Why I Quit Therapy

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If I had it to do over again, I would have stopped going to therapy long before I did. Most commenters on this channel told me they felt the same way; a few were astonished and wanted to know more. In this video I explain WHY therapy not only didn't help me heal from Childhood PTSD / CPTSD, but how it put me at risk. Be sure to watch until the end! I talk about what DID enable me to heal, and the need for more self-determination around our own healing .
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[HALLTOM]

Speaking as a licensed clinical psychologist, I can attest that you are ahead of the curve and the public service you are providing is a testament to your dedication to help others. Not only am I learning from you, I'm also reminded why I was drawn to my profession in the first place. Thank-you.

[lilalienangel]

I think the problem inlies in the fact they open a can of worms yet there is no time to work through it. The worms have no place to go.. 1 hour just doesn't cut it..

[angelahill]

Every therapist i ever had made excuses for abuse & abusers. Always trying to force me to forgive my abusers. Most know nothing of complex trauma.

[barbaraa]

Mine always said, "you can't keep being angry. You'll never grow." I have a huge right to be angry. I grew a lot when I got away from the vultures described as "family"

[Captain_Pink]

I saw this the other day and thought it was great, and it was a practitioner (could've been a doctor but also could've been a therapist) saying "Don't mistake your 5 hours of google searching for my 4 years of medical school." And the response was "Don't mistake your 3 month class on this for my 20+ years of living with it."

[gloriakurkowski]

Psychiatrists, Psychologists. Therapists not one of them mentioned CPTSD or PTSD at all. After 30 years of being misdiagnosed, prescribed every drug possible, I lost my lively hood, marriages and family. Thank you for your hard work and giving me the answers when no one else cared to do so. At least this last chapter of my life appears to be looking up. Again, thank you.

[penniye]

It’s Thursday night after my therapy session. I search up “quitting therapy” on YouTube and this video came up. Expecting nothing I continued watching.

Now you have a girl fully sobbing in the car ride home. I was feeling SO FRUSTRATED, IRRITATED, ANNOYED that I couldn’t convey my issues in a way my therapist could understand. My critical thoughts started to surface. I started thinking I was the problem. But no. This one video healed me. I resonate so deeply with your story. ❤

This has given me SO MUCH validation and healing, Anna. I’m so so so so so grateful I found your video. I would have been so emotionally dysfunctional for the next few days if I hadn’t seen this as that’s what usually happens. I cannot thank you enough.

After my session, I randomly searched up “quitting therapy” and your video came up. It was everything I needed and more.


I’ve seen 6 counsellors in the past year and they all look at me like a deer in headlights whenever I talk about nervous system dysregulation or when I say talk therapy is not helpful and that I would like more bottom up therapy like somatic experiencing or EMDR instead. I know I have complex ptsd, toxic shame, ADHD and talking about aimlessly is probably the worst thing I can do.

I’m so thankful you’re creating this platform to help others. I wish you all the best with this channel and your journey. You just gained a new sub!

Excuse me while I binge watch all your videos ❤️😅

[grantlott]

1000% agree with you. I saw 6 or so therapists, not much progress there... then I went to school to become a therapist. I dropped out and changed paths when I realized the high proportion or narcissism in this “mental health” community.

Healing happens in life, it happens in strange places when we seek it. Thank you for your service!

[joserrapere]

I am a licensed clinical psychologist with CPTSD and I think what you are doing is wonderful. Therapists need this kind of training as part of our academics. The survivors are always the true teachers.

[AliciaMarkoe]

I stopped going to therapy when I realized that I was paying them for the privilege of entertaining them with my story. I'm very open and honest, and they get all caught up hearing my story, and we never got around to making things better.

[BrokenInTheBox]

I dropped out of trauma therapy when the counselor basically called me a liar because of talking about a recurring dream/nightmare where I was covered in mud and feces. The first time I only talked about the mud...later I mentioned the feces. He was quick to point out that I didn't mention the feces the first time I talked about the dream/nightmare. The judgy look upon his face was disgusting. If anyone's ever gardened, or been raised on a farm, then you know that black dirt that's full of cow manure. It was like that in my dream...I certainly didn't need some young guy fresh out of school judging me and nit picking my words and basically accusing me of being a liar simply because I didn't completely open up upon our first meeting. I found another counselor to see and went for nearly a year. I was getting sick prior to each appointment from the stress; and eventually just quit going. I have found that keeping a journal has been the best thing that I can do for myself. No judgments from my pen and paper! To anyone out there whose suffering, try the journal. Keep it in a lock box for privacy if you must, but write those thoughts/memories/dreams and nightmares down! And remember, whatever happened to you as a child was NOT your fault! You are worthy....you are deserving of respect and love; and most of all...you are enough! Love and blessings to all who suffer. 💙

[crcls]

The first therapist I had I was only 17. He told me to write a letter to my parents and let it all out, and I wouldn't have to give it to them. The point is to process emotions. Well, he gave them the letter. He said that he lied because it was the only way to get to the bottom of everything. Well, my abusive parents tortured me for weeks afterwards. I was literally locked in my room with nothing in it, not even a bed. I will never talk to another therapist again.

[AnnafromHungarylvNW]

Therapy sometimes reinforces rumination or the sense that 'if I solve this, then I'm going to be acceptable'.

[loriolson]

My ten. 1) move to hawaii 2) beach walk for exercise 3) talk kindly to strangers, but don't look for relationships 4) take care of animals (nurture) 5) eat healthy 6) work a job I'm passionate about (animal care) 7) be a friend 8) be easy on myself 9) stay anonymous 10) don't take responsibility for others. Need a rest ...

[lavender]

"Healing is the outcome we want. Not the preservation of old rules and ideas about who is in charge of healing."
Yes! Anna you are brilliant. Thank you.

[lisacurfman]

I agree with you, talk therapy made me feel still stuck, not fixed

[KarmasAbutch]

Some of the worst Therapists I’ve had were “*trauma informed*” Therapists. My trust in that *special* skill set did the most damage. I will never go back. They still have egos that get in their own way... just like everybody else. THey’re not Gods... they went to school to READ about people with your LIVED experience. No more *experts* for me. Trust No1

[Thedioses]

I wasted many years of my life trying to find a competent therapist... Never found one. I did find help however. on channels like yours, with people that have gone through the same type of experiences.

[spookycat]

When you spend months and years in therapy taking about a person or circumstances that traumatized you, oftentimes you are still giving that person power over you even if they are long gone from your life. You certainly are giving the trauma your time, emotions and attention which is taking away from time, emotions and attention that can be spent on positivity!!

[kathleendinsmore]

Talk therapy felt like reliving the trauma all over again! It was bad enough to live it. Let the healing begin! We can take charge of our own recovery and ultimately it is our right and our responsibility to do so.