Men's Rights: Defending Against False Domestic Violence Allegations

In this video, Attorney Chris Kaczmarek describes how men can defend against false allegations of domestic violence.

Defending yourself includes:

- Hire an experienced attorney
- Identify character witness
- Identify motivation
- Can you file your own claim? Make sure to file first

For more than 30 years, Paré & Associates, LLC (formerly the Law Office of Alice Paré) has helped clients in Germantown, Montgomery County, and throughout the State of Maryland in family law, bankruptcy, criminal, and trust & estate matters.

Paré & Associates, LLC (formerly the Law Office of Alice Paré)
301-962-2492 Office

For more than 30 years, Paré & Associates, LLC (formerly the Law Office of Alice Paré) have helped clients in Germantown, Silver Spring, and throughout the State of Maryland in family law, estate planning, bankruptcy, criminal, and trust & estate matters.

Paré & Associates, LLC (formerly the Law Office of Alice Paré)
301-515-1190 Office

Office Locations:

20300 Seneca Meadows Pkwy, Suite 210
Germantown, MD 20876

19737 Executive Park Cir
Germantown, MD 20874

1100 Wayne Avenue, Suite 825
Silver Spring, MD 20910

[rhinoskin]

Currently going through this. 2 days before Xmas lol.. I hope to speak to a PD on Friday.. I was defending myself and I got arrested and charged.

[FatherX]

If the courts make a presumption that a woman must be the victim and must be telling the truth...and they don't have that same presumption for men...isn't that gender discrimination and isn't that clearly unconstitutional according to the equal rights amendment? Shouldn't lawyers be suing judges on behalf of their clients for civil rights violations every single day?

[RitmoProductions]

This is 100% true. I wish I could have seen this video sooner. I have been in a situation where I called 911 myself because when my ex came to my house at 9pm and took everything as much as possible. I tried not to react to her actions and called a non-emergency 911, asking for help to facilitate the situation. When the officers arrived, I noticed they were not interested in my story; instead, they used one of the vacant rooms, focused on my ex's story behind the close doorl. Imagine you’re the one who called 911 to maintain the peace, and you’re the one who is being investigated on your property, and the very next day, I received a call from another officer asking my whereabouts to serve my warrants for domestic violence.

That’s just a small fraction—only 1%—of my story. Sharing everything would probably take me two whole days to fully express my side, a side I’ve kept bottled up because of my deep love for my kids. They deserve to have a mom they can rely on at any moment.

[Anonymous-ynny]

Zero feelings. Zero commitment. ZERO cohabitation. 100% honesty upfront:

"Casual & recreational"

[Diana-mugo]

Happened to my fiance in Wisconsin. I even gave the courts factual evidence and they basically told me to shut up. Now he is in prison.

[gettingschooled]

Spitting facts. Yes, men get a raw deal when it comes to public perception.

[THEINFAMOUSJLC]

I’m being accused by a woman .. god knows what.. I’m scared for my life .. pls help .

[caterinadelgalles]

Bree Marie Chavez tried to accuse her hubby, who in fact, was the victim.
Myself, a woman, did NOT stand by her and I am exposing her now. I am going down for it, as she has z Simp Army, but I stand up against this bs.

[stephenkaake]

the lawyer I had just said, plead guilty, the woman couldn't even say I had contact in 12 years

[gking]

Why is she not in jail for assault????
He has video proof that she hit him first.

[uhon]

What you saying is true I seen first hand how the court system works regards to allegations of domestic violence You're always guilty until proven innocent remember that. Record everything just in case doesn't matter if You start seeing red flags of a woman trying to use the system or threatens to Make false claims document everything through audio recordings app that are dated and timed keep your mouth shut. Don't play her game Don't call the cops Don't give any information to the cops if the case gets that serious could have it all the recordings just in case you can give that to your lawyer cuz no prosecutors going to put an alleged victim on the stand when there's audio recordings of them being a totally different person on several different occasions be careful my guys some of these women out here versus straight psychos in disguise trying to put innocent men in prison. Even if proven innocent the allegations the alleged victim just goes on with their day nothing happens prosecutors don't charge alleged victim for false reports even when proven the system is so broken there is no justice it's all a money-making game!

[BluntTrauma]

So I was painted a DV Perpetrator by my lifelong abuser / mother. The situation came up when I confronted her with a few questions regarding sexual abuse, physical abuse along with straight up bullying and neglect from childhood til current day. Before 2024 I thought she was just a terrible mother / not a great person; now I'm convinced she is intentionally set out to destroy my life while painting herself the "poor single mother who tried her hardest to help" -> she left me at my worst, and has called in crisis assessment teams when realising I was ready to talk to police (but doing alright mentally) its so fked up.

