balanced compassionate and realistic take on the issue I’ve heard.

[MadisMix]

Really glad he acknowledged the people who aren’t “severe” enough for treatment but are still suffering.

[BroccoliAndCheese]

“No permanent solutions to temporary feelings”. As someone who has struggled for years with suicidal ideation, that’s the only “affirmation” I use.

[lokipokey]

I really prefer your podcast interviews with medical experts over the ones with celebrities. Celebrities' medical stories can help illustrate a medical topic, but I find the experts much more interesting and I learn more from them. Either way, you always do a great job of informing people and of distinguishing between fact and opinion.

[Sara.T]

Hi Mike! I'm a adult female who is autistic and have adhd. If you say "with autism" or "has autism" or "autistic" it really doesn't matter. I've seen you talk about autism on your channel before and sticking up for the autism community many times so you have absolutely nothing to worry about when it comes to this. There will always be those who feel the need to complain because no matter how hard you try you cannot please everyone!

[sagefrogstudios]

Glad to see credible doctors talking about this.

[SmallAngryNerd]

Such a refreshing take on CBT. Ive been so frustrated with therapists treating my depression with "just think better." Obsessions? "Oh, those are irrational, think rationally." Like wow thanks, how did i not think of that...

[MrLockski]

Hey Doctor Mike,
Just wanna say that, as an adult on the autism spectrum myself (diagnosed high functioning Asperger's), it doesn't matter if you refer to someone with autism as "a person with autism" or "an autistic person", as long as you refer to them with respect. In my experience with people having similar diagnoses, they don't care about the verbiage, they just want to be respected. Anyone who gives you a hard time about a subject like this is virtue signaling, imo.

[AmericanWoman]

I could not afford a psychiatrist appointment when I was under insured, so my primary doc saw me for the better part of a year touching base and helping me find a medication that work. When something worked or didn’t, she would sit with me and look at medicines that she thought would work and weighed pros and cons. Plus, she gave me encouragement to keep fighting and stick with her to get a solution that works. We eventually found a medication that worked, but the time spent building that relationship and rapport made me realize to approach all my medical concerns like that. So grateful for her.

[adamb]

Licensed psychotherapist from Germany here. Compliments on the podcast. It reflects very responsibly on topics I encounter in my work. The particular problem I see with many of these quick fixes that are trending is that they suggest simplicity ("Just think positively"), and when they don't work instantly, especially for clients with low self-esteem (occurring very often as either a symptom or a consequence of suffering from mental health conditions), they further consider themselves inept, incompetent, and helpless. This even worsens when their environment tends to be a bit overbearing.

[Ryn]

As a trained clinical psychologist i would recommend this episode to everyone who doesn't understand what therapy truly is and the system we work in. Amazing podcast. Love from Spain ❤

[LuckyNumberOfficial]

Not even Half way through this Podcast but I can already say EVERYONE needs to watch this and really hear what is being said!

[lindz]

I'm a CBT trained therapist and I was never taught to tell people that their thoughts are irrational. In fact I tell my clients that CBT isn't about telling you your thoughts are wrong as there is likely actual truth and reasoning for your thoughts, its about considering other alternative ways of thinking about a situation that may be equally true or more true. It is about widening the lens of your perspective and considering alternative and weighing them out.

[nancyreid]

One of my very best friends is a (now retired) minister, and I am an atheist. At one point early in our friendship, I told her I appreciated her not proselytizing me. She said, that’s easy; ministering is my job, and I’m off the clock right now. More people would be happier if, like Dr Ali and my friend, people would pay more attention to occasionally turning off their profession and just being people. Great talk, by the way!

[katyeomans]

Hi Dr Mike, you should have LegalEagle on your podcast! You could talk about the insanity defense, maybe the legal specifics of Roe being overturned alongside the medical side, I would love to see a full conversation between a medical and legal expert (I know y’all have done a few vids before, but would love a full podcast episode!)

[SusanIsListening]

I didn't realize how hungry I've been for civil, quiet discourse. My head is spinning while I weep with joy! Great video.

[kenaanderson]

I appreciate how Dr. Mike kind of pushes his questions to get an answer. He isn't afraid to ask hard questions and have people explain things even if they are uncomfortable things, but he does it in a kind way. We really need that in conversations generally, but especially in medicine.

[dougherty]

I love the talk about language. I'm blonde, I have blond hair, I'm autistic, I have autism, I'm blind, I have blindness, it's all the same to me. Adjectives describe, they don't limit. Even as a non-content creator I get anxious about being yelled at saying the "wrong" thing. If it matters to someone I'm happy to use their preferred language to describe them. How they ask matters more than what they ask imo

[marilhabalieiro]

He was already doing well being a guest of doctor Mike, but he won me over when he said: "tell stories about our scars, not our wounds"! Beautiful line! I appreciate it so much! We need to chose carefully the people to share and process our wounds! ❤