10 Indicators That A Person Cannot Be Trusted

Trust is one of the most essential ingredients for any thriving, gratifying relationship. Some people, however, do not prioritize trustworthiness because of other self serving priorities. Dr. Les Carter identifies 10 distinct indicators to help you determine if a person can or cannot be trusted. By becoming aware and tuned into their schemes, you can avert future disappointments.

Dr. Les Carter is a semi-retired psychotherapist who spent 41 years in private practice in the Dallas, Tx. metroplex. He now resides in Waco, Tx. He has conducted over 65,000 counseling sessions, written extensively, and has presented many workshops and seminars.

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[jackilynpyzocha]

When someone wants to know all about you, yet won't reciprocate. Very one-sided.

[alaysiakayebutler]

sometimes they show up in a crisis with a hidden agenda, creating an obligation

[tangerinefizz]

Another indicator is when the person gossips. If the person is talking about someone else to you, chances are good he or she is talking about you to another person.

[michelepascoe]

1. Superficial personal responses
2. Inability to learn from mistakes
3. Lots of unsolicited advice
but don't receive input
4. Easily critical
5. Evasive about plans
6. Fair weather friends
7. Consistent inconsistency
8. Characterised by mismanagement of anger
9. Don't return kindness, empathy, tho' like to receive it
10. Like to talk about their successes but don't reveal or take responsibility for their failures.

[Lynne-]

TRUST your intuition, your gut feeling.

[rorywright]

They don’t value your time, only their own!

[JohnOakes-mwls]

The trouble is, I’ve known people who come around when you’ve got a problem because they simply want to know what is going on! They’re nosey about your life, but won’t allow you to know about their life! And once you’ve told them what they want to know, you don’t see them again until the next time they’re being nosey!!!! 🙏🙏🙏

[elizasmith]

Sometimes a person's past can make a difference. If they have trusted the wrong person or people they become guarded. They are nice people but they have been hurt many times. Trust should be earned and not taken for granted.

[Vezmus]

“A friend cannot be known in prosperity: and an enemy cannot be hidden in adversity.”

[anesasosevic]

People who cannot earn my trust are:
1# those who break their promises;
2# those who donot take responsibility for their behaviour and actions;
3# those who use goodness of others;
4# those who do others harm;
5# those who spread naughty lies about nice and good people with aim to hide their real nature
Some of them are only immature and some of them are unfortunately narcissists.
Dr. Carter, thanks for this up-coming interesting theme!

[caroleknudson]

When someone has been misunderstood long enough, they figure out how to stop sharing personal information. It doesn't mean they are not trustworthy. It simply means they are learning who they feel safe to share with. Being evasive can be the same thing... they are trying not cause an explosion.

[Adriel]

I think if people have been subjected to narcissistic abuse, then part of the fallout is a lack of trust, which is due to the narcissist's gaslighting and predatorial behavior!

[steviecrow]

When someone shows you they are willing to break laws, they are not trustworthy. Thank them for showing you who they truly are, then RUN.

[mariaathanassiou]

It is annoying when people at work ask how your weekend was and expect you to give a decent answer. It is work time and not random chit chat time. Also can be friendly but need to maintain professional boundaries.

With close friends I do enjoy this question and outside of work time.
Also not being open about what you have been upto can also be a self esteem thing - if you don’t think people will find it interesting or weren’t asking genuinely. In NZ asking someone how they are and what they have been upto is a pleasantry and it’s awkward if someone throws a curveball and says “I’m not doing well and this is what I did with my time”.

Average answer is along the lines of “Good and nothing much”.

[Angie-AFB]

This sounds like every single person, that is why I mostly keep to myself and have zero expectations

[Steve]

It's important to not conflate a private personality with untrustworthiness. I'm an introvert who likes to hold his cards close to the best until I feel I can trust someone.

[cindymccafferty]

Some people are gossips and busybodies. My personal life, my plans, etc are none of their business. I found that they just want to know my business to get info for gossiping. When they press me for personal info, I shut them down by asking, ”Why do you want to know?”

[justice]

I find competitive people untrustworthy. They are constantly looking to one up or sabotage you. If they aren’t successful with that, then they degrade out of jealousy.

[firewoman]

I've learned that you find out who your real friends are when moving

[Notmytoe]

The Unsolicited advice one and the Critical ones are spot on! These people may seem wise and very helpful at first, but after a while you realize they don't have good intentions.