Feeling socially alone and isolated ?

[ThatGingerHannah]

In person connections are so hard for me even though I crave that in person connection. So bizarre 😅

[Nuetral]

Actually my problem is that I feel like people want me to be ashamed of myself, but I lived that way for decades... I'm not going back.

[sej_]

It feels like it **should be** deeper, but instead in-person connection feels much more shallow.

I think I've always struggled with that, as I remember specifically telling my mom about it as young as first or second grade. This sense that everyone was bonding and making long-lasting friendships in school except me. (Even though at that time, I *had* friends.)

A good therapist I had once told me I needed to stop expecting any one person to be "everything I needed" socially and otherwise. That perhaps my need to connect, while understandable, was fraught with too many high expectations in terms of bonding. She went on to explain how she got her individual needs met by different people.

Intellectually, that made a lot of sense, but also left me feeling at a loss as to how I would begin to implement such a strategy, and moreso if it would even work for me.

Stigma is another issue, but it's a big one. I want to feel genuine connection with others, not people who are merely being nice to me because of my mental issues. I know they probably feel they're helping me by doing so, but it feels incredibly condescending on so many levels. I'm not a child to be placated to, but an adult, with all the complexities and needs of one. I can certainly sense when people are disingenuous and it is very painful. But people keep me at a remove for these same reasons, because in truth they see me as a child instead of a struggling adult.

[fricastudios]

Your videos really get me going. Keep it, Dr fox!💯

[newtuberfreedom]

That is so me right now ... but i know it will pass, it just takes longer & longer each time ...

[WhitePelicansareReal]

Great topic! The problem I have is I can do in person interactions. The problem I also have is online I can’t hear their voice and know or understand what they might really mean. Could you do an extended video on this please? Thank you for the video 😊

[nothingnoone]

Yeah, I've just given up. Going to be alone forever.

[barbaraalbert]

Find a friend? Noone responds if I leave a message. Easier with it being anonymous? Able to connect? Yeah it's compounding

[MushadX]

I don’t know how to connect to people online

[caddieohm]

These shorts are somewhat disappointing. Like they don't fill you up. Your longer videos helped me so much to insight whereas the shorts leave me lonely.

[nihilisticbarbie]

This is exactly what I’m going through right now 🥲 thank you as always Dr Fox, it feels like you’re verbalizing the thoughts in my mind