[TravG-xz]

I rarely get close to anyone and avoid confrontations at all costs, I usually always flee from them, and I know how easy it is to get in this situation especially in a relationship, you hit someone, bruise them, break a bone, etc, they call cops and you're in jail. I've been assaulted several times in my life but decided not to press charges. I even leaped out of a moving vehicle while being punched in the chest by the driver, an ex roomie, during a attempted robbery. I saved many people's reputations with my mercy. I mean some of them now are living real good, but if I had been less merciful they'd be hurting right now!

[thegoldenland]

There should be no such domestic violence law, as it is prone to abuse, and innocent individuals may be wrongfully accused and seriously harmed.

[buildmotosykletist]

My advice would be to have a journal with times, locations, people, etc recorded in detail. It's difficult at first but will quickly become an enjoyable habit. It also exposes false allegations very quickly.

A bloke I know found his invaluable but still the courts allowed his wife to sell his house and give the funds to her boyfriend. In a twist of fate his children recovered some of the money and returned it to him.

[EAllison-drtb]

I have a open case with false straggelation and they have pictures and im not guilty and she dont show up to court whats the outcome?

[SeanChristopherMcGee]

I dont want to throw hate at attorneys but I just love how they keep insisting that you need one to defend your would love one..really I would but can someone tell me how the F someone like me who has faced bankruptcy because of my covert narc Ex, still recovering from the financial melt down from Covid, afford an attorney at $450 an hour??? I don't have a bloody choice but to research and defend myself. I never wanted to go to court in the first place but it appears I don't have a choice.

[myworkout]

I’m being charged of domestic violence after I called the police to help me from her as she said she will empty the clip in my chest after hitting me scratching me multiple times.

[BBA]

What about the men who cannot afford an attorney? I believe the most obvious way to avoid domestic violence and abuse claims is to avoid living together, where she is responsible for her own finances and lifestyle choices. The reality for men here is no defence against these type of allegations.

[MaydayDroneMediaLLC]

I just had a 5th temporary injunction served against me the other day, in the last 2.5 years, and in my life. I filed a paternity action for my son, and look at me now?! 5 entirely made up stories. 6 if you count the violation I got charged with. 7 if you count the other violation that was reported (made up.) State finally did not pursue. Maybe they finally realized that without any evidence whatsoever, except for to the contrary, other than a ‘victim’s” statement, they might not have a slam dunk. Had I not locked my screen door on the 2nd reported violation, even though the dumb ass deputies asked me to step right outside, I said no fucking way out of instinct/fear. He told me at the end of the questioning, that they would have come in and arrested me if I had left that door unlocked. I have everything documented. Police reports, 911 audio, video recorded police interactions, and my own journal/video log. 13 times the cops came to my house on bogus calls in a mere 6 months. And that was just the times that they wrote a report. It was a lot more than that. I’ve spent a shitload on defense costs. Now, I’ve lost my job, I’m bankrupt, nearly had a nervous breakdown. I think I did. But I was unwilling to seek medical attention for fear of what would happen to my boy. I scrounged up a trial retainer for the custody case, starting in less than 2 weeks, but other than that, financially, I’m ruined. The shit my son has been through wrecks my heart. It took me 8 months to get him back. This is a fucking crime. The pain they put my boy through is reprehensible. The potential future mental health issues he’ll battle?! Unknown. I hope not.

On this fifth injunction, thank God and finally it was not issued as an injunction, but as a notice of hearing on a petition. I was so mad when that cop knocked. I told him to leave it at the floor and go fuck himself. I didn’t know what it was. Sorry, not sorry. They fucking smell the shit. Finally. Jesus. I don’t have the money to retain a defamation lawyer, I think I have a case. There’s a lot more to the story you can imagine and it’s not a story. It’s a living nightmare and It’s the fucking truth.

By the way, I’m 38 years old I was charged with a DUI when I was 21. That’s the extent of my criminal history. I’ve had all kinds of rights violated, 1st amendment, 2nd, 4th, 5th and I think 8th. All because I want to be a father to my son. A child that I was therefore before he was born, the day he was born, and I have not left his side since. Only when he was unlawfully withheld have we been separated. That’s happened 5 times, in the past 6 years. He’s 6 years old. These people are despicable.