Retroactive Jealousy & accepting your partner's past.

Are you ready to overcome this? Book your one on one discovery call here:

Hi there, we are Eva & Sean Harrison.
A married couple that has overcome retroactive jealousy, ROCD and general relationship anxiety. The first few years together we really struggled with these issues and today we work together to help individuals and couples who feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated and stuck due to intrusive thoughts and mental movies regarding their partner’s past and/or doubts about their relationship today.

Whether you suffer from Retroactive Jealousy, ROCD, Relationship Anxiety or just want some invaluable relationship advice we hope our content helps you.

If you’re an individual or couple suffering with anxiety, confusion, anger, disgust, judgement, intrusive thoughts, trust issues, numbness, uncertainty in your relationship and are trying to keep it together on the outside but are suffering daily on the inside or if you’ve Googled or looked up “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy”, “Overcoming ROCD”, “Relationship Anxiety symptoms”, “ROCD / Retroactive Jealousy why do the thoughts feel so real?”, “How to stop wishing your partner's past was different”, “How to treat ROCD”, “Intrusive thoughts and compulsions in relationships”, “Feeling doubt/questioning my relationship”, “Cure for Retroactive Jealousy?”, “How to overcome Retroactive Jealousy”, “ROCD / Relationship Anxiety or wrong relationship?”, “Relationship OCD urge to break up”, “ Retroactive Jealousy symptoms”, “ROCD symptoms” you’ve come to the right place.
The people we have worked with have experienced and processed how and why these things showed up in their relationships. As well as how it lead to them having intrusive thoughts, feeling angry, sad, anxious and like they are self sabotaging their relationship.

DISCLAIMER: Any information or advice we give is purely based on our own experience, learning and research as well as the methods utilised in Rapid Transformational Therapy, NLP and Hypnotherapy. These methods can be used to get to the root cause of any issue but are not for everyone. There is no guarantee as there are many variables that will impact your success. We are not doctors and always encourage you to work with your doctor for your medical care. If you are in a life threatening situation or contemplating suicide, please seek appropriate medical and professional help.

[TS-gy]

You shouldn't have to accept or forgive someone's past. The key is, before you get emotionally invested in someone, make sure you understand their past and then decide if it's something you can deal with. If their past bothers you, then don't get into a relationship with them in the first place. Simple.

[phymaticatutorial]

Only thing which works is to tolerate the thought.. no reaction on thoughts and not to be reactive. Just sit with anxiety. One day the thoughts will fade.

[V_II_IK_I_IN_G]

You’re so right! Thankyou so much for that… I’ve been made out to think that I have to accept it, not so much “like it” but to have to warm to it in a way and tell myself it’s ok… but to think of it as “indifferent” is absolutely spot on… I won’t accept it or like but I love her so I refuse to hate it…
I also look at my own personal sexual history and ask myself whether I hold on to those memories and if they hold any meaning or sentimental value and or do I love my partner so much that I wish that I never touched a soul except for her… and it IS the latter… I know she loves me a heck of a lot and if I think about it this way then so does she ❤️

[googlestoleyoutube]

I really like this concept with the exception that know that anything that threatened my relationship, with my girlfriend meant, we would have issues with our trust and other things. But while we were friends, it was OK for her to sleep around and we weren’t dating so it doesn’t mean anything. But then, when we started talking, she lied about her past, and her body count when all I wanted was honesty not details. So I just feel betrayed and can’t help but think with the void of our physical connection being so large. Is due to her past and her already experiencing everything that she would’ve liked to experience. Regardless of who I am, or what new experiences we could meet together.

[Whimsicaltalesx]

I choose to accept and forgive because that’s love

[Kelli]

Great advice. I tend to get trauma dumped on so I’m deciding that I don’t want to talk much about someone’s past in my next relationship. Becoming indifferent in a great way to be secure in general.

[Joejoe-pn]

If people have a pattern of picking partners or people that they have to fix you should have a good look at yourself and figure out why this pattern continues. The only one you're hurting is yourself if you don't change your outlook on a future partner

[RapTalesRewind]

It's tough and if it is bad enough maybe worth walking away

[hondapilot]

Absolutely, just move past them ! Not worth the time, effort or emotional commitment. Men, move on !!

[noahslover]

Is 2 bodies before me a lot? It feels dumb to say but to know that I was third just really hurts me

[SIGMABABA_GAMING]

our relationship is going good and she is perfect for me ...but suddenly i get jealous or angry by some random thoughts like that she is not vigin ....she had ex's ...etc etc

[SuhaibmEhar]

Thank you very much
I tried to find any good advice on this but unfortunately never came across any thing helpful.
But you spoke the words of my heart
Thanks again

[ALPHA.]

Just leave them because in the future their past will be a big problem for sure so is better to leave them because we don't have to suffer for their past mistakes.. That's better.

[ZLittle-oy]

Find out all you can about their past and if it doesn't make them wifey or hubby material, don't go there. Past practices dictate future performance.

[naraendrareddy]

Often those who say don't judge and even shame others for judging, judge people.

[beauty_sparkle]

Actually my boyfriend loves me too much he is changing himself for me he converted from atheist into a religious person for promised me to not to touch me before marriage but i cant accept that he used to be a fuckboy and slept with many women in the past no matter whatever he is doing for me theres a sense in me that always says i do deserve better being a virgin women idk what to do i love him but i love myself too and i cant decide

[ayashasiddika]

be careful people! cause history reapets itself 😅

[FSXXtreme]

In an equal relationship I wouldn’t care that means not paying for a fully grown adult woman, she should be able to take care of herself.

[fernandabaglietto]

Hello. I’m really having problems finding information about his. I have a terrible RJ currently. The problem is that all came from one night he said her name. After that for months of questions sometimes he had lied or say things that hurt me and then tried to change the versions to make me feel better. What if indeed she liked them better? What if he said that he is not sure if he would have chosen me (If I was in the picture back when they met) or he would still be deceived by her. Things like that or accepting he liked them more. Please, is there any help we don’t want to end the relationship. But I don’t know what to do.

[soy]

I feel disgusted but I love her so much I can’t leave because I also have a past but just imagining her with him cuts so deeply (I can’t expect a virgin if I myself am not) I’m going insane