The Reason Why You Keep Attracting Broken Men/Women

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[msredbone]

I think my empathy gets me into trouble.😔

[bryanb]

I think that I was in a relationship with a broken girl because I skipped the friendship stage in which I should have gathered all the information before getting into the relationship. God has been healing me so much since the breakup in May this year and I feel like I am in a much better mental state. It’s all because of God that I am being healed and strengthened. I’m learning to love myself because I continually have beat myself up time and time again, I’m so much nicer to others than I am to myself. God is working on making me love myself just as he loves me. Always love your videos Tavares, God bless you brother!

[NatalieJulianne]

“We’re replacing what God desires for us with what our emotions are telling us we need.” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[dominiqueconner]

This message was good, and deep!! I think for me I was trying to find my identity in men.. I was pouring too much into them, because I have a big heart, and love hard.. I was trying to make them love me, and desire me the same way, I desired them.. I was trying to change them, and ONLY GOD can do that.. I was so lost, and not saved trying to find my way.. I use to blame God, a lot but me being saved now, and realizing it wasn’t God fault it was mines. We have to stop blaming God for our actions.. We need to seek God, and have discernment when dating.. It would save us a lot of pain, and wasted time.. I think God for everything I’ve been though, because I’ve gained a lot of wisdom.. Most important I’ve found God!! I know my worth!! My identity is in HIM, and ONLY HIM!!

[sakuranight]

You’re right 🥺 I tried to rush a relationship without really knowing the guy. I thought he was on the same spiritual level I was. God protected me because the guy rejected me . However I got to see his true colors after that. It was discouraging and frustrating but because of having a biblical perspective I can truly wait.

[DevotionsWithDemarcus]

Great content as always, brother! Gotta give u ya flowers n let ya know that I’m proud of you for consistently delivering content while never compromising the truth! Keep letting God use you!🙏🏼💯

[medline]

Thank you for sharing this video because this is exactly what I needed to hear! For the past few years, I just keep meeting broken men and I ask myself why haven't they done the work like I did (get help, draw close to God, etc). I told one of my friends that I get tired of being seen as "the help" when I am dating. Yes, my career is centered on helping my clients but it isn't my role to save everyone! I think our flesh comes at times when we are alone and or haven't dealt with the deep-rooted issues. But as believers we really need to trust in God and what the bible says.

[rayerobbins]

Great video! A lot of great points! I've learned to truly pay attention to your emotions because if you're feeling down, tired of being single or just want to be in a relationship that is usually when you find yourself being attracted to the wrong type or the wrong type being attracted to you. Sometimes the wrong type can pick up on you being tired of being single, feeling down or wanting to be in a relationship. This is why we have to be discerning and watchful of our feelings.

[sam.abadyah]

This is a major problem for me 😕 it’s really saddening because I don’t like hurting worse the people that like me after telling them I don’t like them like that. That means that it’s something I’m doing wrong, and I think it’s not setting boundaries. I love to help people, and I guess helping too much is somehow a sign to some women that I’m emotionally and spiritually attractive/available for relationship because I’m assisting their emotional baggage. Or they don’t know their worth in the Father, and they begin to cling to the first person that’s helping them in a way that they feel no one else is. This seems highly dysfunctional and it’s extremely annoying and burdening finding myself in the same situation over and over and over again. Some label it as the healer syndrome, or the Savior complex. I’m angry at myself for not establishing boundaries and even more upset that I don’t really know how without seeming rude. Prayer is definitely needed y’all, this video is very timely… Yah bless.

[lizzomso]

There’s nothing wrong being single enjoy your singleness, yeah I’m getting chased but I’m working on myself, I’m closed off, I want to work on me and stop attracting wrong people

[JessSoReal]

Boundaries are a form of self love in relationships in order for it to reveal characters, motives etc during friendships stages with all people.

[msredbone]

Keep allowing the Lord to use you! Even though some of the things that are said is an OUCH moment for me, keep telling the truth!

[TeeTimeWithT]

I’ve dealt with many broken men because as you said, I’ve skipped over the friendship stage and straight into the relationship stage. Also because I’ve seen everyone in great relationships, married, and pregnant I was rushing to get there as well.

[starrjohnson]

I was attracting broken relationships. I got tired of the drama and walked away! God is working on me. These videos are so helpful😊

[Misskwu]

I just thank God for his reassurance of how he made me. I often ask myself “ is this God’s best “
and that question has helped me make better choices.

[hg]

As a new believer, I entertained them because even though I was focusing on my healing I was still not well enough. Also I'm my case, as a new believer, I was wooed and distracted by their anointing. I met 2 highly anointed men but sadly with terrible character flaws, deep mother issues and pride. Very controlling (overtly and passively aggressively). But I was broken too so I see the log in my eye and always will. My warning is do not entertain arrogant/prideful people nk matter how "nice" they seem. A person who cannot be corrected, has no accountability and can never see the error of their ways is not capable of a relationship. Some people want broken people to control them, my ex even encouraged me to drink when I was trying to be sober (happily sober now). You are not innocent if you only attract broken people you are likely codependant which is idolatry. Repentance is the first step. I trust God, I am sorry for my mistakes Lord, thank you for your guidance and mercy 🙏

[JessSoReal]

That’s good. Many of us are listening to our emotions more than the Holy Spirit.

[monicalanae]

I used to think I attracted broken people or people who "needed guidance " but two things that were mentioned in the video applied to me. One I was broken myself. I needed guidance and I thought if I helped people it would help me but eventually that stopped working because I would see them progress and I wouldnt. It hurt so bad because I was giving something that I wanted in return but they didn't have the capacity for it with me. But I wanted it to work until it didn't for either of us. I allowed those experiences and I had to come to terms with that with the help of the Lord. Two I tolerated people who weren't like me at all which fed my insecurities because it made me think something was wrong with me but really God didn't want me to be in those situations but I chose to stay. Listening to God was the best decision I made when I came to taking a break from seeking relationships or even just "talking" to guys with no true outcome because it gave me a lot more clarity on what I needed most which was God. It's not easy but I'm growing and maturing in God because I'm seeking him not something society pushes on us. Learning that whatever God wants for me is what's best for me not what I think is best for me. Who am I in comparison to Christ and his will.

[JessSoReal]

In a multitude of counselors there is safety.