This is what actively dying looks like hospice care

This is for educational purposes and I truly believe that understanding the process of end of life, the different stages, can better prepare us for what to expect and ultimately, reduce our fear and anxiety around end of life.

As mentioned in the video, trigger warning, there is video that shows the actively dying stage.

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00:00 Intro
01:25 Trigger Warning - Terminal Secretions
03:12 Trigger Warning - Changes in Breathing
05:25 Trigger Warning - Agonal Breathing

#endoflife #hospice #activelydying

[alicestimson]

When my sweet mother passed, there was nothing like this. She was not conscious, and we noticed her heartbeat showing in her neck and watched as it got slower and slower. When it stopped, she smiled the most precious smile and her little head just fell gently to one side. My brother had just commented to her, “ Mom, I wish we could see your sweet smile one last time”. It was quite a gift.

[mikeburgan]

My wife recently passed away, and I was prepared because of your videos. Thank You Julie

[JennyLynAlbers]

I just wanted to thank the family who allowed the video of their loved one to be shared. It's risky sharing that intimate moment on the Internet. My respect and gratitude to you.

[sissybellew]

My husband died recently and it was so peaceful. He had cancer in his neck so for the last few days he had a hard time talking. But around 10 that morning he told me he was going to die that day. He was so sweet to prepare me not to be scared or shocked. At 3:15 he told me I was beautiful. He then started looking up over my head. So I laid beside him with my head on his shoulder and chest, holding his hand, telling him I love him, and I was going to miss him. He squeezed my hand and even in death did not let go, and I noticed his heart not beating anymore. His eyes slowly closed. He was still holding my hand, it was peaceful. He wasn't scared to see God & his passed loved one's I love and miss him. I can't wait to see him again.

[ArwenNMyrtlesMom]

I had the privilege of attending both my parents’ deaths. I found it to be a beautiful experience. It was almost like birthing them into their next stage. It was a powerful full circle event. Thank you for educating people about the death process. And thank you to the family who allowed the footage of their loved one to be shared with us.

[slprmax]

On a serious note. Hospice nurses have my highest respect. Idk how you all do it. Thank you for being you and doing what you do during the most difficult time for people. You always have a special place in my heart

[dawnhasbroken]

I held my mom up, the death rattle was so awful. I was alone, there was a storm so nobody could get here. It was just me and mom. She died in my arms. Her hospice doctor was her piano student growing up so we were close, and I'm so thankful. She gave me tips and massive support. Not sure I'd do it again for someone else but I'm thankful I got to be here with my mom. I was honored she was in my home at the end. I can't believe its been 9 months already.

[sueblythe]

I've never seen a person pass. She was not in pain and I am thankful that you explained this to us. RIP dear lady.

[laurieleacobb]

I was with my grandmother when she passed, and it was exactly like this. I’ll never forget it. Honored to have been by her side.

[pamavery]

I’m an RN and this was very accurate. I’m glad to see the kind respectful videos donated by families used to educate people on the natural process of dying! Don’t be afraid, these people are comfortable and at peace! Thank you Julie for showing what we nurses see all of the time and are comfortable with.

[gillianc]

I’d just like to say how grateful I am to the family of the woman featured in your video, for allowing their videos to be used - and also that I’m very sorry for their loss. This sort of content is so important for educational purposes, but also for helping loosen the taboos around death that often only make things more difficult for the dying, and the bereaved loved ones left behind. Along with Nurse Julie herself, this family have done a very compassionate service to the community in contributing to this content. ❤

[melabling]

This is what my dad sounded like. However, right before he died he became almost lucid as he stared at someone or something over my left shoulder. I said oh daddy it’s time to see Jesus isn’t it and he slightly nodded his head! There was a small tear that went down the side of his cheek and I said it’s OK dad you can close your eyes now go to them and he closed his eyes so tight like a five-year-old would waiting for a surprise, I have the joy of getting to see him again in heaven!! praise God for his promises!!!!

[timothysherreyehler]

As a retired nurse in oncology, palliative care, and hospice, I applause you for the excellent video you shared to educate others on the stages seen prior to death. It's so important, Sherrey

[carollogue]

My Dad passed away in 1999. Wish I had known that all these phases of active dying were truly normal. It was horrific thinking my Dad was suffering minutes before his actual death. Thank you so much for this video. It has brought me much comfort.

[SweetHopeCookies]

My brother who died from ALS was similar to the second video but I’d also add there are exceptions (as there is to everything) in that my mom smiled at me, closed her eyes, and then died without a gasp or a pause. It was literally like she just fell asleep and I remain to this day grateful for the ease of her passing. Thanks to the family for their willingness to share such a personal moment in the collective life of their family.

[lisaleone]

My sister died in hospice from multiple organ failure after a massive bacterial infection at age 44. My parents and I sat with her for 7 days. For the last 3 days we watched as she took those deep sharp breaths and then didn't breathe out for close to 2 minutes at a time. For 3 days we thought each of those was going to be her last breath. Then she gasped and breathed again. I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone. When she finally died I cried long and hard and actually fell asleep on the hospice chair from exhaustion. The hospice nurses were amazing. They explained things as they were happening, and continued to check on not just my sister but US as well. God bless them.

[MarinaJBoyd]

I sat with my mom as she died a year ago, and she seemed very at peace. She was conscious to the end, but just got weaker and weaker, and faded away reporting no pain. She turned her eyes 45 degrees to look right at me seconds before she took her last breath when I said to her, "I'm sitting with you, like you wanted", (she had previously expressed she didn't want to die alone). She was 85, and everything felt in perfect order.

[kkovpds]

“ the more we know
the less we fear “

amen
thank you so much

[tammyt]

My husband passed in 2022 and hospice had given us reading material that showed the different phases. This was a lot like his breathing at the end. We were able to recognize the stages and realize he was not in pain. Thank you for all you do!

[JoeyImageYT]

I held my father's hand as he took his last breaths. He was like this his last 2 days. The 2 days before it he was exceptionally weak and was hard for him to talk, and a lot of it was just mumbling. But he, very clearly and perfectly said to me "I love you, kid. But remember, everybody dies. Everybody. I'm fighting to stay alive, but I can't fight much longer". Those were his last words. He passed very late at night, May 31 of 2018. I was such a fan of his hospice nurse. She was an absolute angel. She even came to the funeral, and I gave her a huge hug and just thanked her for doing her job and for her time. You nurses have my utmost respect, and are stronger than I could ever even hope to be.